Angie Kent - Carlin Sterritt - Bachelorette Australia - Season 5 - Discussion

ReneeM wrote: I’m not even the clingy type that needs to be together all time but I would think if I lived in a different area from the person I’m dating and claim to be in love with, and then we’re in the same city, we would absolutely be meeting up. Otherwise why TF are we dating? Like, imagine dating someone you don’t care to spend time with .

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Exactly and it's hardly like the influencers from his new agency are new friends. Quite a double standard IMO to say you're in love after under 40 hours together then pretend your relationship is still in early stages.

@Bobette Angie is at least a 2 1/2 hour drive away.  Doable I suppose, but they might both have other commitments that make a visit unworkable.

Genevieve Australia wrote:I think it is great for Carlin to spend time with friends while Angie does he own stuff, and vice versa. Each of them have had a good group of friends before they met; and it is so early in the relationship that I think it is not only healthy but wise to make sure they don't neglect their respective group of friends and family.

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They're not old friends; they're just people represented by the agency he's joined and he only started following them in the last 24 hours. I have no idea if Carlin has a good group of friends as he doesn't post pics of them on SM - it's all promotional stuff IMO.



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@Vjeff @ReneeM Yes, exactly. Especially considering Angie seems to have no trouble flitting all over the country to spruik her book.

ReneeM wrote: I’m not even the clingy type that needs to be together all time but I would think if I lived in a different area from the person I’m dating and claim to be in love with, and then we’re in the same city, we would absolutely be meeting up. Otherwise why TF are we dating? Like, imagine dating someone you don’t care to spend time with .

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They are not in the same city.

@Genevieve Australia
I just wrote a reply to your post a while ago and couldn’t find it, somehow  it vanished... very weird....  

Mainly I am agreeing with you on all the good points you are making about the dangers of doing too much too soon and also maintaining a certain individuality.

And more importantly, IMO, logistically, she is planning to move to Sydney in less than a month. And that requires her attention to settle her affairs, organize her move etc. And that is something that she has to do on her own, maybe with the support of some friends and family, but it’s her own milestone to cross. I wouldn’t want to include my new 3 month boyfriend into this personal transition.
And symbolically, it represents her closing the doors of the past to open the new ones for their future.
Plus they were planning to reunite on Boxing Day, which is coming faster that we think, and they will spend the week together then. I think they did plan for THEIR life, what makes sense to THEM.

JMOAA

Agent99 wrote:@Bobette Angie is at least a 2 1/2 hour drive away.  Doable I suppose, but they might both have other commitments that make a visit unworkable.

Yes! The comments seem to suggest that they are just down the road from each other

ReneeM wrote: I’m not even the clingy type that needs to be together all time but I would think if I lived in a different area from the person I’m dating and claim to be in love with, and then we’re in the same city, we would absolutely be meeting up. Otherwise why TF are we dating? Like, imagine dating someone you don’t care to spend time with .

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Renee, The Gold Coast and Sydney are not even in the same state. Frankly I don't know why it is inferred that Carlin and Angie will not be meeting up these days if they were both in Sydney. I think Carlin's post was capturing a particular moment of him catching up with friends, I don't think Carlin and Angie have to be updating us of every time they meet up and I don't know many people who meet up every day in the beginning of their relationship.  As I said, next week they will be spending Christmas in cities that are no close to each other and they have been together, and I really don't care that much about their relationship to be speculating about how they spend every day in Sydney or somewhere else (but it looks like right now they are not even in the same place)  Basically, I would love to know why it is suggested that they will not be meeting up while in Sydney at all these days. I am confounded!

Genevieve Australia wrote:

ReneeM wrote: I’m not even the clingy type that needs to be together all time but I would think if I lived in a different area from the person I’m dating and claim to be in love with, and then we’re in the same city, we would absolutely be meeting up. Otherwise why TF are we dating? Like, imagine dating someone you don’t care to spend time with .

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Renee, The Gold Coast and Sydney are not even in the same state.  Frankly I don't know why it is inferred that Carlin and Angie will not be meeting up these days if they were both in Sydney. I think Carlin's post was capturing a particular moment of him catching up with friends, I don't think Carlin and Angie have to be updating us of every time they meet up and I don't know many people who meet up every day in the beginning of their relationship.  As I said, next week they will be spending Christmas in cities that are no close to each other and they have been together, and I really don't care that much about their relationship to be speculating about how they spend every day in Sydney or somewhere else (but it looks like right now they are not even in the same place)  Basically, I would love to know why it is suggested that they will not be meeting up while in Sydney at all these days. I am confounded!

