Re: Josh Murray - Bachelorette 10 Contestant - Spoilers - Discussion - Thread #2

by Guest Mon Jun 02, 2014 5:36 pm

SafronSahara wrote:Graham Bunn talks like that too! It must be a Southern boy quirk. The southern twang and the deepness in Murray's voice is kind of sexy to me though.

I've noticed with Graham too. It's not a southern thing though. Definitely not. I hear it all the time in South Florida. It's a urban thing. I know. Some of my family (men) speak the same way. So dam* annoying.

by Iam4UGA Mon Jun 02, 2014 5:39 pm

eversotrue wrote:
SafronSahara wrote:Graham Bunn talks like that too! It must be a Southern boy quirk. The southern twang and the deepness in Murray's voice is kind of sexy to me though.

I've noticed with Graham too. It's not a southern thing though. Definitely not. I hear it all the time in South Florida. It's a urban thing. I know. Some of my family (men) speak the same way. So dam* annoying.

Respectfully, South Florida is not the same South as Athens. Athens is waaayyy more country and does not have the Northern Transplants.

by nannymargie Mon Jun 02, 2014 5:42 pm

Piper61 wrote:You can take the boy out of the south, but you can't always take the south of the boy. Living in the south for as long as I have, southern twang goes by unnoticed to me.

Being from the south I do not notice his accent or Andi saying ya'll. So it does not bother me at all. He has a deeper voice so maybe it comes out more but I am not sure.

by Guest Mon Jun 02, 2014 5:45 pm

Iam4UGA wrote:
eversotrue wrote:
SafronSahara wrote:Graham Bunn talks like that too! It must be a Southern boy quirk. The southern twang and the deepness in Murray's voice is kind of sexy to me though.

I've noticed with Graham too. It's not a southern thing though. Definitely not. I hear it all the time in South Florida. It's a urban thing. I know. Some of my family (men) speak the same way. So dam* annoying.

Respectfully, South Florida is not the same South as Athens. Athens is waaayyy more country and does not have he Northern Transplants.

I understand. I'm talking more for the "brotha" side as opposed to the twangy side. He speaks very Urbany. Very much like he listens to quite a bit of rap/RnB or something.

by Iam4UGA Mon Jun 02, 2014 5:49 pm

eversotrue wrote:
Iam4UGA wrote:
eversotrue wrote:
SafronSahara wrote:Graham Bunn talks like that too! It must be a Southern boy quirk. The southern twang and the deepness in Murray's voice is kind of sexy to me though.

I've noticed with Graham too. It's not a southern thing though. Definitely not. I hear it all the time in South Florida. It's a urban thing. I know. Some of my family (men) speak the same way. So dam* annoying.

Respectfully, South Florida is not the same South as Athens. Athens is waaayyy more country and does not have he Northern Transplants.

I understand. I'm talking more for the "brotha" side as opposed to the twangy side. He speaks very Urbany. Very much like he listens to quite a bit of rap/RnB or something.

Yeah, he probably does. The football team could be the influence of that.

by bleuberry Tue Jun 03, 2014 3:05 am

As cute as they are together, and I loved their little one on one time, I feel like I got glimpses tonight of them butting heads when the real test begins. Hope I'm wrong and that the hoopla of the show makes them come off as difficult and weirdly intense.

by soccermom333 Tue Jun 03, 2014 3:13 am

bleuberry wrote:As cute as they are together, and I loved their little one on one time, I feel like I got glimpses tonight of them butting heads when the real test begins. Hope I'm wrong and that the hoopla of the show makes them come off as difficult and weirdly intense.

I really wish they already had their first date. I believe that will be very telling. I will be looking for clues in their conversation/emotional connection, and in their physical connection--- which so far is off the charts.

by Alanna Tue Jun 03, 2014 7:57 am

bleuberry wrote:As cute as they are together, and I loved their little one on one time, I feel like I got glimpses tonight of them butting heads when the real test begins. Hope I'm wrong and that the hoopla of the show makes them come off as difficult and weirdly intense.

ITA. Those tempers are going to flay each other unless both of them work hard at it. I do think he's f1 but I also fear she didn't have any great option (Marcus is young, Nick is a Kmart shopper, Chris is a farmer), went with what she knew and it's going to end like always for her. Hope he's not a cheater at least.

by docnash14 Tue Jun 03, 2014 9:39 am

Alanna wrote:
bleuberry wrote:As cute as they are together, and I loved their little one on one time, I feel like I got glimpses tonight of them butting heads when the real test begins. Hope I'm wrong and that the hoopla of the show makes them come off as difficult and weirdly intense.
ITA. Those tempers are going to flay each other unless both of them work hard at it. I do think he's f1 but I also fear she didn't have any great option (Marcus is young, Nick is a Kmart shopper, Chris is a farmer), went with what she knew and it's going to end like always for her. Hope he's not a cheater at least.

I agree that it will be important for them, if Josh is indeed F1, to work on ways of expressing anger so that their styles don't collide (anger in and of itself is not bad; in fact, it serves an important function in that it allows us to stand up/assert ourselves; it's the way we express it or repress it that gets us into trouble).

