Bachelor 19 - Chris Soules - FD- LCD - FRC - F1/2/3 - *Spoilers & Sleuthing* - Discussion

happygolucky wrote:I'm not opposed to Whitney leading.
It is just that, I notice Chris is still being "on guard" with Whitney, like he doesn't truly believe she could accept all of him. It's the expression I see when I observe him in her presence. It is almost like what Andi was dealing with last year with that "too good to be true".
Only that in this case the issue is not Whitney and his trust in her, but his confidence, the trust to be good enough himself. It's almost like she is on the pedestal and he is catching up.
Of course every woman wants to be desired, loved and "worshiped" by her husband. But both need to feel equal to have a healthy relationship. At the end it's great that one can feel blessed for having the amazing partner, but without underestimating oneself.
As for now, I'm still not seeing Chris being completely himself (I don't mean that he isn't real and genuine), he is careful how he talks, what he says, how he moves and studying her reaction. And Whitney here is not responsible, since she is absolutely honest, open, straightforward, blatantly admitting and demonstrating her affection and love for him. But I feel that once he reaches that stage of "confidence", he will also initiate things and she won't be leading all the time.

sophienette wrote:

happygolucky wrote:I'm not opposed to Whitney leading.
It is just that, I notice Chris is still being "on guard" with Whitney, like he doesn't truly believe she could accept all of him. It's the expression I see when I observe him in her presence. It is almost like what Andi was dealing with last year with that "too good to be true".
Only that in this case the issue is not Whitney and his trust in her, but his confidence, the trust to be good enough himself. It's almost like she is on the pedestal and he is catching up.
Of course every woman wants to be desired, loved and "worshiped" by her husband. But both need to feel equal to have a healthy relationship. At the end it's great that one can feel blessed for having the amazing partner, but without underestimating oneself.
As for now, I'm still not seeing Chris being completely himself (I don't mean that he isn't real and genuine), he is careful how he talks, what he says, how he moves and studying her reaction. And Whitney here is not responsible, since she is absolutely honest, open, straightforward, blatantly admitting and demonstrating her affection and love for him. But I feel that once he reaches that stage of "confidence", he will also initiate things and she won't be leading all the time.

I agree with all the above.

my hope for them, is she is F1, is the 50 words following the sneak peek we have of their dinner convo on living in Arlington.
I think that is the crux of Chris' behaviour: he has said before and after filming that he wants an accomplished, professional, passionate, mature woman. But he knows this type of women mroe often than not want to live in  cities (Chicago in W's case!) and I think he just doesnt believe she would dump it all for his love.
When she is looking like she is saying her career is too important for her to think about leaving it behind and move to Arlington, like TPTB wants us to believe, he is listening but doesnt look surprised, like that is what he is expecting.

I think whatever she says next and how she says it are going to be the key. I will be looking very very closely at his face when that is aired, and I expect him to look like a 6 year old on Christmas day  or a 16 year old being given a Ferrari as his first car!  :Auto:

Kashathediva wrote:Well, if it were me, I would be working during the week perhaps taking a little time off early on Friday and flying out every weekend per ABC's dime. 
She can't be with him when he is practicing.

Cameron2 wrote:I would bet money that Chris would never make that decision on his own. It appears to me that Whitneys attitude would be the deciding factor. They both seem to be risk takers and love new experiences, and I would bet they jointly make such a decision. I could see great joy from both of them if they experienced DWTS. Lots of room for personal growth for the both of them, as she is highly regarded along with him.

stuckinsc wrote:

Kashathediva wrote:Well, if it were me, I would be working during the week perhaps taking a little time off early on Friday and flying out every weekend per ABC's dime. 
She can't be with him when he is practicing.

This is why I really hope he doesn't do DWTS. I would respect him a lot more if he focused more on growing his new relationship.