Britt Nilsson - Bachelorette 11 - Discussion

Sprite wrote:Another person who is not jealous of Britt.

Why is it that when women don't like other women it is assumed that it is because of jealousy?

While Britt seems a nice enough, pretty woman what bothered me about her more than anything else was her OTT behaviour. (Her behaviour to Kaitlyn was a whole separate issue. Like other people who usually get what they want and then react negatively if things don't go their way.) She seemed to be constantly "on". Whether or not that is her real personality or if she was that way because of the circumstances of the show, doesn't really matter to me. That constant perkiness is annoying to me...and I just watched a few minutes of her every week. I can only imagine how grating that would be to me if I was stuck with her in a stressful environment where my every move was filmed for weeks on end!

Britt may be a kind person, but that kind of energy is difficult for me to put up with...let alone live with. Absolutely nothing to do with jealousy.

I agree! It drives me crazy that is reserved for women - no one was like "oh, people were just jealous of Kupah!". Everyone just accepted that he was rude and agressive and mean and the guys didn't like him for legitimate reasons. 

I don't buy the jealousy argument either. If that was the case, why did all the girls love Kaitlyn, who as Ashley I said, most of the girls thought was the frontrunner. Why did they all love Jade and Samantha, who were also equally as striking as Britt? I don't think Britt is a bad person, but I can guarantee she would rub me the wrong way. She came off as very rehearsed, entitled, and overly confident. That type of personality is going to get under peoples' skin! I always feel like it's very easy to carefully construct an image on SM that comes across as likable, but a much better representation of your character is if you are able to get along with other people. JMO.

mindless wrote:Yeah, I still don't like Britt. Reading her blog I get the sense that she's a very insecure young woman who doesn't really know who she is or how to be herself. It's like she's playing a role of someone she would like to be rather than really being that way. Her blog entry on confidence also bothered me, because she's still basing hers on outside approval. Doesn't matter if it's the approval of a higher being rather than other people, it still doesn't come from within. True self-confidence does. "The blind leading the blind" comes to mind when reading her essays.

People who keep declaring their love via SM on a regular basis also get a massive side-eye from me, but they seem like a good fit, so all the best to them!

Good choice removing that tattoo, it was truly hideous.  

She stated that she struggled and continues to struggle with confidence. Imo she is using her blog to help young women who may relate and have similar problems or explain to those who don't what it feels like to have them. Some of us struggle with confidence regardless of believing in a higher power or not and we all like to be liked so unfortunately approval seeking is common imo.

I don't think I am trying to change anyone's opinions of Britt but just wanted to bring forth the idea of a bigger picture than what was shown and to the possibility of being swayed one way or another like I was. Hmmmm that said, maybe I was trying to change opinions because we all like who is believable to us and likeable to us based on our own experiences etc etc.

Oh sorry for being pushy , continue on.

In day to day life I would agree that it doesn't always boil down to jealousy, but on this highly superficial show where so much is based on looks, I can believe a lot of jealousy goes on! Esp if the lead is into you. But I also think Britt's personality had a lot to do with it.

Haha I only said a bit of it was probably jealousy! I admitted she has an overwhelming personality that most likely annoyed the other women and that was probably the main reason, but I do think much of Carly's behavior towards Britt was jealousy. Not just because of her appearance, although I do think that played a part, but also because Britt was more aggressive in pursuing CS and I think that upset Carly because of her past bad relationship taking a toll on her self-esteem and not feeling desirable and then here she was watching this attractive woman who had the "confidence" to pursue the lead. It's understandable and I don't think Carly was a bad person for feeling that way. I just don't buy that she was just looking out for CS and protecting him from being hurt by Britt. I do think there are women who just dislike women merely because of jealousy. If I'm being honest with myself, I used to be one of those women and it was because I was an insecure person who didn't feel attractive and I didn't have an ounce of the confidence the women I was jealous of had and I desperately wanted.

I wouldn't say I'm a fan of Britt and I'd probably still be annoyed watching her on TV because personalities like hers do exhaust me, but she still impresses me a lot more than most of the pathetic, desperate and attention-seeking women from that season, especially one in particular who has proven herself to be quite mean and nasty and actually does accuse women of just being jealous of her. I don't care if Britt is fake. I do think she probably is. I just don't think it's the worst thing in the world and she's not really hurting anybody by being that way. I think she's not comfortable being her true self for whatever reason, which I find sad but she probably has a reason for it. I still like her and I can relate to her much more than I could before.

^^ Great posts these last two. Very well said.

bleuberry wrote:In day to day life I would agree that it doesn't always boil down to jealousy, but on this highly superficial show where so much is based on looks, I can believe a lot of jealousy goes on! Esp if the lead is into you. But I also think Britt's personality had a lot to do with it.

