Bachelor In Paradise - Season 3 - Potential Contestants - *Sleuthing - Spoilers* #2

Seabear wrote:I have done a total reversal on my feelings for Josh watching how incredible he has been with Sabel through her cancer ordeal.  I lost my little dog almost 2 years ago and I loved her every bit as much as my 3 grown children.  I think Josh will be a wonderful father and have no problem loving Amanda's girls as though they were his DNA.  As for Amanda she is a loving wonderful Mom to those girls.  I am sure if Jam happens they will all make a total effort to integrate both families together including Amanda's Ex.  I hope Jam finds their HEA.  Both Amanda and Josh seem to have big hearts and a capacity for fidelity.    JMO

Kashathediva wrote:It can work positively and negatively. I think the outcome is dependent on the people involved and how hard they want to work for the betterment of the kids.

Laura Walsh wrote:Have mixed emotions about this.  I love that Josh is thinking outside the box and seems to have learned not to be so picky.  But on the other hand, this is really outside the box.  Amanda is a pretty girl and she is sweet and she will dote on Josh I'm sure, but will she give him the other things that he also needs like a challenge once in a while and so many other things that go along with a happy marriage.

Everyone is right in saying that no matter how much you love children and Josh does and will be a great father but they're not his kids.  And I can't picture the first time her ex, the children's father, has an argument with Amanda over their children and Josh interferes to perhaps stick up for Amanda, and the children's father says "Stay out of this, these are not your children" I just don't know how Josh will handle that.

And did I read on here that they have joint custody?  If so, then that's even worse because they both have to agree on a lot that concerns the raising of the children.  And this guy will always be in Amanda's life.  And whoa, if Josh ever tries to tell his children what to do or disciplines them in even the smallest of ways and daddy finds out.  Wow.  One child maybe but two under the age of 5.  Josh has said he wants children right a way so if they have a baby right away that will be 3 under age 5.  So if Josh is able to handle all this then I would say it could be a good fit. JMO

But take it from me who has one stepdaughter who is now in her 40's, she was only 3 when I came into the picture.  I will tell you for at least 15 years of our marriage the ex made our life unbearable at times.  And I will say very honestly that as much as I love my husband, been married 39 yrs. if you were to ask me today, would I do it all over again if the circumstances were the same I can't honestly say yes.  I would think long and hard on that.   Sorry bringing my personal self into this but just saying that most people would probably agree with me.  And there have been great marriages with these circumstances but they are the minority, I believe.

They are adorable children but even adorable children can try your patience at times.

And also Josh said that Andi was not the same on the show, can he be so sure that Amanda is what she appears to be on the show in RL?  All these things need to be explored and that takes time.

But I know that Josh listens to his mom's advice so I'm sure when she went to Mexico she told him about all the pitfalls and to really be around the little ones for more than a weekend here or there before he actually gets married.

Southerngal wrote:It seems like we at least all agree that a happy relationship amongst all of them can work, but that it takes A LOT of work and won't be easy.  In order for it to be successful, I think it takes maturity, patience, and thinking of the children above all else.  To go on a 2 week vacation with someone, where said children are not even present, and then get engaged, is already not putting the children first (IMO).  If it works out for them, great, but I think the more likely scenario is that he will end up with two failed engagements.

Kashathediva wrote:I would think it would be too early for many reasons, but the most logical is editing.