Bachelorette 10 - Andi Dorfman - Episode 8 - HTDs - Jul 07/14 *Spoilers & Sleuthing* - Discussion

ironcat wrote:I also think that if Nick's parents were concerned that their little girl was so sensitive or would be so affected by something that Andi might say or promise, they probably would not have given the producers permission to orchestrate that scene where she "grills" the Bachelorette in the first place.

ironcat wrote:I really doubt that a 9 year old was traumatized because some woman she met for a few hours asked her that question.  Even if Andi flat out told her "I'm marrying your brother", it would mean nothing to her (nothing real anyway), and she probably forgot about it by the next day, IMO.  Just like Ty Mesnick was not traumatized in the least by the fact that his father did the show twice and proposed to 3 different women within a year.  From my experience, kids are incredibly resilient and don't get all bent out of shape by things people say who they barely know.

I also think that if Nick's parents were concerned that their little girl was so sensitive or would be so affected by something that Andi might say or promise, they probably would not have given the producers permission to orchestrate that scene where she "grills" the Bachelorette in the first place.

2observe wrote:IC, did someone say something about Nick's sister being traumatized??  I was wondering if Andi asking his sister if she would accept her as a sister was a possible clue to whether Nick is F1.

2observe wrote:

ironcat wrote:I really doubt that a 9 year old was traumatized because some woman she met for a few hours asked her that question.  Even if Andi flat out told her "I'm marrying your brother", it would mean nothing to her (nothing real anyway), and she probably forgot about it by the next day, IMO.  Just like Ty Mesnick was not traumatized in the least by the fact that his father did the show twice and proposed to 3 different women within a year.  From my experience, kids are incredibly resilient and don't get all bent out of shape by things people say who they barely know.

I also think that if Nick's parents were concerned that their little girl was so sensitive or would be so affected by something that Andi might say or promise, they probably would not have given the producers permission to orchestrate that scene where she "grills" the Bachelorette in the first place.

IC, did someone say something about Nick's sister being traumatized??  I was wondering if Andi asking his sister if she would accept her as a sister was a possible clue to whether Nick is F1.

happygolucky wrote:

2observe wrote:IC, did someone say something about Nick's sister being traumatized??  I was wondering if Andi asking his sister if she would accept her as a sister was a possible clue to whether Nick is F1.

I wonder that too. - Since I haven't seen the scene yet (waiting till tomorrow morning to watch the show) I only deduct from all of your comments what the conversation is about.

Ash2214 wrote:I think sometimes people forget that the lead is doing a job. Yes, they're trying to fall in love, but they're there to do a job too. That's the reason why most of them get paid at least $50,000. This is a job which includes acting and so forth. I do think for all leads there are certainly feelings involved especially with their F4, but the leads are being told to say certain things and do certain things. It's the way this silly show goes and that's the reason why the real relationship starts once filming has ended and perhaps even after the airing of the episodes has ended.  

relaxing wrote:

Ash2214 wrote:I think sometimes people forget that the lead is doing a job. Yes, they're trying to fall in love, but they're there to do a job too. That's the reason why most of them get paid at least $50,000. This is a job which includes acting and so forth. I do think for all leads there are certainly feelings involved especially with their F4, but the leads are being told to say certain things and do certain things. It's the way this silly show goes and that's the reason why the real relationship starts once filming has ended and perhaps even after the airing of the episodes has ended.  

And to be real about it - some of the contestants are too, they're just not paid.  Interns if you will hoping to nab the top spot next year.  There's no way all the people who say they've fallen in love with the lead really have IMO.  But they need 4 guys for HTDs then 3 for FD etc.  Perfect case in point Andi last season.  She did her job until she didn't have to anymore.

ironcat wrote:

2observe wrote:

ironcat wrote:I really doubt that a 9 year old was traumatized because some woman she met for a few hours asked her that question.  Even if Andi flat out told her "I'm marrying your brother", it would mean nothing to her (nothing real anyway), and she probably forgot about it by the next day, IMO.  Just like Ty Mesnick was not traumatized in the least by the fact that his father did the show twice and proposed to 3 different women within a year.  From my experience, kids are incredibly resilient and don't get all bent out of shape by things people say who they barely know.

I also think that if Nick's parents were concerned that their little girl was so sensitive or would be so affected by something that Andi might say or promise, they probably would not have given the producers permission to orchestrate that scene where she "grills" the Bachelorette in the first place.

IC, did someone say something about Nick's sister being traumatized??  I was wondering if Andi asking his sister if she would accept her as a sister was a possible clue to whether Nick is F1.

Sorry, my mistake.  I thought someone, maybe not you, compared Andi making that comment to Meredith telling Matt she would be honored to accept a ring, ie, in both cases, it was "unforgiveable" to lead him/her on like that.  My point was that in the case of a child, that kind of comment rolls right off their back and they aren't "traumatized" by being let down.

nutty1 wrote:That was me who brought up Mer and Matt. I understand the lead has to do things, but there have been a few instances that truly bothered me, and that was one of them.