I don't disagree that there is some jealousy, however I don't really think that it is necessarily based on looks. There were other women there who were just as attractive as Britt, if not more so...Samantha, the Ashley's and Jade all come to mind. Jade even made it further and yet nobody seemed jealous of her. It is probably a combination of things...looks, personality, attention received from the lead, producer suggestions, etc. I think in this case, to me at least, it seemed to be more about Britt's personality and how she handled her relationship with the lead in front of the others. Perhaps, because of her own insecurities she played up her connection to Chris more than someone like Jade and because she just seems to have that over the top, bouncing off the walls personality, it annoyed them more than if it had been someone else.

There are always a lot of very attractive people on this show and all things considered, I think there is actually very little jealousy. Of any jealousy that is present, it seems to be more a result of the confines of filming and producer manipulation, since most of them seem to get along fine post show...even those that didn't necessarily get along during filming.

I agree with Blu and others who see Britt with opened eyes.
With her extraordinary looks being half Cherokee Indian
and half Swedish and Hungarian. Father who is CI is also
devastatingly good looking. She brings to the table someone
different and misunderstood. Carly was jealous of Britt IMO
I wish Britt the best, she deserves it. Cherokee Indian  hence
The dream catcher. Says Britt 

@jerjoe83 by @brittkarolina

Nonina430 wrote:I agree with Blu and others who see Britt with opened eyes.
With her extraordinary looks being half Cherokee Indian
and half Swedish and Hungarian. Father who is CI is also
devastatingly good looking. She brings to the table someone
different and misunderstood. Carly was jealous of Britt IMO
I wish Britt the best, she deserves it. Cherokee Indian  hence
The dream catcher. Says Britt 

I beg to differ with respect.
I don't think Carly was neccessarily jealous, Britt could be hard to live with, with all her energies, her talks of god and her constant changes of heart, that could be too too much. Carly is the most outspoken and snarky, so I think she just took the heat. And I don't see many girl in the house is friend with Britt, so it led me to think something more than just girls' jealousy.

I do wish Britt the best, everyone deserves love.

^^^^ Nah Carly was too much on BIP and was very annoying from what I saw. She is a very insecure person.

I am so happy Britt found love and stayed true herself , I always liked her and am rooting for her.

rhondam wrote:

mindless wrote:Yeah, I still don't like Britt. Reading her blog I get the sense that she's a very insecure young woman who doesn't really know who she is or how to be herself. It's like she's playing a role of someone she would like to be rather than really being that way. Her blog entry on confidence also bothered me, because she's still basing hers on outside approval. Doesn't matter if it's the approval of a higher being rather than other people, it still doesn't come from within. True self-confidence does. "The blind leading the blind" comes to mind when reading her essays.

People who keep declaring their love via SM on a regular basis also get a massive side-eye from me, but they seem like a good fit, so all the best to them!

Good choice removing that tattoo, it was truly hideous.  

She stated that she struggled and continues to struggle with confidence. Imo she is using her blog to help young women who may relate and have similar problems or explain to those who don't what it feels like to have them. Some of us struggle with confidence regardless of believing in a higher power or not and we all like to be liked so unfortunately approval seeking is common imo.

I don't think I am trying to change anyone's opinions of Britt but just wanted to bring forth the idea of a bigger picture than what was shown and to the possibility of being swayed one way or another like I was. Hmmmm that said, maybe I was trying to change opinions because we all like who is believable to us and likeable to us based on our own experiences etc etc.

Oh sorry for being pushy , continue on.

Yep. I just thinks she is a misunderstood girl that has no bad bone in her body...that's all. Everyone has an opinion and its fine if people dont like her but I think she is a sincere God fearing woman who has a good heart.

peggy0221 wrote:

Nonina430 wrote:I agree with Blu and others who see Britt with opened eyes.
With her extraordinary looks being half Cherokee Indian
and half Swedish and Hungarian. Father who is CI is also
devastatingly good looking. She brings to the table someone
different and misunderstood. Carly was jealous of Britt IMO
I wish Britt the best, she deserves it. Cherokee Indian  hence
The dream catcher. Says Britt 

I beg to differ with respect.
I don't think Carly was neccessarily jealous, Britt could be hard to live with, with all her energies, her talks of god and her constant changes of heart, that could be too too much. Carly is the most outspoken and snarky, so I think she just took the heat. And I don't see many girl in the house is friend with Britt, so it led me to think something more than just girls' jealousy.

I do wish Britt the best, everyone deserves love.

That is pretty telling for me. Even her BFF on the show, Jillian, seemed pretty close with Carly after BIP. It was interesting to me that even Whitney, who seemed to get along with everyone, made a comment in her ITM that one time about "you might be the prettiest girl in the room but that's not everything". Whitney never really struck me as a jealous person, so I always thought it was an indication that Britt kind of rubbed it in or came of as entitled because of her looks. 

Jade did say on a periscope that Carly and Britt talked on the phone after WTA and resolved all their crap, but they're just never going to be BFFs.