Re: Andi Dorfman and Josh Murray Bachelorette 10 - Media - Twitter - General Discussion Thread #2

[umngirl]

Andi just needs to ignore the negativity. There's a reason there is a block/report function on social media sites. Use them. An the negativity won't stop for awhile. They aren't even three out of being public.

[stuckinsc]

Andi just needs to ignore the negativity. There's a reason there is a block/report function on social media sites. Use them. An the negativity won't stop for awhile. They aren't even three out of being public.

Andi also posts stuff about her and Josh all the time. She is choosing to keep them visible, so the negativity isn't going to settle as easily.

Again, you can't beg for the attention one way and then get upset with the other. Umn is right, block and ignore.

[soccermom333]

Most of the negativity is from the rag mags.... Just like Seancat. They both have tons of followers and supporters. I believe they just need to focus on each other (which they definitely do) and all the love from the positive supporters.

[luvlady345]

Andi just needs to ignore the negativity. There's a reason there is a block/report function on social media sites. Use them. An the negativity won't stop for awhile. They aren't even three out of being public.

Andi also posts stuff about her and Josh all the time.  She is choosing to keep them visible, so the negativity isn't going to settle as easily.

Again, you can't beg for the attention one way and then get upset with the other.  Umn is right, block and ignore.  

But seriously, you are asking Andi to not do something that most women and for that matter men do when they are in a relationship, post pictures and say things about the person they love.... I don't think Andi was tweeting about the negativity on twitter she said rumors, so you can't block that, and again she is human it's not like she is saying something everyday about the rumors even if she does, she is free to say what she wants...

[stuckinsc]

Andi just needs to ignore the negativity. There's a reason there is a block/report function on social media sites. Use them. An the negativity won't stop for awhile. They aren't even three out of being public.

Andi also posts stuff about her and Josh all the time.  She is choosing to keep them visible, so the negativity isn't going to settle as easily.

Again, you can't beg for the attention one way and then get upset with the other.  Umn is right, block and ignore.  

But seriously, you are asking Andi to not do something that most women and for that matter men do when they are in a relationship, post pictures and say things about the person they love....  I don't think Andi was tweeting about the negativity on twitter she said rumors, so you can't block that, and again she is human it's not like she is saying something everyday about the rumors even if she does, she is free to say what she wants...

She is free to post what ever she wants. My response is that three months after the FRC there are still rumors. Andi herself is making her relationship public, so yes, rag mags will continue to say stuff. They do it all the time and the current couple is usually one of the targets. The more they put themselves out in the public the more the rag mags and others will keep it up.

I hope she and Nikki both will learn to just ignore the negative and not acknowledge it as it gives it power. But if she wishes to not have to deal with stories and such, she can make her life less public as well.

As I was saying, if she, Nikki or anyone else chose to stay public, then they will also have to deal with stuff like this. It is the nature of the beast.

[soccermom333]

I don't compare Nikki to Andi at all. According to Nikki herself, she wants nothing to do with ANY fans. Andi loves her fans and takes pictures all the time. Andi does not mind fans, Nikki does. Andi is way more popular than Nikki and has hundreds of thousands more followers. I don't think Nikki's "issues" can compare to Andi. IMHO Andi and Josh are very much in love and a united front. Not sure about Nikki and Juan. The jury is still out.

I only bring up Nikki because for some reason the two are being compared.

[Ash2214]

I wasn't going to respond, but I think it's a bit silly to say that by putting themselves out there, such as posting their pictures to social media and attending charity events, gives rag mags and negative people ammunition to be negative towards them. Lets face it, if they didn't post pictures and didn't attend charity events together, rag mags and negative people will jump on them and run with the idea that since they don't post about each other on social media or that they're not spotted out together that means they've broken up or aren't happy together. Each couple from this franchise is really in a no win situation with rag mags and just negative people in general.

I've seen every couple from this franchise do it. Someone was a bit sassy and rude and asked Des the other day if she even had a job on Twitter. Des gave some sass back and stated all of her work. She responded to negativity. I've seen Catherine respond in regards to those who stated she looked/thought she was pregnant. Catherine responded to a rumor. Sean or Catherine (I can't remember who) posted a picture of a magazine where they stated they broke up or were fighting and made a joke about it. Regardless, they still responded to the negativity. They all do it and I understand why. It must be difficult to do normal things, such as read social media, and see negative and false things about you and or your significant other. It's a very normal reaction. Heck, I've seen people here state in the midst of a heated conversation that they didn't like the negative attitude that was given to them or they felt that they were being attacked. If that's how the person feels, then I get it and understand it. It's not fun feeling like that.

We're humans. It can be easy to avoid some issues and difficult for others.

[luvlady345]

But what Andi is doing is normal, posting pictures on her twitter and IG like any other normal person would do..... If she doesn't ignore the rumors 5% of the time that's ok...

[stuckinsc]

I appreciate everyone's opinion. I stated mine. Personally, I think Andi seeks the attention with her posts and very much enjoys the VIP treatment she is getting. The VIP access to Music Midtown, instead of down with the masses. Sideline passes to UGA games. Trips to New York to hang out with J&E. She is very much enjoying it all.

She is posting a lot, which is her right. By doing so she and Josh are keeping themselves in the media's eye. That is okay too, but it does mean that when the rag mags need a target they will be on the list. It is a trade off they are choosing to make.

