Episode 10 (Finale Part 1) - 7/29 - Bachelorette 9 - Discussion - Spoilers

dw_a_mom wrote:My thought watching last night's episode is that I'm not comfortable with what Brooks thinks (according to what was shown) love is supposed to feel like.  Pain?  In my experience that was a sign that a relationship was NOT meeting your needs, and that what you felt wasn't healthy.  I believe that when you fall in love with the right person, it feels good, it feels secure.  I think he was looking for a feeling with Des that doesn't belong with real love.

Now, the whole idea that you have to feel love after being together for less a sum total of 24 - 48 hours is ridiculous.  I do think he would know if he wasn't feeling "it" at all, and wasn't going to, but as I said above, I worry that he's been looking for the wrong feelings to start with, that he seems to need a relationship to be unhealthy.

Lol, as if I could know anything based on an edited show of people I don't know!  But, truly, that was the story I was seeing.

So, in my thinking, that is the window that could be walked through for him to change his mind.  He could realize that what him and Des are starting is healthy and positive, while what he has assumed he should feel is unhealthy and negative.

Odds of them making it regardless?  Pretty darn slim.  But I was really taken back by his description of what love should feel like, and I'm curious if others could relate to it.

northernviewer wrote:

dw_a_mom wrote:My thought watching last night's episode is that I'm not comfortable with what Brooks thinks (according to what was shown) love is supposed to feel like.  Pain?  In my experience that was a sign that a relationship was NOT meeting your needs, and that what you felt wasn't healthy.  I believe that when you fall in love with the right person, it feels good, it feels secure.  I think he was looking for a feeling with Des that doesn't belong with real love.

Now, the whole idea that you have to feel love after being together for less a sum total of 24 - 48 hours is ridiculous.  I do think he would know if he wasn't feeling "it" at all, and wasn't going to, but as I said above, I worry that he's been looking for the wrong feelings to start with, that he seems to need a relationship to be unhealthy.

Lol, as if I could know anything based on an edited show of people I don't know!  But, truly, that was the story I was seeing.

So, in my thinking, that is the window that could be walked through for him to change his mind.  He could realize that what him and Des are starting is healthy and positive, while what he has assumed he should feel is unhealthy and negative.

Odds of them making it regardless?  Pretty darn slim.  But I was really taken back by his description of what love should feel like, and I'm curious if others could relate to it.

I said awhile ago, and regardless of how the show ends, I don't think Brooks ever entered the state of what's been termed the "Bachelor Bubble".  

dw_a_mom wrote:My thought watching last night's episode is that I'm not comfortable with what Brooks thinks (according to what was shown) love is supposed to feel like.  Pain?  In my experience that was a sign that a relationship was NOT meeting your needs, and that what you felt wasn't healthy.  I believe that when you fall in love with the right person, it feels good, it feels secure.  I think he was looking for a feeling with Des that doesn't belong with real love.

Now, the whole idea that you have to feel love after being together for less a sum total of 24 - 48 hours is ridiculous.  I do think he would know if he wasn't feeling "it" at all, and wasn't going to, but as I said above, I worry that he's been looking for the wrong feelings to start with, that he seems to need a relationship to be unhealthy.

Lol, as if I could know anything based on an edited show of people I don't know!  But, truly, that was the story I was seeing.

So, in my thinking, that is the window that could be walked through for him to change his mind.  He could realize that what him and Des are starting is healthy and positive, while what he has assumed he should feel is unhealthy and negative.

Odds of them making it regardless?  Pretty darn slim.  But I was really taken back by his description of what love should feel like, and I'm curious if others could relate to it.

atem wrote:The problem is that everyone was telling Desiree they loved her after the first week!

Kashathediva wrote:Will you marry me = hey wanna hang out after the show? Play your cards right and you can cheer me on for DWTS!

ImeldaMarcos wrote:I really think that Brooks is not the best communicator - DUH. I think he was trying to articulate that when you are not with the one you love, missing them can hurt - be painful - longing - angst, whatevs. He is all broody and Heathcliffy and somewhat depressive, at least by his edit. I have no earthly idea if the man loves her, doesn't love her, could love her - no clue.