That being said, I see potential in their pairing. I am reminded of one of my favorite passages from the book Conversations with God where the author asks God the purpose of a committed intimate relationship such as marriage. God responds, "that's an easy question - one purpose and one purpose only -to help each other become who you really are."

The need to be in control is not a reflection of who we really are but rather the armor we wear to protect ourselves. If Andi is able to shed her self-admitted need to control, she will take a significant step toward authenticity and consequently toward true intimacy which by definition is the exposure of the real selves. I can see Josh being able to help her challenge/confront her need for control.

by jcrbil Tue Jun 03, 2014 9:44 am

docnash14 wrote:
Alanna wrote:
bleuberry wrote:As cute as they are together, and I loved their little one on one time, I feel like I got glimpses tonight of them butting heads when the real test begins. Hope I'm wrong and that the hoopla of the show makes them come off as difficult and weirdly intense.
ITA. Those tempers are going to flay each other unless both of them work hard at it. I do think he's f1 but I also fear she didn't have any great option (Marcus is young, Nick is a Kmart shopper, Chris is a farmer), went with what she knew and it's going to end like always for her. Hope he's not a cheater at least.

I agree that it will be important for them, if Josh is indeed F1, to work on ways of expressing anger so that their styles don't collide (anger in and of itself is not bad; in fact, it serves an important function in that it allows us to stand up/assert ourselves; it's the way we express it or repress it that gets us into trouble).

That being said, I see potential in their pairing. I am reminded of one of my favorite passages from the book Conversations with God where the author asks God the purpose of a committed intimate relationship such as marriage. God responds, "that's an easy question - one purpose and one purpose only -to help each other become who you really are."

The need to be in control is not a reflection of who we really are but rather the armor we wear to protect ourselves. If Andi is able to shed her self-admitted need to control, she will take a significant step toward authenticity and consequently toward true intimacy which by definition is the exposure of the real selves. I can see Josh being able to help her challenge/confront her need for control.

Well said, Doc.

by **GuardianAngel** Tue Jun 03, 2014 9:54 am

jcrbil wrote:
docnash14 wrote:
Alanna wrote:
bleuberry wrote:As cute as they are together, and I loved their little one on one time, I feel like I got glimpses tonight of them butting heads when the real test begins. Hope I'm wrong and that the hoopla of the show makes them come off as difficult and weirdly intense.
ITA. Those tempers are going to flay each other unless both of them work hard at it. I do think he's f1 but I also fear she didn't have any great option (Marcus is young, Nick is a Kmart shopper, Chris is a farmer), went with what she knew and it's going to end like always for her. Hope he's not a cheater at least.

I agree that it will be important for them, if Josh is indeed F1, to work on ways of expressing anger so that their styles don't collide (anger in and of itself is not bad; in fact, it serves an important function in that it allows us to stand up/assert ourselves; it's the way we express it or repress it that gets us into trouble).

That being said, I see potential in their pairing. I am reminded of one of my favorite passages from the book Conversations with God where the author asks God the purpose of a committed intimate relationship such as marriage. God responds, "that's an easy question - one purpose and one purpose only -to help each other become who you really are."

The need to be in control is not a reflection of who we really are but rather the armor we wear to protect ourselves. If Andi is able to shed her self-admitted need to control, she will take a significant step toward authenticity and consequently toward true intimacy which by definition is the exposure of the real selves. I can see Josh being able to help her challenge/confront her need for control.

Well said, Doc.

I love this post. The biggest challenge Andi has IMO, is she doesn't listen. Therefore anyone trying to help her become who she really is, is going to be a challenge for them.

by nannymargie Tue Jun 03, 2014 10:06 am

docnash14 wrote:
Alanna wrote:
bleuberry wrote:As cute as they are together, and I loved their little one on one time, I feel like I got glimpses tonight of them butting heads when the real test begins. Hope I'm wrong and that the hoopla of the show makes them come off as difficult and weirdly intense.
ITA. Those tempers are going to flay each other unless both of them work hard at it. I do think he's f1 but I also fear she didn't have any great option (Marcus is young, Nick is a Kmart shopper, Chris is a farmer), went with what she knew and it's going to end like always for her. Hope he's not a cheater at least.

I agree that it will be important for them, if Josh is indeed F1, to work on ways of expressing anger so that their styles don't collide (anger in and of itself is not bad; in fact, it serves an important function in that it allows us to stand up/assert ourselves; it's the way we express it or repress it that gets us into trouble).

That being said, I see potential in their pairing. I am reminded of one of my favorite passages from the book Conversations with God where the author asks God the purpose of a committed intimate relationship such as marriage. God responds, "that's an easy question - one purpose and one purpose only -to help each other become who you really are."

The need to be in control is not a reflection of who we really are but rather the armor we wear to protect ourselves. If Andi is able to shed her self-admitted need to control, she will take a significant step toward authenticity and consequently toward true intimacy which by definition is the exposure of the real selves. I can see Josh being able to help her challenge/confront her need for control.

Great Post clapping!

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