BIP Season 2 - Carly Waddell - *Sleuthing Spoilers*

ironcat wrote:As someone who has been painfully dumped in the (distant) past by a guy who I thought was "the one", I will always have sympathy for someone like Carly, even if she is not handling herself perfectly and not behaving according to proper breakup "etiquette".  Yes, it was only a three week relationship, but as we all know, three weeks in Bachelor time, when you have nothing to do but focus on your romance, and no contact with work/family/friends/home life to distract you, and in this case when you pretty much spend 24/7 with your "partner", is far more intense (and in your mind becomes more meaningful if you think the relationship is really going somewhere) than a normal 3 week dating situation would be.  Carly, a woman who apparently has been unlucky in love all her life, finally thought she had met "The One".  She wasn't competing with other women for Kirk's affection; however much he may have been hesitant to open up with her, he gave her no indication that he would have considered dating someone else, like some of the other guys did, which probably only reinforced to her that he was truly interested in her.  To be blunt, she wasn't the prettiest girl there, or even one of the prettiest, but miracle of miracle, she landed one of the good guys right away, no wonder she was on cloud 9 (and yeah, she started getting smug about it, I suspect she's had long years of experience not being in the popular crowd, and those long buried snubs can still affect your grown up behavior years later).  Then within seconds the whole fantasy she has been living becomes a delusion.  If something similar has never happened to you, consider yourself lucky.  Not to mention she had to endure this with cameras recording it (her choice to date on TV, but doesn't make it suck less at the moment).  And then she's had to relive the whole thing week after week.  I'm not the least bit surprised she's not over it yet. She's human, warts and all.

I guess I can just relate to Carly and her situation easier than I can to someone like Samantha and her "charmed" life who has probably always had guys (and some girls) falling at her feet because of her looks, and has never had to fight to be popular.  And I don't think that Kirk is a bad guy at all, in fact, I think he's a really nice guy who is in his own way, as socially awkward/unsophisticated as Carly, which is why he handled things so poorly.

BowenAnderson wrote:I agree.  

I would like to Taylor Swift Carly's hair.  
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Me: Did you and Kirk talk more after After Paradise?

Carly: We have talked a few times after paradise. Kirk actually had an ex at home that he couldn't get out of his head...so he went back to pursue what he had left at home. He said the more the weeks went on...the more he felt like he was stepping backwards to her...instead of forwards with me. It hurt hearing that, but gave me a giant sense of closure. And I knew that he was at least listening to his heart...and that's what we should all strive to do. I didn't bring this up on After Paradise because I didn't want to make it about a 3rd party member, and I wanted him to bring it up first and foremost...which he didn't. I'm not sure about the status of that relationship.
It breaks my heart to see all the hate he is getting. He doesn't deserve ANY of that.

Me: Do you forgive him?

Carly: Yes. I do. I loved him. That's what you do when you love someone. He will forever be in my heart.

chasingpavements wrote:Was this posted? From Aliluvs.com

Me: Did you and Kirk talk more after After Paradise?

Carly: We have talked a few times after paradise. Kirk actually had an ex at home that he couldn't get out of his head...so he went back to pursue what he had left at home. He said the more the weeks went on...the more he felt like he was stepping backwards to her...instead of forwards with me. It hurt hearing that, but gave me a giant sense of closure. And I knew that he was at least listening to his heart...and that's what we should all strive to do. I didn't bring this up on After Paradise because I didn't want to make it about a 3rd party member, and I wanted him to bring it up first and foremost...which he didn't. I'm not sure about the status of that relationship.
It breaks my heart to see all the hate he is getting. He doesn't deserve ANY of that.

Me: Do you forgive him?

Carly: Yes. I do. I loved him. That's what you do when you love someone. He will forever be in my heart.

chasingpavements wrote:I think Carly is just playing up her victim status (much like Melissa on Jason's ATFR), when she's probably just fine IRL.