Josh Murray - Amanda Stanton - BIP 3 - Discussion

Just as there is healthy love there is unhealthy love. Many couples get trapped in unhealthy love thinking it's ok to stay there because it's "love" and that any love is better than none.
What needs to be stressed is it's ok to be single and healthy. It's not just ok. It's desirable to be healthy, period.

The periscope episodes are something else. I can't beleive that I once liked Josh smh

All who are personally involved in the relationship or close to it are extremely happy. *IMO* From Josh and Amanda, to her kids, parents and sister to Joshs family.  Ashley I and the twins have both stated how great they are together as well.  Many BIP cast like/comment on their posts.  IMO, they are a fun loving, beautiful couple who adore eachother. Many times when someone has been in a bad relationship they project that onto other relationships and exaggerate comments or twist them to meet that thought. *IMO* I have been fortunate to be in positive relationships and married now to a wonderful man who teases me a lot like Josh teases Amanda.  I would NEVER consider him abusive in anyway. I think it's funny how true his statements are and how he's able to make fun of it and make me laugh about it.  I'm not being berated or yelled at, I'm able to acknowledge and accept any shortcoming and he has found a way to make me laugh at them and myself.  I think that's a gift and Josh has the ability to do the same with Amanda.  There is no doubt Josh has the dominant personality of the 2 but most couples have a dominant one.  IMO, they are still a new couple and will figure out what works best for them.  IMO, so far they are doing a very good job.  *JMOAA*

Ashley I and the twins aren't very bright, and the people IN the relationship could not seem more unhappy IMO. They might have some cute sc moments (I don't follow them anywhere so I'm just assuming), but that's all they are, moments. I liked Josh and Andi and I see the same patterns with JAM that I saw with them and we all know how that ended. Literally the only difference is that he's so much more brazen this time around. He openly berates her for all to see and I've never heard him compliment her without turning it into a dig at his ex. All JMO.

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Now, carry on... Back to JAM.

Shoesies007 wrote:Josh is a pathological narcissist: entitled, haughty, low to no empathy, grandiose, holds grudges over matters that should have been put to rest already, and vindictive. *IMO*

Amanda is an empath: a narcissist's favorite victim. *IMO*

On Josh's latest Periscope, his doucheness really comes out:

He constantly cuts her off mid-talk with his snide remarks. She then pauses and waits for him to finish yapping before she continues with her answers.

A: How do you read this stuff? I need glasses...
J: You need a lot. You have a lot of issues. A lot of issues going on, baby.

Josh has so much unresolved hate in his heart. He has suffered extreme narcissistic injury over BIP's portrayal of him. Even if Amanda stays with him, both will only stay out of co-dependency and because they love the image they portray, even though it far from reality. This is an extremely unhealthy relationship...and I haven't even finished watching the rest of the video...I have 7 mins remaining. I may not watch it. With these two the prognosis is poor and the future very dim. *IMO*

Welcome!!! Are you a psychiatrist or psychologist? I 100% agree with your opinion!

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ReneeM wrote:Ashley I and the twins aren't very bright, and the people IN the relationship could not seem more unhappy IMO. They might have some cute sc moments (I don't follow them anywhere so I'm just assuming), but that's all they are, moments. I liked Josh and Andi and I see the same patterns with JAM that I saw with them and we all know how that ended. Literally the only difference is that he's so much more brazen this time around. He openly berates her for all to see and I've never heard him compliment her without turning it into a dig at his ex. All JMO.

It totally agree. The opinions of Ashley I and the twins mean nothing to me. Apart from being a bit stupid, they're also Amanda's friends and may support her regardless. I think they would have supported her with Nick or with Evan and I guess the same goes for Josh.
Imo, just because someone in a relationship doesn't think they're being abused doesn't mean they're not abused. They may be abused but don't recognize it. I really haven't seen Josh disrespect any of his exes the in way he disrespects Amanda and she seems to be totally oblivious to because he says he loves her and he buys her a car.
I worry about Kinsley and Charlie. I don't think Josh hits them or screams at them, but he has a way of berating people in a joking manner. He called Amanda nasty, a pig etc. and even though she doesn't complain, I would imagine that constantly hearing that would affect her. I hope he doesn't treat Kinsley and Charlie like he treats Amanda, constantly bringing them down as a joke and then doing something nice for them afterwards.

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umngirl wrote:My question is why the heck were they even on Periscope? On the list of vacation activities I'd be doing that doesn't make the top 1000.

But what do you have to shill? Who do you need to adore you? See this is the dark and unmentioned side of shilling. You get amazing vacations you don't actually get to enjoy.

You take awesome pics of yourselves doing fun stuff on the vacation and showing off the resort? That seems to be the prime vacation-shilling strategy. Not whining on Periscope.

AnandaMarie wrote:
Imo, just because someone in a relationship doesn't think they're being abused doesn't mean they're not abused. They may be abused but don't recognize it.

Absolutely. That's exactly why people stay in an abusive relationship. The abuser is always good at mind games and manipulations, making the abused unsure of herself, insecure and confused about what is true. It's like flying a plane in the dark without instruments - you can't tell what's up or down.

AnandaMarie wrote:I worry about Kinsley and Charlie. I don't think Josh hits them or screams at them, but he has a way of berating people in a joking manner. He called Amanda nasty, a pig etc. and even though she doesn't complain, I would imagine that constantly hearing that would affect her. I hope he doesn't treat Kinsley and Charlie like he treats Amanda, constantly bringing them down as a joke and then doing something nice for them afterwards.

I doubt he treats the kids that way. My own worry is that this whole thing is teaching the kids that this type of behavior is acceptable in a partner.

If he treats Amanda that way, I'd bet any amount of money he does the kids too. such a jerkwad.