Bachelorette 13 - Rachel Lindsay - SM Media - *Sleuthing Spoilers* Discussion - #9

GetUpGirl wrote:

Carine wrote:Hmm I actually realized that I liked the more awkward or laidback guys, Ames, JP, Chris S, Chris L, same for the international side as well. So dont think the bad boys would have lasted long for me lool..

IMO, guys like Bryan, Josh, Chad, and Luke are the type that you spend a weekend in Cabo with. Guys like Peter, JP, and Sean are the ones you stay with forever jmo

I don't even see how Bryan is like a Josh or Chad....
I guess I wouldn't have picked Mr Condescending Sean as forever but that is me..imo

I wouldn't put Bryan in the same sentence as Josh and Chad. The later have clearly demonstrated the type of individuals they are.

Nothing indicates to me that Bryan is anywhere near those two loosers IMHO as far as personality career wise and manners.

@mysthelma I don't think that @GetUpGirl was trying to insinuate that Bryan's similar to Josh or Chad. I think @GetUpGirl's point is that all of the guys mentioned on that list are not the kinds of guy one might like to spend forever with but might be down for a quick fling or something because it could be fun IMO.

JMO, some people do see Bryan as good husband material. It is all subjective. From his SM we see a man who loves his family, has friends and co-workers he likes and who likes him. He likes sports and has a career. For me that is marriage worthy. Chad and Josh have both shown disturbing, violent tendencies and mentioning anyone as like them is equating them to also having those tendencies, which in my opinion is unfair. All JMO.

@stuckinsc Of course, it is all subjective. But I personally don't think that loving your family, being liked by coworkers, liking sports, and having a job and being a player are mutually exclusive. You can do both, in fact, IMO Bryan is doing both . Part of being a player is getting a lot of people to like you. Being a player doesn't make you a bad person. All jmo ofc

@GetUpGirl Totally agree. Players are some of the most charming, charismatic people. I mean, you kind of have to be in order to draw people into you. But of course this is just IMO, we obviously don't know him personally. Nevertheless I feel like I easily pick up on the player vibe from people and I have a stellar track record on picking up on it. Bryan gives it off to me idk why. JMO

@GetUpGirl 100% agree. I am sure we all know men that love their family, wonderful personalities, liked by lots of people, that still aren't serious about being with one woman (not that this is Bryan, necessarily, just adding to the topic).

He must be doing a bad job at being a player because one glance at SM will let you know that majority of people don't like him. What evidence has come forward that he is a player? ex-girlfriends, one night stands going to the media? Nothing!. From last season, I know that scorned ex girlfriend, girls that feel like they were played don't stay silent, ask Jordan,Robby or Luke. We don't know any of this people and I think it is important to form opinions from things we can see like their SM, word of mouth, friends, family e.t.c JMO

@Dessler Honestly, players are never liked on television. The reason why he isn't liked is profoundly because he is giving many people that vibe. He isn't going to be rewarded on national tv for it. When I speak of player, I'm speaking in the context of interpersonal relationships, in terms of how a guy might approach/talk to a woman.

You're right about what you said about exes not coming out. Jubilee is an ex who doesn't seem to have favorable opinions about him but it is unlikely she'll speak out considering she barely spoke out about the Luke fiasco.

Well this is just our opinion in the meantime. Lots of people have alluded to the *vibe* so there obviously isn't any concrete evidence for it but I think the vibe someone gives off is often telling IMO

I'm curious if B is F1 how Rachel would respond to people saying he's a player.

@Dessler He was on a reality show called "The Player." He's basically 40 with a great job, good looks, and for some reason, he's unmarried. He was with a former contestant who doesn't seem too fond of him IMO. He insulted her and called her sloppy seconds just to prove he kissed her first. The one ex who did speak positively of him is currently 23 years old and met him on IG. He engulfed Rachel's face within 5 minutes of meeting her. There is plenty of evidence to suggest he is a player IMO. That doesn't mean I think he's a bad person.

Also IMO, it's easier to spot a player when you're not the one getting played. That would explain the heat he is getting on sm for me.

Vibe or no vibe, my point remains the same. Making claims about a person's character esp someone you don't know personally without anything concrete to base it on other than a "vibe" is plain wrong IMO. People have been put in jail, in trouble  without evidence just because of the "vibe" someoneelse claimed they gave. BTW Jubilee is not an ex gf according to RS, he said they had something and it might be as simple as going on one date. ALL jmo

EDIT: No need to @ me. All the things you listed are baseless speculations based on your personal feelings on how you think people should live their lives, how they should act and when you think is the appropriate time to get married IMO