I think you are confused - Carlin is at a party in the Gold Coast, not Sydney. A 2.5hr drive is hardly a big effort for your long distance partner. They're not his friends, they are influencers at his new agency.

Bobette wrote:

Genevieve Australia wrote:I think it is great for Carlin to spend time with friends while Angie does he own stuff, and vice versa. Each of them have had a good group of friends before they met; and it is so early in the relationship that I think it is not only healthy but wise to make sure they don't neglect their respective group of friends and family.

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They're not old friends; they're just people represented by the agency he's joined and he only started following them in the last 24 hours. I have no idea if Carlin has a good group of friends as he doesn't post pics of them on SM - it's all promotional stuff IMO.



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I snipped your tagging, here Bobette

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Well, I don't think any of us know Carlin enough to know who are his close friends. Further, sometimes we just connect with some people and we became friends immediately. IF however, they are doing promotional stuff I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with that either. IMO he doesn't need to be with Angie every single day and I believe it has been mentioned that they are not even in the same city. If when I was single, early in my relationship, the person I dated wanted to see me all the time I would have run far away, thankfully they all respected my independence. IMO we are all individuals and the members of couples have different personalities and different needs and approaches and what works for some couples may not work for others. What to someone may be an issue for me and for them it may be a non-issue at all.

Obviously people are entitled to believe that there is something wrong with them, whereas to me seeing a couple almost 'morph' into one person and stop socialising with other people would be sooo intense and sad to see! It may be a cultural approach because since I am originally European and I have also lived in Buenos Aires, Argentina (which is a country European in culture and most people in Buenos Aires there are the grandchildren or great-grandchildren of European immigrants ) before finally settling into Australia decades ago, I have the European set of mind. In Europe you can go out to the beach, to bars, and to coffee with friends, even friends of the opposite sex and that means absolutely nothing and if your partner shows distrust then you reconsider the relationship. In Australia, I find that often, almost as soon as people enter into relationship they see their single friends less frequently and mostly catch up with other couples. I am used to it now but initially it was so strange for me to see

Genevieve Australia wrote:

Bobette wrote:

Genevieve Australia wrote:I think it is great for Carlin to spend time with friends while Angie does he own stuff, and vice versa. Each of them have had a good group of friends before they met; and it is so early in the relationship that I think it is not only healthy but wise to make sure they don't neglect their respective group of friends and family.

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They're not old friends; they're just people represented by the agency he's joined and he only started following them in the last 24 hours. I have no idea if Carlin has a good group of friends as he doesn't post pics of them on SM - it's all promotional stuff IMO.



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I snipped your tagging, here Bobette

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Well, I don't think any of us know Carlin enough to know who are his close friends. Further, sometimes we just connect with some people and we became friends immediately. IF however, they are doing promotional stuff I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with that either. IMO he doesn't need to be with Angie every single day and I believe it has been mentioned that they are not even in the same city. If when I was single, early in my relationship, the person I dated wanted to see me all the time I would have run far away, thankfully they all respected my independence.   IMO we are all individuals and the members of couples have different personalities and different needs and approaches and what works for some couples may not work for others. What to someone may be an issue for me and for them it may be a non-issue at all.

Obviously people are entitled to believe that there is something wrong with them, whereas to me seeing a couple almost 'morph' into one person and stop socialising with other people would be sooo intense and sad to see! It may be a cultural approach because  since I am originally European and I have also lived in Buenos Aires, Argentina (which is a country European in culture and most people in Buenos Aires there are the grandchildren or great-grandchildren of European immigrants ) before finally settling into Australia decades ago, I have the European set of mind. In Europe you can go out to the beach, to bars, and to coffee with friends, even friends of the opposite sex  and that means absolutely nothing and if your partner shows distrust then you reconsider the relationship. In Australia, I find that  often, almost as soon as people enter into relationship  they see their single friends less frequently and mostly catch up with other couples. I am used to it now but initially it was so strange for me to see  

I don't think anyone was starting they need to see each other every day..but when you live in different states which is very difficult in a long distance relationship (especially one that got so serious saying the L word already after less than 2 days time spent together) you would think that when you are in the same state and very close together you would catch up. As a European you may think 2 hrs drive is very far but in Aus it is very normal and close - for example I work with many people in Syd who live on the Central Coast and commute to work each day. It is very odd when you are spending a lot of time apart that you wouldn't take the opportunity to catch up when you come to QLD.

