Tanner & Jade Tolbert - BIP 2 - Discussion

Jade's tweet
So @ttolbert05 just won $2500 on a game and I said, "Thanks for the purse, babe!" Hahaha Byeeeeeee

Even this innocent tweet makes me gag.

She got her purse.

https://twitter.com/jadelizroper/status/785235659858538496

Yeah, somehow I kind of pity her.

I look at that tweet and just think, gross.

The sad part IMO is she has no problem posting it on SM.

Yep I mean they could have saved some of it for something useful like payments, stuff they need for their new house, e.t.c. Also noticed they are keeping quiet about MBC.

Her twitter quote says it all: "You don't need to explain your dreams, they belong to you."
Not that she asked, but she can keep them.  IMO her dreams and values are skewed.

So he abuses her but then buys her a purse and it is okay. At least it's YSL!!! 

I feel so sad. She needs some self-esteem and independence.

Linds911 wrote:Yep I mean they could have saved some of it for something useful like payments, stuff they need for their new house, e.t.c. Also noticed they are keeping quiet about MBC.

Right? First season I have seen but I don't see em promoting it. Maybe that is common though? Take the paycheck and hope no one watches?

Kels0012 wrote: it seems like name-calling in marriages during this day and age, especially with younger generations, is commonplace. It doesn't always mean the harsh connotations the name held in the past nor does the affected party see it that way. IMO. Not saying that is right but I feel that is just the nature of current society. I know I used to swear a lot before I had my son and never meant any of my harsh words as direct insults mostly. JMO.

Younger generation here   , I'm 20 and personally if anyone I was dating let alone married to said some sh*t like that TO ME, we're done, I don't play that, and I don't know anyone who does.  It's not about age IMO, it's about self esteem and respect for yourself and others. People with low self esteem like a Jade, accept things like that because they don't feel they deserve better, and as for Tanner, the way you treat others is a direct result of how you feel about yourself. I don't care if Jade IS a lazy slob, if it bothers him so much he can leave. Maybe he should ease off sh*tting on his wife and do some self reflecting. I'm a swearer, I curse A LOT, but I'm not out here swearing at people. All JMO.

casjacknick wrote:

Linds911 wrote:Yep I mean they could have saved some of it for something useful like payments, stuff they need for their new house, e.t.c. Also noticed they are keeping quiet about MBC.

Right? First season I have seen but I don't see em promoting it. Maybe that is common though? Take the paycheck and hope no one watches?

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Sean and Catherine mentioned their season, Trista did as well I think. Guess J&T are just going to do what you said!

Fingersandtoes wrote:I get that you want a partner who contributes their part to your life together. I however don't think that's the issue here, really. Tanner would find a way to make Jade feel worthless even if she was baking and cooking and cleaning from morning until evening. He's not only talking about the house work. He's talking about how she  'fights', he trashes her to his co-workers, he thinks she's worthless as a person. She needs personal therapy, I have no doubt that her self worth is in the negative numbers. I have a feeling, that once she gets herself some serious help, which I doubt she has got, she will grow as a person, and leave the bully husband. Imo he knows this too, and keeps putting her down partly for this fear.

I think that's a tad harsh, since we don't really know the actual situation. Tanner didn't say Jade is worthless as a person, he said she has "so much value as a person, just not a ton of value as a teammate in a marriage". It's a harsh thing to say, but if she really is a "lethargic slob" and increases his workload rather than decreases it while lounging around at home all day, he kind of has a point. While there is value in companionship alone and it's something no one should be taking for granted, you should be contributing something tangible as well if you want your marriage to work. If she can't even keep on top of things now with endless amount of free time, what's gonna happen when, or if, they have kids? The housework will multiply and the time to do it will greatly diminish. It's a legit concern and we don't know how often the issue has been brought up already and what Jade's response has been. If she's still "trying to remember to do the laundry" then that says something.

The name calling is something I find appalling though and doesn't belong in a healthy marriage. Respect is the number one thing for me in a relationship and that's the opposite of respectful. If both people have mean mouths and thick skin, then maybe it's not a big deal, but in a case like this where the other people is obviously very sensitive and doesn't have a lot of self-esteem to begin with, it has to be unhealthy. His words clearly hurt her a lot and she doesn't even fight back. I can only hope things have changed since, after all this was filmed sometime last spring. I also think they shouldn't be building a mansion if she can't even keep a normal house tidy unless they can afford a housekeeper.