Jillian Harris & Justin Pasutto - Bachelorette 5 - Discussion

Honestly, I just don't understand his thought process. He's "ready" to knock her up and have a baby that will tie them together for the rest of their lives, he's "ready" to live with her in her big beautiful house in a marriage-like relationship, but he's not "ready" to make a lifelong commitment, which she desperately wants, in front of their family and friends? Even if the piece of paper isn't important to him, it means everything to her, so unless he's secretly planning on bailing out in a few years, I don't get why he wouldn't willingly do this for her, if he really loved her. The fact that she had to beg him for it just makes me so sad.

I actually strongly dislike him so I can't even bring myself to give him the benefit of the doubt. I'm surprised how much it bothers me that she's now stuck with him . Ugh.

Yeah. We don't know what the circumstances are behind the conception/pregnancy. Was it planned? Did he want this? Was he ready? IDK. Or was it a surprise to him? If he wasn't ready for this, maybe he still wasn't ready for that.
Anyway, I wish him the best. As always it takes two to tango. So if he was wishy washy and she wasn't, well she may end up doing a lot of his wash half heartedly.

Eagle Eye wrote:Honestly, I just don't understand his thought process. He's "ready" to knock her up and have a baby that will tie them together for the rest of their lives, he's "ready" to live with her in her big beautiful house in a marriage-like relationship, but he's not "ready" to make a lifelong commitment, which she desperately wants, in front of their family and friends? Even if the piece of paper isn't important to him, it means everything to her, so unless he's secretly planning on bailing out in a few years, I don't get why he wouldn't willingly do this for her, if he really loved her. The fact that she had to beg him for it just makes me so sad.

Honestly I agree. Call me judgey, tell me I'm not in their relationship so I don't get it, explain to me how everyone hs their own timeframe, etc., but nothing will change my mind. Jill deserves better. All IMO.

I think the problem, for lack of better word, is that Jillian does not believe she deserves better. This is what she wants for her.

She's 36 he's 28. They've been together for four years. He was 24 when he met her. That's young IMO. In all the pic's I've seen of him, he appears to be very happy.

Jillian Harris Retweeted
TODAY ‏@TODAYshow  9h9 hours ago
'HAPPIEST girl in the world': 'Bachelorette' @jillianharris is engaged! http://on.today.com/2hH1xJ0




http://www.jillianharris.com/wishing-merry-christmas/

So the jeweler and Justin were commenting back and forth while they were in Hawaii about Justin going with bigger diamonds and the jeweler cleaning some piece. Not to go all conspiracy but what are the chances they got engaged in Hawaii and then waited until Christmas whether that be for the social media content or for whatever show it was they are/were filming.

https://instagram.com/p/BM2AN_bD5EW/

My husband and I picked out my ring and the diamond in the month of August many, years ago... We ended up actually getting engaged months later in Dec.
So who knows what happened with them.

Eagle Eye wrote:Honestly, I just don't understand his thought process. He's "ready" to knock her up and have a baby that will tie them together for the rest of their lives, he's "ready" to live with her in her big beautiful house in a marriage-like relationship, but he's not "ready" to make a lifelong commitment, which she desperately wants, in front of their family and friends? Even if the piece of paper isn't important to him, it means everything to her, so unless he's secretly planning on bailing out in a few years, I don't get why he wouldn't willingly do this for her, if he really loved her. The fact that she had to beg him for it just makes me so sad.

Yeah. I argue the baby ties them together FAR more permantetly and forever than the marriage. Marriages can dissolve. That kid makes you have to cooperate and co-parent from here until death do you part, for real.

She's happy and he seems to be also so that's good enough for me. They have little Leo now which is what really counts.

Funny because he doesn't look so young anymore. He's aged what looks like 10 years since 2012.

bleuberry wrote:Funny because he doesn't look so young anymore. He's aged what looks like 10 years since 2012.

I was just thinking that.

He looks the same age as her. LOL..