Vjeff wrote:

Genevieve Australia wrote:

Bobette wrote:

Genevieve Australia wrote:I think it is great for Carlin to spend time with friends while Angie does he own stuff, and vice versa. Each of them have had a good group of friends before they met; and it is so early in the relationship that I think it is not only healthy but wise to make sure they don't neglect their respective group of friends and family.

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They're not old friends; they're just people represented by the agency he's joined and he only started following them in the last 24 hours. I have no idea if Carlin has a good group of friends as he doesn't post pics of them on SM - it's all promotional stuff IMO.



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I snipped your tagging, here Bobette

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Well, I don't think any of us know Carlin enough to know who are his close friends. Further, sometimes we just connect with some people and we became friends immediately. IF however, they are doing promotional stuff I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with that either. IMO he doesn't need to be with Angie every single day and I believe it has been mentioned that they are not even in the same city. If when I was single, early in my relationship, the person I dated wanted to see me all the time I would have run far away, thankfully they all respected my independence.   IMO we are all individuals and the members of couples have different personalities and different needs and approaches and what works for some couples may not work for others. What to someone may be an issue for me and for them it may be a non-issue at all.

Obviously people are entitled to believe that there is something wrong with them, whereas to me seeing a couple almost 'morph' into one person and stop socialising with other people would be sooo intense and sad to see! It may be a cultural approach because  since I am originally European and I have also lived in Buenos Aires, Argentina (which is a country European in culture and most people in Buenos Aires there are the grandchildren or great-grandchildren of European immigrants ) before finally settling into Australia decades ago, I have the European set of mind. In Europe you can go out to the beach, to bars, and to coffee with friends, even friends of the opposite sex  and that means absolutely nothing and if your partner shows distrust then you reconsider the relationship. In Australia, I find that  often, almost as soon as people enter into relationship  they see their single friends less frequently and mostly catch up with other couples. I am used to it now but initially it was so strange for me to see  

I don't think anyone was starting they need to see each other every day..but when you live in different states which is very difficult in a long distance relationship (especially one that got so serious saying the L word already after less than 2 days time spent together) you would think that when you are in the same state and very close together you would catch up. As a European you may think 2 hrs drive is very far but in Aus it is very normal and close - for example I work with many people in Syd who live on the Central Coast and commute to work each day. It is very odd when you are spending a lot of time apart that you wouldn't take the opportunity to catch up when you come to QLD.

Clearly some people are judging their choices because they are commenting about it and making conclusions about it. Those people are entitled to their opinions but so are those who don't see any issues with the way Carlin and Angie are dealing with their relationship. Basically, people thinking there is something wrong with  Angie and Carlin have the right to their opinion but  all opinions are subjective, and those who distrust Angie and Carlin are basing their opinion on their own perception of what constitutes a healthy relationship and those of us who do not see the issue are also seeing it from a different view. In this case it looks like you and I have contrary approaches, and so do other members of the forum. In the end your view and my view are subjective. All our opinions are subjective.  In your experience people you know do that, in my experience people in relationships have different dynamics. To me, this early in the relationship, people should be able to spend time without each other and see it as normal.  Driving 2.5 hours to see Angie when they have all other commitments (social, work, whatever the type) is IMO unnecessary. They don't need to prove anything to anyone.

Further, IMO we have now a perfect example in Anna and Tim. Anna and Tim got married last year, now he is spending most of his time in Melbourne (for work) and Anna in Sydney (also for work). This year they both attended the Melbourne Cup and they barely spent time together because she was there mostly for work, we are talking about a recently married couple. They were steps away from each other yet the didn't really spend time together. Some people saw that as weird...fans have judged Timm and Anna's relationship for years yet he was the first bachelor and he married her! They know what they have and it works for them, and if fans don't like it, well too bad because they are not the ones in Tim and Anna's relationship. In a relationship there are usually only two people involved and they know what makes them happy and works for them and when it doesn't they either try to work things out or take different paths and break up.

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Agent99 wrote:@Bobette Angie is at least a 2 1/2 hour drive away.  Doable I suppose, but they might both have other commitments that make a visit unworkable.

Yes! The comments seem to suggest that they are just down the road from each other

@sprout    Not to mention that it would be perceived as unprofessional imo to duck off to see your gf for the day after you've got (I presume) a free trip with your new agency.