Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #8

I think Ben doesn't deserve Lauren tbh, she's too good for him. Hope they don't take long to announce the break up.

sosleepy wrote:I don't feel that sorry for Ben. Before the humiliation of the cancelled wedding on national tv, Lauren didn't do any of this excessive partying. She was attached to his hip, building a life with him, uprooting hers. Ben brought this on himself.

Besides. It's Ben Higgins. He'll bounce and come out the other side fine.

Not only will he be fine, he gets to keep his home post make-over and the new backyard. This really worked out best for him .

It'll be interesting to see when they move on and who settles down first.

Yeah exactly! Lauren acts like she hates the discussion and drama on her pictures..but then posts a pic with "my heart" and given the current talk....get real girl.
I think I'm in the minority here but I don't think Lauren deserves Ben. I think they just need to spend quality time together, but it doesn't appear they're allowing themselves to do that.

@hannah.e. Well obviously she doesn't deserve someone like Ben. He humiliated her by telling her and another woman he loved them ,she deserve someone better than that.

I must be the only one but I unapologetically love Lauren and honestly don't like Ben

I'm sure Lauren will get the blame but Ben imo was the selfish one JMO

hannah.e. wrote:Yeah exactly! Lauren acts like she hates the discussion and drama on her pictures..but then posts a pic with "my heart" and given the current talk....get real girl.
I think I'm in the minority here but I don't think Lauren deserves Ben. I think they just need to spend quality time together, but it doesn't appear they're allowing themselves to do that.

Ben doesn't want to marry someone who can't/won't satisfy his needy and anxious nature, and Lauren isn't that person, has never been that person and never will be that person imo. However, Lauren instead acted all ooey gooey sweetie pie fakey foo imo, so he didn't see the reality and chose her, thinking he found someone who will be a calming, strong bedrock force for him. It's dumb he believed her nonsense when plenty of the audience saw it clearly, but I can't say I find it to be totally his fault imo. I think he'll settle down first and soon, with exactly the kind of girl Lauren claimed to be and he thought she was too. These are all just my thoughts, nothing scientific

I think Lauren's just reverted to what she knows in order to deal with the demise (imo) of the relationship. We know she liked to party before the bachelor, but I think she genuinely thought that this relationship was it for her, and now that doesn't seem to be the case and she's gone back to the 'known' (partying) in order to deal with the uncertainty of what happens next. I think them working on it has actually been bad for Lauren, because it's just dragged it out. & IMO it's gonna be worse before it gets better, she'll get all the blame for the relationship ending, SM trolls are gonna be horrible to her & I think after the announcement happens, she'll party even harder for a while before she chills out. All Jmo.

It's obvious they've been on a decline for months..but I wonder if something bigger happened the last few days. Ben's been super quiet, more quiet than usual. He did however like a tweet that says "don't look back. Press on, even when it gets hard." I think both of them will have Bach nation people trying to slide into DM's.

Diana wrote:I must be the only one but I unapologetically love Lauren and honestly don't like Ben

I'm sure Lauren will get the blame but Ben imo was the selfish one JMO

Not at all. I like Lauren and think Ben sucks and has been a horrible partner.

imho I just think they were incompatible for something longer term ....Ben was also very young when he was on the show esp for a guy

Liability wise I'm neutral on them but I place a tad more blame on Ben. It was always clear to me that he had a hard time compromising and was all me me me in the relationship. From the grown up headboard to holidays, dude just wasn't ready for a big boy relationship IMO. Lauren isn't perfect but I think she at least showed up and Ben didn't. JMO.

^ I think the opposite. When asked waaay back where they were going to live, moving to Denver was something Lauren apparently wanted to do. When it came to renovations, Lauren has said plenty of times how trusting Ben was on her renovating. She's talked about how supportive he is in general, with her blog, etc. In fact, they had an interview with ET in sept or oct of that last year saying they were in counselling. Lauren said she was the one that wasn't great at change. Then went on to say great of a partner Ben has been.