Becca Tilley - Bachelor 19 - Discussion - #8

Chrisbecca wrote:

ElonM wrote:

Hopefully wrote:Well I asked close to 40 men where im at to watch the FRC and the after the F rose and then I asked them to watch the GMA Kelly and few others. Then I asked there HO on the whole thing. Mind you they didn't care about the show but they did it anyways cause we had a little time off.  . This is what almost everyone of them said. 1 ) W was not who he wanted. C took the easy way out. 2 ) they don't see a marriage. And he really wanted B and they said she was lucky and got out and he still does he probly dreams of her after seeing her at ATFR. Then they said this  W where's the pants in that home you can tell by the way C looks around and has little eye contact when she talks. So if he likes that kinda thing then go him. But most men want to be equal not below someone and the guys all said the same thing by the BL between them they are not on the same page. Wow. Now grant you this is just there HO on what they see. Oh then they went on to say if she wants a real man she can come there . And I live in the state where it's like 20 men per 1 women .

Good research work.

I'm a bit disappointed cause I saw a different side of Chris when he was with Becca. Now he's not as appealing to me.

Ive been saying the same.....when Chris is with Whitney she is the dominant one and its like he becomes a wimp. On the other hand, when he is with Becca he is the dominant one, and he acts like a real man.  Its the oddest thing to witness how this aspect of his personality changes between the two women.   He totally loses his appeal with Whitney!  YUCK!

Mommyof1 wrote:This is Becca's thread.

whit90 wrote:

Mommyof1 wrote:This is Becca's thread.

Yes I was confused after reading some post even had to look up thread to see if I was on Becca's thread .

Aunties_Love wrote:

lexforlife wrote:Actually the top 5 of this season have all been class acts. I was quite impressed. Where is Auntie's love. I haven't seen her since the finale.

I am around Lex, just had a lot of personal stuff to deal with.   Sometimes personal life takes over.

Mommyof1 wrote:Tilley says of an enamored Soules (who pleaded, "I want everything you can give me"), "I wished I could have told him what he needed to hear. But it would have been unfair of me. With him sitting there, begging me, it would have been so easy for me to just be like, 'Okay, I am in love with you.' But if I lied about how I was feeling, it was just going to be a disservice to us when it was all over."

http://www.people.com/article/bachelor-finale-runner-up-becca-reacts-chris-decision-whitney


These are Becca's actual words, which seem pretty strong if it was always going to be Whitney.  JMO.

whit90 wrote:

Mommyof1 wrote:This is Becca's thread.

Yes I was confused after reading some post even had to look up thread to see if I was on Becca's thread .

Pia1 wrote:

Mommyof1 wrote:Tilley says of an enamored Soules (who pleaded, "I want everything you can give me"), "I wished I could have told him what he needed to hear. But it would have been unfair of me. With him sitting there, begging me, it would have been so easy for me to just be like, 'Okay, I am in love with you.' But if I lied about how I was feeling, it was just going to be a disservice to us when it was all over."

http://www.people.com/article/bachelor-finale-runner-up-becca-reacts-chris-decision-whitney


These are Becca's actual words, which seem pretty strong if it was always going to be Whitney.  JMO.

That's the point I was trying to get across. I strongly believe that he would've chosen Becca if she had given him any indication that she would accept a proposal.imo. This is why I admire her more because a person with weaker convictions would've caved in.

But anyway, it's all done with so I'm excited to see what Becca is going to do next. A lot of opportunities will probably come her way and I'm sure that she will choose wisely. imo.

notarose wrote:I finally watched the last epi.
I really liked Becca's story arc. IMO it showed the important, for some women, to be able to have the freedom to say things that are not what their partner want to hear and know that their partner is committed enough for that to not be a deal breaker if what they say is reasonable.  
I do believe Becca's talk about the constraints of the show timeline was reasonable and that Chris being unable to commit to her needs just meant that he was not the guy for her.  A man is sometimes called upon to fight outside forces for his woman so continuing with Becca but not proposing would have been a battle with TPTB. 
I thought the argument of "we are just in different places in our lives" was tepid at best.  They were in the same place in terms of "falling in love". He was just more driven in terms of the "end game" and when that should happen.  
For me, Becca represents the importance of making a decision about marriage based on her feelings rather than his. She showed vulnerability by clearly letting him know where she was at throughout the course of the "journey" yet remained strong by being truthful despite understanding the risk. If she takes this skill into her next relationship and her new guy stands by her then she will have something unwavering  

Mommyof1 wrote:

whit90 wrote:

Mommyof1 wrote:This is Becca's thread.

Yes I was confused after reading some post even had to look up thread to see if I was on Becca's thread .

Remember that Becca has a fan thread too!    It's my safe haven.