Andi Dorfman - The Bachelorette 10 - Discussion - #4

^ Imho, it is hard for anyone to move forward when they have one foot (or tweet) in the past like Andi does.

Kashathediva wrote:Except she really has spent very little time in NYC. Since she's moved she is always traveling on vacay. I would be surprised if she has spent 60% of her time in NYC.

I have not been counting the days in the city versus the days out for business or vacation…can you help me there??

^ Even if she spent her entire time in NYC, imho, a new city does not a new person make.

It's what you do in the new city that you have moved to, that will define you. She's done pretty much nothing. So regardless of how tough it was to pack suitcases, find a place, move in, hang laundry in your kitchen, how much guts does it really take when you know you can always move back home or travel to Nashville or Mexico or where ever you want to go.

What do you want her to do? Go back to being a DA if
she hates it? ( i Know I know she said she was going to go back to Law but can't we all change our minds?) Stay in Atlanta when there are other opportunities elsewhere.

I am not a fan of Andi's but I don't understand why her moving and trying to try something different is such a horrible thing.

eliza3 wrote:

Kashathediva wrote:Except she really has spent very little time in NYC. Since she's moved she is always traveling on vacay. I would be surprised if she has spent 60% of her time in NYC.

I have not been counting the days in the city versus the days out for business or vacation…can you help me there??

I don't have an exact tally. Refer to when she moved.(March 2015?)  Then follow her stream of sm. It is a conservative estimation on my part to say she as been traveling a lot. I think she has flown out of town at least 5-6 times in less than 5 months being in NYC.

It's not a horrible thing at all. My opinion is it's not that tough to move to a new city when you can always go back to where you came from. It's not like she accepted a new job with a contract for a certain number of years, and needs income, or she's taken a transfer of a job to a new city where she is expected to remain for several years. It's not like she needs income. She has no idea what it's like to move to a new city, leave your family, because you have to work and you need the money.

I personally don't care what she does, IMO she isn't doing anything, so to me, moving to NYC is not a big huge adjustement that takes guts.

GuardianAngel wrote:It's what you do in the new city that you have moved to, that will define you. She's done pretty much nothing. So regardless of how tough it was to pack suitcases, find a place, move in, hang laundry in your kitchen, how much guts does it really take when you know you can always move back home or travel to Nashville or Mexico or where ever you want to go.

She has done nothing based on SM?? I am unclear as to what work she is doing. I don't think we can definitely determine what someone is doing based on SM.

If someone has accurate information not he fact that she is doing "nothing" in NYC I will definitely change my mind

Imho, growing and moving forward would entail Andi putting some distance between her and her past exes and this show and focusing on her other passions instead of using SM as a way to give her two cents on another girl's season. That's jmo though.

Also, nothing wrong with changing careers or not knowing what you want to do with your life but growing and moving forward is more than just about changing cities or career aspirations, it means growing up -- something that takes place internally, no matter where one is. jmho

Kashathediva wrote:

eliza3 wrote:

Kashathediva wrote:Except she really has spent very little time in NYC. Since she's moved she is always traveling on vacay. I would be surprised if she has spent 60% of her time in NYC.

I have not been counting the days in the city versus the days out for business or vacation…can you help me there??

I don't have an exact tally. Refer to when she moved.(March 2015?)  Then follow her stream of sm. It is a conservative estimation on my part to say she as been traveling a lot. I think she has flown out of town at least 5-6 times in less than 5 months being in NYC.

This is what I find interesting. So many people on this show have changed their professions post productions. You don't have to have a contract any more, People work from home (as my children do) or travel several times a month (as my husband does) to make a living. The times are changing as are work environments. To assume that Andi isn't working because she doesn't have a 9 - 5 contract doesn't make sense to me.

Sweet dear adored Catherine Lowe is working from home, but I don't see people talking about what a horrible person she is. Ashley I is a blogger that works from home, but I don't hear people talking about her lack of work. I think we have no idea what Andi is actual doing, the odd hours she may be working, etc.

I understand that people are angry, disappointed, upset for what happened on the show, but to hate what she is doing now without truly understanding exactly what she is doing makes no sense to me JMHO

^ Not sure exactly but I think most people who don't particularly care for Andi don't really care what Andi does for a job/career and the growing/improving issue is more about who she is rather than what she does or where she lives? (at least it is for me).

Andi's subtweets about Josh and Nick are just the kind of stuff you can expect from a high schooler. Andi seems to be one of the messiest grudge holders in this franchise -- imho if you keep holding onto bitterness to make u feel like ur better than ppl there's very little growth and self-reflection happening in ur life....