The Bachelorette 11 - Kaitlyn Bristowe - Epi 8 July 6th - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

One thing I can give props to Kait for with Shawn is that she doesn't seem to back down when he challenges her and stands up to him in a very firm but not combative way. I think deep down she just wants to melt down when they argue because she likes him so much but she doesn't, which I like seeing. Otherwise, this really sucks. No romance, no fun, no light. Come on!! I know Kaitlyn isn't really like that and she and Shawn were adorable before last week, can we get back there?

Alanna wrote:One thing I can give props to Kait for with Shawn is that she doesn't seem to back down when he challenges her and stands up to him in a very firm but not combative way. I think deep down she just wants to melt down when they argue because she likes him so much but she doesn't, which I like seeing. Otherwise, this really sucks. No romance, no fun, no light. Come on!! I know Kaitlyn isn't really like that and she and Shawn were adorable before last week, can we get back there?

They may have had "romance, fun, etc" on their dates or off time and the editing team simply did not show it.

How dare they build up the crazy-possessive-clingy Shawn storyline only for him to take the Nick news like a champ. Boo!

Shawn melts with her and i love it when he smiles so big with her. I have only seen him do that with her. Hopefully the "drama" is over by their FS date.

stuckinsc wrote:

mmsupi wrote:{quote stuckinsc}  I grew up with a narcissist, my mother has been diagnosed as a narcissist, so I can tell you that with experience with a narcissist that it is not what I see when I see Nick.  I see Shawn as just as manipulative as Nick.  JMO.

stuckinsc, I am very sorry to hear that...it is an awful awful existence that no one should go through.  I respect your opinion however there are significant differences in the dynamics of being a victim of a narcissistic significant other vs child...both just as damaging and both just as devastating.

I agree.  My point is that Nick doesn't display narcissistic tendencies to me.  We all see things differently and I am okay with that.  I see Shawn as an aggressive jerk who forgot he was on a show about dating a girl alongside a bunch of other men.  I see subtle aggression and control issues in Shawn that are a huge red flag for me having grown up like I did.

We each bring our own perspective to watching this show, that is why it is great to read and post with each other as long as we are respectful of each other.

Agreed...I couldn't have said it better and thank you for your understanding.

Kaitlyn is hilarious.

Kaitlyn Bristowe ‏@kaitlynbristowe 1m1 minute ago
Shawn and nick are the new Clint and JJ am I right? #TheBachelorette

@kaitlynbristowe: Shawn and nick are the new Clint and JJ am I right? #TheBachelorette

best part is I think she's still in the sh with Shawn posting this.

Edit- jinx Blu, you owe me a coke

Something is just so very fake about the Nick and Shawn fight.  It was as if they were told to fight, but could hardly muster up enough anger.  It was just strange.  Why was Nick wearing the sweater that he wore on his date with Kaitlyn.  Was this fight actually earlier in the day, the morning after the RC?  Makes sense if so-  IMO, Nick knew Shawn was going to throw him under the bus, so he was going to do the same.  This is all so fifth grade, and I like both guys.  I liked them better when they were smiling at each other and talking on the couch.  They have known Kaitlyn less than two days total, and most of that was kissing/sex/ etc.  Raging hormones and isolation; the catalyst for true love.

soccermom333 wrote:Shawn melts with her and i love it when he smiles so big with her.  I have only seen him do that with her.    

are you sure it's not just gas? :peanutbutter:

Wasn't there some joke on sm between Nick and Kaitlyn about bacon? If so, it may have been referring to the morning after convo and makes me think they are still friends. Hope so- they really seem to enjoy each other.

Alanna wrote:@kaitlynbristowe: Shawn and nick are the new Clint and JJ am I right? #TheBachelorette

best part is I think she's still in the sh with Shawn posting this.

Edit- jinx Blu, you owe me a coke

So you think they will fast forward through FS date with her and Nick and the morning after?

So did Kailtyn only tell Shawn about sex with Nick or the other guys too?
Because if only Shawn, that speaks to his trust issues, imo. Kaitlyn clearly stated she knew that about him. Odd then that Ben did't get to hear the confession either. (Undoubtedly because she wasn't interested in him).