Married At First Sight - Season 2 - Ryan DeNino - Jessica Castro - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

jlccaz wrote:

watchTV3 wrote:Jessica got hard done by the « experts ». Ryan is not emotionally mature enough to build a solid relationship. I think he really likes her but:
1) He is immature
2)  He probably think he is better than Jessica physically, intellectually and in terms of achievement
3) He has a vile temper
4) He seems to be preoccupied with being seen as « soft » hence retorts to stupid games to show affection.
And the previews don’t look better. She looks depressed in her talking head.
I hope that the production is doing some crazy editing work because otherwise I don’t think they should stay together. He doesn’t deserve her from what I see of his behavior. JMHO

On Jess/Ryan -- I thought her hurt stemmed also from the relationship history where her former fiancé's family did not think she was good enough for him.  Maybe he was a lawyer (she's a legal receptionist, etc.).  So she shared that history with him, and then he flippantly throws out a word like trashy, not intending to hurt, but it must have stirred up old feelings of inadequacy ... in a guy so far she likes, is "crushing on" etc.  He has a long way to go to be a husband, but perhaps he sees enough qualities in her, that he allows the Experts and the Experiment to work some changes on him.

As of Episode 4, I'm a skeptic of his ability and motivation to do that ... which is a different question than whether Jess will ask to divorce at the end of The Experiment.  

Both he and Sean have an awful lot of talking points about what makes someone a good husband and how much they want a committed, trusting marriage, but these little speeches feel more and more canned and not connected to their own personalities or dispositions, as they are aired again and again (same film clip often, I recognize),  These sentiments feel aspirational (like Monet saying she wants a man like her Dad), and not real to me.  I think he wants a relationship like his grandparents but at his age (he acts 17) he has displayed none of the characteristics that show he has a clue how to "get there."  We all "want" that sort of marriage.  Knowing that these exist and being able to do that day to day (requires discipline, habit, and biting one's tongue a lot) are two very different things.  

Part of building your own strong marriage is letting go of overly idealized notions about other people's marriages, starting with parents and grandparents.  

Sean is a pleaser ("please like me like me like me") in terms of what comes out of his mouth, but I think the inside is all messed up with anger and insecurity.  She is constantly giving him "feedback," and you wonder what is really running through his head or heart as she is dishing out the (criticisms) and rules for how he must in the future act around her (!).  I thought her behavior was pretty ridiculous last night, even allowing for the Experiment and the Cameras.  But she is not wrong about some red flags as well.  

For each of these couples, it is completely apparent "why they are still single," which is also true of The Bachelor/ette franchise programs.

GuardianAngel wrote:

watchTV3 wrote:Jessica got hard done by the « experts ». Ryan is not emotionally mature enough to build a solid relationship. I think he really likes her but:
1) He is immature
2)  He probably think he is better than Jessica physically, intellectually and in terms of achievement
3) He has a vile temper
4) He seems to be preoccupied with being seen as « soft » hence retorts to stupid games to show affection.
And the previews don’t look better. She looks depressed in her talking head.
I hope that the production is doing some crazy editing work because otherwise I don’t think they should stay together. He doesn’t deserve her from what I see of his behavior. JMHO

watchTV3 ! Great first post!

Brill wrote:From Jess:

Jessica Castro

1 min
We Are Born To Be REAL! NOT Perfect! And @RyanDenino & I Are Far From Perfect. We Are Learning From & About Each Other. So Please Lets Be Nice To Him! ‪#‎MarriedAtFirstSight‬ ‪#‎IGotYourBackBoo‬ A&E FYI Television Network Married At First Sight

Brill wrote:From Jess:

Jessica Castro

1 min
We Are Born To Be REAL! NOT Perfect! And @RyanDenino & I Are Far From Perfect. We Are Learning From & About Each Other. So Please Lets Be Nice To Him! ‪#‎MarriedAtFirstSight‬ ‪#‎IGotYourBackBoo‬ A&E FYI Television Network Married At First Sight

Steel2009 wrote:

Brill wrote:From Jess:

Jessica Castro

1 min
We Are Born To Be REAL! NOT Perfect! And @RyanDenino & I Are Far From Perfect. We Are Learning From & About Each Other. So Please Lets Be Nice To Him! ‪#‎MarriedAtFirstSight‬ ‪#‎IGotYourBackBoo‬ A&E FYI Television Network Married At First Sight

Did she tweet this?  I think she deleted it...

wharfrat wrote:   Imagine Ms. Castro's friend, brothers, relatives watching this jerk and his antics. The community she comes from takes care of their own. He calls a piercing trashy when he's covered with tats. Remember when the expert did her home visit he wore a long sleeve sweater because he's smart enough to realize the sociologist might have found his tats trashy. Just as in a job interview you always cover your tats. What else did he cover up? Did he answer the questions truthfully. Did the experts really investigate him on social media? Not hard to do and the pictures of this guy in real life prior to this experiment say trashy out loud.
   Was the trashy word offered on his part subliminally to describe himself or was it used to put Ms. Castro in an inferior position? He dominated her physically on the honeymoon and the wedding night with the consummation of the marriage. Is the second stage emotional domination? With the bully  theme of the other couple, Is he the bully in the end?