Amanda Stanton - Bachelor 20 - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

nd4reality wrote:

Realme wrote:I guess I am one of the few who don't have a problem with single parents looking for love like this as long as the kids are well cared for at home.  There are many jobs that the parent has to be away for a long period of time and the kids turn out just fine.  I think it is easier for the younger kids then it is for a child who is in the school age years (6-18).  I can hardly wait to see Amanda on screen and see what she is like.  But then this is just my opinion.

We are just a few. I would not go on this show - kids or not but so many are/have been so more power to them.
Her kids in particular are well looked after it seems and even have the presence of the other parent (it seems) so pretty sure they are fine. IMO the mother will feel it more than the kids. If my own kids and I are my yardstick which obviously it is.

And TA with the bolded in particular.

If she felt it...or even thought she would feel it...she wouldn't be going on the show.

nd4reality wrote:Emily's daughter was older but she did not even have a father for her kids. Yet she left her with grand parents etc. Once as a contestant and the other time as a Lead.

I have been on various boards and this one for quite  a while now but this is the first time there has been so much reaction to a single parent on. Yet each season we have had at least one contestant or more, a single parent on that season. Just because they got eliminated earlier is immaterial. They went on the show and some stayed. Like F4 Renee (wasn't she a widow also ?) and  F1 Emily.


Color me surprised at the reaction this season. Really.

I think it may be because she has two and they are both so young.

As for Emily, much as I did not want her coming back as the lead, she had the first part of her season in her hometown so that she could stay with Ricki and then, for at least part of the time they were travelling, Ricki went with her.

It cracks me up that folks were amazed and outraged that Shawn could leave his fully grown dog for two months but two human littles? It's ok, Amanda knows what she's doing/can't judge her. Yeah. I can't wait to see mommy of the year in action.

I see plenty of criticism of Amanda for leaving her kids to do the show in this thread.

What's done is done. She's on the show, and it's been 5 weeks already.  We may not agree with her leaving her kids for such a long period of time to go on the show, but I'm not gonna judge her as a parent because of it. She seems like a great mom (when she's there :P) I wanna watch her in action first. She seems to have a lot of friends (that are supporting her soooo much) and they all have said how amazing she is and what a wonderful mom she is, etc. etc. they've talked about how they've been best friends since high school and and are always there for each other. Not everyone can be friends with some one so easily, and for people to genuinely love them so much. So, she's has to be a likable person, I would imagine. So again, I'm gonna reserve judgement until the show airs (if that.) Yeah, her leaving her kids is not what most of us would do (clearly), but many people, as evidenced by all the single parents that have come on this show, have obviously gone on this show for whatever reason. And remember, we don't know Amanda's reasoning yet. The kids seem to be in the hands of their dad, aunt, grandma, and moms best friend right now. So at least the love is still flowing. I will wait for everything else.

To me, that's the same scenario as Julia. Everyone on BIP said that she was the nicest, sweetest, most likable person there and I can believe that. However, I felt that no amount of kindness or sweetness could make up for the fact that she left her fatherless daughter twice in a year to do reality TV. I feel the same way about Amanda. She did come across as really sweet and shy in the carnival pic, so I wouldn't be surprised if she was well-liked by the girls and became a fan favorite. It still doesn't excuse leaving an 18-month and a 3.5 y/o home for 1-2 months. I just don't believe it's for love - she's a hot 25 y/o who could easily meet someone online or in her hometown if she wanted. And, honestly, it seemed to me that she and Ben had both friend-zoned each other at the carnival. She might have crushed on Ben, but her primary motivation for applying was most likely fame and promoting her business. Nice people are capable of making bad decisions and being just as fame-hungry as the rest of us and it shouldn't excuse them from judgement. JMO.

From a comment I saw, one of her friends said, "she deserves this". So maybe someone applied for her..? Maybe she's had a tough year..? Maybe her family and friends were completely supportive of her going because of this or that..? Maybe they thought of it as a free vacation..? Soul searching..? Maybe they convinced her to go because this is a once in a lifetime opportunity that they felt she couldn't pass up on..? So many different scenarios that don't necessarily mean she applied herself to be on the show and went to promote her business and get the taste of the good life (though obviously a lot do.) I'm thinking one of the top scenarios is especially more likely considering how supportive all her friends are that she's on the show and thinking "she deserves this" (btw that comment was of a photo of her smiling with Ben.)

I don't know...the girls usually spend so much money on dresses and other clothes that it usually ends being a very expensive "free" trip. I can see wanting to get away after a divorce and being a single mother, but for 1.5-2 months? And, even if someone else applied for her, I believe they usually contact you to submit your video application pretty soon after, so she most likely wasn't a passive participant.

I guess I just don't understand it no matter what the motivations and level of participation, but then again, I was one of those people who was mad at Shawn (who I love) for abandoning a dog, haha. Of course, I'll be judgy of a mom abandoning her human babies for 1.5-2 months. All, IMO.

Yeah, I'm no animal person, so I could give two rats about a dog. But that's why I don't have animals. I couldn't leave my babies though. Never.

I couldn't care less that Amanda went on the show or what her reasons are for doing it. I just don't want to hear the "I miss my children so much" whining we usually get from the single parents like they were forced to do this and had no choice but to leave their children.

I really don't want to see the reason why she came on the show. Prefer for her not to get an intro video. Just step out of the limo and be done with that.

When the show airs, I suspect we will hear a lot of Amanda's backstory.  Obviously her marriage didn't work out for some reason but from perusing her ex's FB page, he appears to be a loving husband and devoted father as well as an attractive man.  There are photos of their wedding and it shows him overcome with emotion walking down the aisle with his new bride.  So it will be interesting to know why she went from housewife to single mommy on TB.  Hopefully it is an amicable relationship at this point and we won't be exposed to her drama.  

That said, Juella's stint on TB and BIP was too much for me to feel any sympthathy for her because we were exposed to her sad story but then on BIP we heard about poor helpless Juella, she is a single Mother who needs a baby daddy and the rules should be different for her.  I hope we are never subjected to that drama again.  

All of the above, JMO.