Bachelorette 14 - Becca Kufrin - Media SM - Discussion - *Sleuthing Spoilers* #6

That clip with Garrett says it all. She's all in with him!

And the clip with Wills is so odd....they are separated for the entire clip. But it's cute that he keeps looking back to make sure she is o.k.

@GuardianAngel I commend her. She is taking one for all of womanhood by getting mr wild eyed tappy fingers off the market. He’s the nut to her screw.

@luvstx She is all in and it makes me cringe.  I feel like I am watching a slow motion trainwreck.

I hope she gets him out of her system and then out of her life.  I like her too much to wish her with him.  What makes me so sad is that her F2 and F3 are IMO both such good guys.  She claims to have fallen in love with at least one of them.  By all my sm stalking, they both seem to be so much more aligned with her core values too. eta: I just looked at Mike's IG. He is at a cafe with his dog Riggins, reading "Thinking Fast and Slow" by a nobel laureate who's done work on cognitive bias. G does Chris Farley imitations. She had some sweet, smart, funny guys this season and she chose G.

But the more people critique him, the harder she'll dig in and defend.  Time will tell.

They do seem to be a good match if you forget the whole likes thing. It's not easy but I do know a couple who's on the opposite end of the spectrum and are still happily married. They just avoid any political discussions. That wouldn't cut it for me but I guess it could possibly work for Becca.

Personally, I don’t simply see this as political differences. To me, this boils down to how one believes others should be treated, with the emphasis on others.

I just think there are people who read certain sites and watch/listen to certain shows and lose sight that these are real people in real circumstances, @Kashathediva This is not to excuse it at all. Every once in a while someone I'm friends with on Facebook posts or emails something that I find offensive or questionable and I'm not sure if they have a clue that some of their friends don't feel the same way. If it's an email, I tell them to take me off their list but with FB I tend to hide their posts rather than dropping them because in most cases I still like them. I'm trying to give Garrett a chance because of my experience but I wish Becca had known this before she fell for him. All JMO.

Putting the likes aside, the more I see him now, because prior to the likes, I didn't look through his IG because of the discussion here on the content, nor did I see much of him on my screen, I find him to be just strange. Strange look in his eyes, strange mannerism, and strange that Becca is so head over heels with a guy she barely knows. At the same time, she acts that way and has said some pretty convincing comments with Blake as well.

I hope Garrett is her piece of the puzzle because she stated herself she would not be in an unhealthy relationship again after Ross.

@GuardianAngel I agree with your take that even aside from the "likes" there is something unusual about him.  I mentioned the book Mike was reading, "Thinking Fast and Slow".  What I remember from my grad school days about cognition is that we humans look for patterns in our decision making.  We have confirmation bias in many instance...looking to reaffirm what we already think.  
IMO Becca saw patterns which reminded her of her dad who she lost way too early.  G was familiar and comfortable to her.  She commented that he would easily fit in with her family.  She seemed really into him from the get go.  IMO, then she assigned good patterns to him that I don't know he deserved.
What is most puzzling to me is that this was not done in a vacuum.  She had 20+ other dudes to consider/show interest to/become close to.  Even with some guys who I consider to have the very qualities she professes to want, and says she loved, fell in love with. it was G who is awkward at best.  It makes me sad knowing what we know about him. I am very interested to see what he is like once the show ends, whether the apology has action behind it. I hope we get to know that.

@pavalygurl good points. It's nice that he is similar in his outdoor activities as Becca's Dad, however IMO there is a lot more to compatibility than those that are similar to a family member's interest.

He's following roughly 8-9 guys and recently followed Lincoln. Unless that was a mindless tap and he didn't mean to.

One more time I am completely agreeing with your comments @pavalygurl. There is something almost compulsive about these two. And I' ve tried and looked for ANYTHING that could make me like G somehow and frankly, its getting worse. From the obvious unecessarily harsh tackles on the field to Mike and Blake, ( anger issues, anyone?) to the idiotic stare and smile, to his agressive way of kissing and tackling Becca...I mean can You see ANY other guy taking her over his shoulder like a carpet and having this gigling reaction from Becca? He would be sent off on the spot. I get that she wants / needs someone who can make her LAUGH...but does it also mean laughing at degregatory and offensive stuff is also fine? ( insert All his IG liking posts here).
I am looking forward, well, somewhat, to see their date and hear any intelligent conversation between them. Its a LOST cause at this point. And they have been GIVEN access to cameras to document and keep photos of all their wonderful memories. Sigh.

I can’t get this image out of my head.
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Oh, stop it @kashathediva, I would if it was not so sad ...
Btw. @ GuardianAngel, is Blake following Garrett’s IG, and the opposite? I seem to remember that at the F1-F3 stage they were not.
Which guys is Garrett following? And now if he’s following Lincoln ( probably to give him support ?) that a great look. Mindlessly tapping away dude !