Amber James - Bachelor 20 - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

I was just going through the contestants when I saw her pic.   I just don't get these girls sometimes.
She is a 30yo bartender doing her 3rd Bachelor show in 2 years. This is just sad...

IA chloep - trying to show off your girls like that, IMO shows an insecure woman who may have low self esteem. Isn't there anything else about your personality or who you are as a person that would be more interesting other than guys gawking at you?

That dress style is so unflattering.  It looks desperate and so unappealing.  The dress screams "look at me" but after you look you just want to shake your head and look away.   Leaving something to the imagination is sooooo much more sexy and alluring.

Yeah that dress is just too much. I don't mind plunging necklines, but that one's so wide it looks she's about to burst out of it. Not a fan of the other girl showing her bra either.

I really think she wore it backwards! It would look great and subtlety sexy worn the way I think the designer intended it! :Nod:

What I want to know is, how come these women go out all the time but can't fine boyfriends in real life? Shouldnt there be tons of men just aching to go out with her? Especially being a bartender. Aren't women in that profession getting hit on all the time? That would have to be the number one profession for women to meet men of all kinds. She just needs to change the bar she works at. All except for the Sean Lowe, Christian type.

IWouldMarryAshleyI wrote:What I want to know is, how come these women go out all the time but can't fine boyfriends in real life? Shouldnt there be tons of men just aching to go out with her? Especially being a bartender. Aren't women in that profession getting hit on all the time? That would have to be the number one profession for women to meet men of all kinds. She just needs to change the bar she works at. All except for the Sean Lowe, Christian type.

I think it's because a lot of them exude desperation and that turns a lot men off. Sure they'll have men lining up to hook up with them, but to actually commit to a relationship with them? Not so much. That's the only explanation I can come up with for why these drop dead gorgeous women who should have men eating out of their hands can't seem to find a boyfriend.

bluwavz wrote:

IWouldMarryAshleyI wrote:What I want to know is, how come these women go out all the time but can't fine boyfriends in real life? Shouldnt there be tons of men just aching to go out with her? Especially being a bartender. Aren't women in that profession getting hit on all the time? That would have to be the number one profession for women to meet men of all kinds. She just needs to change the bar she works at. All except for the Sean Lowe, Christian type.

I think it's because a lot of them exude desperation and that turns a lot men off. Sure they'll have men lining up to hook up with them, but to actually commit to a relationship with them? Not so much. That's the only explanation I can come up with for why these drop dead gorgeous women who should men eating out of their hands can't seem to find a boyfriend.

IA exactly with what you said Blu and hand-in-hand with that is a legitimate lack of self confidence or they wouldn't be desperate in the first place.

I think it would do a lot of these women good to take Becca's approach that she had last season. I'm not talking about being a virgin or celibate or anything, but playing more hard to get and not making themselves so easily available to guys. I think that's why Farmer Chris was so drawn to Becca.

Yikes that's worse then the dress Juliea K. was wearing the other night!  https://www.instagram.com/p/_LYbYuvA19/

Seabear wrote:That dress style is so unflattering.  It looks desperate and so unappealing.  The dress screams "look at me" but after you look you just want to shake your head and look away.   Leaving something to the imagination is sooooo much more sexy and alluring.

Ditto For Juelia in that dress.^^^^^  Desperation personified.

Thanks for sharing Linds911

Seabear wrote:

Seabear wrote:That dress style is so unflattering.  It looks desperate and so unappealing.  The dress screams "look at me" but after you look you just want to shake your head and look away.   Leaving something to the imagination is sooooo much more sexy and alluring.

Ditto For Juelia in that dress.^^^^^  Desperation personified.

Thanks for sharing Linds911

I think Jubilee's white M&G dress is a good example of being sexy and alluring but still leaving something to the imagination. It had the plunging neckline but the rest of her body was covered up so she didn't look sleazy. Some of these women just try way too hard.

Juelia is just pathetic in every way.