Ben Higgins - Bachelorette 11 - *Spoilers - Sleuthing* - Discussion #2

FLChica wrote:I can check all the boxes on the "would make a good Bachelor checklist" with Ben H. He's gorgeous, well-spoken, can claim bonafide employment, owns a home, involved in charitable work, good with kids and had a previous serious relationship. All of this transpired before TPTB got ahold of him.  Ben H. for Bachelor? Yes, please. 

FLChica wrote:I can check all the boxes on the "would make a good Bachelor checklist"

eversotrue wrote:

stuckinsc wrote:Technically, Tenley would pull a Kacie B and probably with a similar outcome. I have no problem with her pursuing whoever she wants, but since she can you know, text, call, FT, whatever, then why put it on SM for the rest of the world to see? It is like she tries to force these guys to want her and that is pathetic to me. If a girl IRL pursued a guy she knew IRL this hard on SM, most would call her creepy.

As for gentle Ben. Of course Shawn had no jealousy toward Ben, was a terrific little puppy and happily sat and watched Shawn cuddle Kaitlyn for 6 or 7 hours. Sorry Shawn, you thought of Ben as your bestie, not as a guy dating Kaitlyn. JMO.

And Kaitlyn's recommendation is probably the only reason I don't want Ben for bachelor, since I don't share her taste in most men. Now if Ben had made her feel a little uncomfortable about herself, sure, but he was that cute little puppy who was happy to watch her cuddle Shawn. Yuck.

Ben H, I really like you, don't care that you are 26, but being bestiies with KaitBoo lowers my opinion of you. If you are anything like the guy the last self centered bachelorette recommended for the bachelor then I say, no thanks!

?? This sounds like fic Anyway, none of this is anything that anyone involved has said. And there's no reason to believe that any of this is true. Why cant Ben be friends with Shawn? 

jen689 wrote:

FLChica wrote: I can check all the boxes on the "would make a good Bachelor checklist"

I hope Ben's also good at handling all the drama the producers willl put him through. They're always looking for that "shock" factor to keep people talking. They don't care about a love story only the ratings which equal income and job security for those who are employed by the show.

stuckinsc wrote:And yes, I do find watching Shawn and Kaitlyn cuddle in bed for six to seven hours odd. But I also complimented him for bringing it up to her like an adult.

stuckinsc wrote:

eversotrue wrote:

stuckinsc wrote:Technically, Tenley would pull a Kacie B and probably with a similar outcome. I have no problem with her pursuing whoever she wants, but since she can you know, text, call, FT, whatever, then why put it on SM for the rest of the world to see? It is like she tries to force these guys to want her and that is pathetic to me. If a girl IRL pursued a guy she knew IRL this hard on SM, most would call her creepy.

As for gentle Ben. Of course Shawn had no jealousy toward Ben, was a terrific little puppy and happily sat and watched Shawn cuddle Kaitlyn for 6 or 7 hours. Sorry Shawn, you thought of Ben as your bestie, not as a guy dating Kaitlyn. JMO.

And Kaitlyn's recommendation is probably the only reason I don't want Ben for bachelor, since I don't share her taste in most men. Now if Ben had made her feel a little uncomfortable about herself, sure, but he was that cute little puppy who was happy to watch her cuddle Shawn. Yuck.

Ben H, I really like you, don't care that you are 26, but being bestiies with KaitBoo lowers my opinion of you. If you are anything like the guy the last self centered bachelorette recommended for the bachelor then I say, no thanks!

?? This sounds like fic Anyway, none of this is anything that anyone involved has said. And there's no reason to believe that any of this is true. Why cant Ben be friends with Shawn? And why to everything else you said..?


Why are people so hard on these people? We dont know anything! Why finish writing the story when you weren't even the one that started it? Mind boggling.

Funny thing, it is my opinion and I am aloud to it, just like you are allowed to yours. I believe that what is not allowed is telling others what to think or feel.

BlackHalo wrote:

stuckinsc wrote:And yes, I do find watching Shawn and Kaitlyn cuddle in bed for six to seven hours odd. But I also complimented him for bringing it up to her like an adult.

We don't know that Kaitlyn was literally cuddling in bed with Shawn in front of Ben. Kaitlyn and Shawn are tacky but that's just cruel and I don't see them doing it. All we know is that the three of them talked for 6 hours while she was on the bed with Shawn. And I don't think whose bed she was on was the issue. It is what she said when Ben left the room that was the issue.

eirekay wrote:

BlackHalo wrote:

stuckinsc wrote:And yes, I do find watching Shawn and Kaitlyn cuddle in bed for six to seven hours odd. But I also complimented him for bringing it up to her like an adult.

We don't know that Kaitlyn was literally cuddling in bed with Shawn in front of Ben. Kaitlyn and Shawn are tacky but that's just cruel and I don't see them doing it. All we know is that the three of them talked for 6 hours while she was on the bed with Shawn. And I don't think whose bed she was on was the issue. It is what she said when Ben left the room that was the issue.

My whole bias against Ben is exact that ^  He knew what was up.  He saw it with his own eyes and the fix was in.  He opted to stay even though he knew what the outcome was going to be and played it for the opportunity to be TB.  Comes across to me like compromising values for the desired outcome.

Good looking but I didn't see much of a personality.  Too white bread for me....

eirekay wrote:

BlackHalo wrote:

stuckinsc wrote:And yes, I do find watching Shawn and Kaitlyn cuddle in bed for six to seven hours odd. But I also complimented him for bringing it up to her like an adult.

We don't know that Kaitlyn was literally cuddling in bed with Shawn in front of Ben. Kaitlyn and Shawn are tacky but that's just cruel and I don't see them doing it. All we know is that the three of them talked for 6 hours while she was on the bed with Shawn. And I don't think whose bed she was on was the issue. It is what she said when Ben left the room that was the issue.

My whole bias against Ben is exact that ^  He knew what was up.  He saw it with his own eyes and the fix was in.  He opted to stay even though he knew what the outcome was going to be and played it for the opportunity to be TB.  Comes across to me like compromising values for the desired outcome.

Good looking but I didn't see much of a personality.  Too white bread for me....