Becca Tilley - Bachelor 19 - Discussion - #9

Yea I mean , there's nothing wrong with wanting a Hollywood career, Ali is doing it and she's still a nice person. It's just that I think what her parents and family wants for her isn't really lining up with what she does. You were very insistent about her not wanting to be in the limelight and not going on the show again, but she now is. What I see her doing comes across as wanting that career, despite what you say. Doesn't make her any less of a good person, just my observation.

Well, she certainly wasn't interested in moving to the farm to live in small town Iowa.  But Chris was no prince or prize...so I was willing to cut her slack there.  

However, a year later...I agree with y'all.  I have a hard time seeing her willing to give up her life in Cali, rubbing shoulders with the famous to live in Denver or even move back home.  Given her story/history in the love department, I just can't see how she thinks a second round of the show and the constricting time frame will allow her to fall in love for the first time ever...regardless of who the lead was.  I get why she didn't fall for Chris and know she's into Ben...but come on.  I just don't think I'll be able to buy into the act this time around.

I don't get the vibe that Becca necessarily wants to go Hollywood, I think that she just likes the attention and fame and I think she likes being around models, actresses, and socialites. Not much different than Tenley, actually. I could definitely see her giving up San Diego for Ben, just because being F1 and half of a bachelor couple is going to bring her a lot more fame and attention and opportunities than she has being a runner-up from a a year ago. I'm not completely cynical so I do think she actually could sees a life with Ben and doesn't just want him b/c of the opporitunities.

RammerJammer91 wrote:

KatCAli90 wrote:I feel like Becca has something to prove by going on the show again. She has seemed mad that she was portrayed as "boring" or "shy" , and like others here have said, like she tries really hard on snapchat to be "outgoing" and obnoxious. Even on here, if that was really her posting, she said "sorry I'm more outgoing and obnoxious in person" I think her edit this time will be completely different, and all about her trying to change everyone's boring opinion. Hopefully she realizes, that might not end well for her.

I definitely see her as one of the contestants that wants a career out of this for sure, doing appearances at iheart radio and photoshoots for different companies. She's also friends with quite a few actors and stuff. That's fine and everything, but don't think anyone wants to see Ben engaged to someone who wants to stay in La and pursue a hollywood career.

Ideally, she would like to live in the south when she gets married and raises a Family. You didn't hear this from me, but there's a decent chance she moves back to Louisiana in the next year or two.

Sorry, but I'm not really buying that. That may be what she tells people, but I don't see her actions corresponding to wanting so much to settle down and raising a family somewhere quiet. Down the line, perhaps, but as of now, she is seeking attention in her own way as much as Andi and Kaitlyn are. The sheer fact that she is doing this show over again after saying how the speed dating required didn't suit her personality, proves her at worst a liar or at best indecisive....and I don't care how much she likes Ben. She had already set up to meet Jared and changed her mind when discovered she is on the show and coming on here, is just the last straw. I am feeling as if she is trying to manipulate me and I never like that...no matter how nice a person she may be.

Yeah, I agree, Sprite. 
Only I don't think she is trying to manipulate me. (or anyone else)
I think she is trying to convince herself and in the process hoping everyone else will follow. 
I don't think she really knows what she wants and I am seeing this in her past actions/statements with her about face.

I can believe that she would move back home simply because she seems really close to her family and they're all there. Not sure she would move elsewhere for a guy though. Maybe if she really was in love, who knows. It's kind of hard to know what you'd be willing to do for love when you've never been in love.

Excellent, point, Mindless.

I cannot quote the source because I don't even remember if it was an written or videoed interview but CMIIW, did Ben not say he was not tied to Denver and would be willing to relocate anywhere??

rhondam wrote:I cannot quote the source because I don't even remember if it was an written or videoed interview but CMIIW, did Ben not say he was not tied to Denver and would be willing to relocate anywhere??

I remember the same thing. I definitely recall he was quoted as saying he is willing to move.

ETA: The Indiana native and software salesman, who currently resides in Denver, admitted he'd be willing to move for the love of his life if necessary. Read more at http://www.realitytvworld.com/news/the-bachelor-star-ben-higgins-opens-up-about-what-he-looking-for-in-girl-and-his-dream-date!-18437.php#dgW8zze3XohrUHG6.99

rhondam wrote:I cannot quote the source because I don't even remember if it was an written or videoed interview but CMIIW, did Ben not say he was not tied to Denver and would be willing to relocate anywhere??

Start planning your viewing parties now.
Ben Higgins was just officially named the next Bachelor and now, we already know when his televised journey to find love will begin. The Bachelor season 20 will premiere on Monday, Jan. 4, host Chris Harrison announced on After Paradise on Monday night.
But have viewers already met one of the contestants?! Sources told E! News in July that Ben was spending quality time with none other than Tenley Molzahn, a fan-favorite contestant from Jake Pavelka's season who appeared on Bachelor in Paradise this season. And guess what? Tenley decided to end her relationship with Joshua Albers in the BIP finale on Monday night, making us wonder if she might be pulling a Nick Viall and showing up to compete for Ben come January.
But a source tells us that the chances of Tenley appearing on The Bachelor again are slim to none. And much closer to none.

"She and Ben had the opportunity to get to know each other and I think if they connected on the level that Kaitlyn [Bristowe] and Nick did, it would be a different story," our source tells us. "Also, Tenley wants to be pursued, not the pursuer and she doesn't want to be put in the insecure position of competing with a bunch of girls."
Hey, after going through The Bachelor, Bachelor Pad and Bachelor in Paradise, can you really blame the girl?
And with no surprise suitors (or suitettes?) currently slated to stop by, our source says it's looking like it will be "a very straightforward season," adding, "As of now, there isn't anything out of the ordinary planned." Still, our source assures that good guy Ben H is different than Chris Soules (aka Prince Farming).

"Chris has a very set, solidified life, and he wanted a women who could fit in with it. Ben, of the other hand, is completely flexible. That's the advantage of him being so young," our source says of the 27-year-old software salesman. "He's not set in his ways. He could move, he could change careers. He's very open to new places and new experiences. I think if he found the right woman, he'd be open to doing anything and doing anywhere she wants."
As for what fans can expect from Ben now that he's going from contestant to Bachelor, our source says, "What you see is what you get. What you saw on Kaitlyn's season is very much who he is: straightforward with a great sense of humor."

http://www.eonline.com/news/693560/find-out-when-the-bachelor-with-ben-higgins-will-premiere-and-if-tenley-molzahn-is-joining-the-show

Why do they all keep saying he's 27??

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