Honestly beyond here and looking at the Yahoo front page, I don't follow much, but I haven't heard a ton of rumors of break up, so to me, I guess I don't think they have dealt with all that much more than all the other couples all the way back to Trista/Ryan. This is part of being part of the franchise and keeping yourself out in the media's eye.

I don't feel bad and think it is just too much for Andi to take, since she is choosing to contribute to it. If the negative is just too much to take then she is welcome to back off and stay out of the public eye. Just my opinion.

[BohemianNika]

I appreciate everyone's opinion.  I stated mine.  Personally, I think Andi seeks the attention with her posts and very much enjoys the VIP treatment she is getting.  The VIP access to Music Midtown, instead of down with the masses.  Sideline passes to UGA games.  Trips to New York to hang out with J&E.  She is very much enjoying it all.

She is posting a lot, which is her right.  By doing so she and Josh are keeping themselves in the media's eye.  That is okay too, but it does mean that when the rag mags need a target they will be on the list.  It is a trade off they are choosing to make.

Honestly beyond here and looking at the Yahoo front page, I don't follow much, but I haven't heard a ton of rumors of break up, so to me, I guess I don't think they have dealt with all that much more than all the other couples all the way back to Trista/Ryan.  This is part of being part of the franchise and keeping yourself out in the media's eye.  

I don't feel bad and think it is just too much for Andi to take, since she is choosing to contribute to it.  If the negative is just too much to take then she is welcome to back off and stay out of the public eye.  Just my opinion.

CDL runs a fake story about Andi and Josh every few days and other rags are then using them as "source". I make it a point not to click on them, but made an exception for the purposes of my answer. The latest BS they're trying to sell? They claim Andi and Josh made a guest appearance on Couples Therapy, pretending their romantic relationship was in trouble. Then they go on that their plan backfired, because they didn't get enough publicity from their appearance on CT, other than couple articles in some tabloids. :vomit:  It's such an obvious lie, that it would be laughable, if there weren't people who actually believe there must be some truth to it.

I do think that Andi is focusing on the positives on SM - at least from what I can see on twitter and IG. I also think that the biggest trolls on SM have moved on, so I guess they weren't getting the attention they crave so much . IMO, the ridiculous lies in the tabloids is what annoys her, and I for one totally understand why. Of course, it comes with the territory, but that doesn't make it fine.

I don't think things would change if Andi and Josh went silent on their relationship on SM. The rags will publish BS as long as there are people who click on their "articles". I believe that most of the people who follow  A&J on SM are not among those readers. Maybe I'm just being naive (or I'm just projecting )

I do hope, for Andi's sake, that she'll learn to completely ignore them, but I believe that might be a process, not something you can decide over night. She has the best guy to support her in this by her side

[luvlady345]

But the thing is, what Josh/Andi has done or are doing is nothing media worthy per-say.. Side lined at the GA game is a perk because Josh is a former player, going to a charity event is normal, going to a midtown music event is normal and "NORMAL" people can get a VIP booth.... I didn't see them in People/US/OK magazine for attending those events, Stuck, you said Andi contributing to it but how? Living her/their life? I mean I don't get it? Her posting pictures on IG/twitter is what people do? What should she do don't attend football games or charity events and stop posting pictures? When 99% of humans do the same? For me Andi can tweet about the rumors whenever she wants, because it's her life and her twitter if she feels the need to.... LOL, on my twitter when something is bothering me I tweet about it also and most people do.... Just because she was on the bachelorette doesn't make her inhuman... I know that because some might not like Andi everything she do is wrong, but let's be realistic if posting pictures, going to football games and charity events are contributing to rumors of impending breakups then I just don't know what to say....

[Guest]

I wasn't going to respond, but I think it's a bit silly to say that by putting themselves out there, such as posting their pictures to social media and attending charity events, gives rag mags and negative people ammunition to be negative towards them. Lets face it, if they didn't post pictures and didn't attend charity events together, rag mags and negative people will jump on them and run with the idea that since they don't post about each other on social media or that they're not spotted out together that means they've broken up or aren't happy together. Each couple from this franchise is really in a no win situation with rag mags and just negative people in general.

I've seen every couple from this franchise do it. Someone was a bit sassy and rude and asked Des the other day if she even had a job on Twitter. Des gave some sass back and stated all of her work. She responded to negativity. I've seen Catherine respond in regards to those who stated she looked/thought she was pregnant. Catherine responded to a rumor. Sean or Catherine (I can't remember who) posted a picture of a magazine where they stated they broke up or were fighting and made a joke about it. Regardless, they still responded to the negativity. They all do it and I understand why. It must be difficult to do normal things, such as read social media, and see negative and false things about you and or your significant other. It's a very normal reaction. Heck, I've seen people here state in the midst of a heated conversation that they didn't like the negative attitude that was given to them or they felt that they were being attacked. If that's how the person feels, then I get it and understand it. It's not fun feeling like that.

We're humans. It can be easy to avoid some issues and difficult for others.

I totally agree with this, especially the bolded part. I also disagree with GA that Andi's recent post shows a lack of strength. Even the strongest of women would struggle with the constant claims that their relationship is fake. That's been the biggest thing on these rag sites lately, that Andi and Josh are putting on a show and aren't in love. I feel Andi is just showing her wittiness on SM to refute these claims, particularly to reassure their loyal fans that all is well. Even Patti Dorfman tweeted recently that Hy doesn't fake anything (like thier parents are going to go along with such a charade! Such stupid tabloids!!). But it's all done with wittiness in my opinion. I've enjoyed her posts and hope she and Josh continue to share their love story with their fans!

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