Re: Ben Patton - Ready For Love - Spoilers - Thread #1

[ellag]

Does anyone know where to find a "promo" for the finale?

Unfortunately, they having been giving us previews since it went off the air. The first promo has some shots of the finale though.

Also.. I see that was your first post... welcome!

Thank you! And I'm trying to find the first promo on Youtube...isn't happening

ellag


Are you trying to find the extended preview they showed during Episode 1?

Yes I am!

[stg73]

Is next week the final episode? Good gosh I hope so, this has occupied way more of my time than it should!!! I think since they canceled the show, all of their "contracts" should be a void!

[maighread]

If you haven't seen this clip, give it a look: http://www.nbc.com/ready-for-love/video/tarryn-vs-allie/n36999/

At the 2:49 mark, straight from Allie's mouth, comes this gem: "I'm excited because I think Ben feels bad for me. When a man feels bad for a woman, it makes them, their feelings stronger."

Say what you will about Allie being sweet, loving, a great match, and that we're not seeing the 'whole Allie', that right there is a very telling look into how she views relationships. At best, it's an immature 'Barbie Princess and Disneyland and Fairy Tales' view of reality, which I genuinely hope she outgrows and replaces with something healthier and more emotionally stable. At worst, it's something more deeply dysfunctional. Either way, I think it goes a long way toward explaining why she seems to thrive on drama and playing the damsel-in-distress card.

Allie may well be a sweet, kind, lovely, nurturing girl. But she's still a hot mess, and if Ben chooses someone who thinks that a guy 'feeling bad' for a woman is a recipe for positive relationship development, he's got problems of his own.

(That said, while I think that Angela is the more mature, poised, and reasonable of the two girls, it doesn't follow that I think she's the absolute best match for him. She may or may be, I don't know.)

[Guest]

maighread,

[MVMom39forever]

Ben tweeted this yesterday:

Ben Patton ‏@Ben_Patton 20h
A lot of people seem to think we saw everything they are seeing on RFL when in reality we only saw what the girls showed us on dates.

Hmmm ... wonder if he is giving out a clue here? When you add this up with what he said on AfterBuzz, I just can't believe he picked Allie. If he did, I can see why they'd be broken up already.

[MVMom39forever]

Angela retweeted Allie's tweet ...

Allie Wagner ‏@Aliwags00 16h
Next week! Here we go!!! It's finally here!!! THANK GOODNESS!!!!!!!!! @AngelaZatopek

Retweeted by Angela Zatopek

[tigertiz]

I cannot believe he tweeted that. Way to throw the girls under a bus.
He ought to just be quiet and gentlemanly. They are the ones who risked heartbreak. They are the ones who were on the hotseat every week.
But instead he's trying to protect HIS image at their expense.
Real impressive , Ben.

[MVMom39forever]

One more for you ... Angela's blog ... oh my gosh, I am officially a fangirl. Love her message in here about friendship:


Ready for Love, Episode 8: Home in Houston

This week on Ready For Love, Ben came to Houston to finally meet my family! I was missing them like crazy and knew that, by meeting them, he would get a better look at who I was as a person.

Rather than a quiet date, I thought I’d show him another side of me and brought him to a skeet shooting range. I am so sad to see that our date didn’t make the edit – it was so fun! You can tell that we were there because when they interviewed me for this episode, I have clear glasses on my head that we had to wear for protective reasons. Just wanted to clear up that I’m not usually sporting those lovely glasses!

My twin brothers also didn’t make the cut during the episode, but everyone was there, and the date couldn’t have gone better. First, we went skeet shooting, and to spice it up, we decided to make different bets based on who would shoot the targets. We had a blast, and it was a close call, but I think Ben may have beaten me by a few shots. I couldn’t totally school him!

After that, we headed to my parents’ house where my hilarious stepfather John greeted us at the door. You can clearly see his Italian roots and his dry sense of humor. It’s so funny to watch because I had no idea what took place in the study that day until now. Even though he comes off harsh, it definitely was his way of having fun with the process and being protective of me. It is a big step for me to introduce someone to my family in that way, and it definitely created a stronger bond between us.

My parents actually got Ben a few Texas-themed gifts that day to welcome him. One that I loved was a Texas Longhorn polo since my family are all Texas alums. Although Ben went to Penn, my mom said he was officially inaugurated into the “burnt orange cult” as we jokingly call it. My birthday was coming up, so my mom made my favorite, red velvet cake, to celebrate. The real celebration, though, was coming up that next week when I got to spend it with Ben in Dallas.

It was so nice to be out of California and back home in Texas. After having him come to Houston to meet my family, I was nervous but excited to head to Dallas to see what life could be like after Ready for Love. At this point in the process, you’re so emotionally invested, but you’ve also come to realize you could be sent home. Being in the final two, I knew that him and Allie also had a strong connection, but I continued to open my heart to him.

Speaking of Allie, as I mentioned in my last blog, the two of us have been close since the first day of production. Now, we were at the end of this process, and ironically, I found myself competing against her. It was such a weird dynamic to be close friends but also have an invisible wall that separated us at the end of the day, knowing one of us would go home eventually. Before we got to the end, we spoke about the scenario and how we would be happy for the other no matter what. It was important to me that we kept things positive.

During that last week, things were so different than the previous weeks. We moved out of the house and into a hotel where we all were completely separated from everyone. Allie had lent me a bag that needed to be returned, so I decided to write her a note and slipped it into the bag before production gave it back to her. At this point, I didn’t know if I would see her again.

I spent a lot of time writing that letter. We had shared all of our past relationship stories with one another, and knowing our love lives were about to change after the finale, I felt that it was the appropriate thing to do. Just like me, she’d been with boyfriends who weren’t right for her. I told her if she was the final choice, I was happy she could be with someone like Ben. If I was the one in the end, I wrote for her to promise me to never settle and wait for God’s best when it comes to love. I had no idea what to expect for the finale, but woman-to-woman, I genuinely meant what I wrote.

I was thankful for our friendship, and regardless of what happened in the end, I hoped that we could be friends later in life. Knowing that it’d be an awkward situation with us both “dating” the same guy all summer, we understood that we most likely wouldn’t talk for a while after the show ended. After I put the note in her bag, I only saw her once more, which was the night of the finale.
Tune in for next week’s finale to see what happens…!

[MVMom39forever]

I cannot believe he tweeted that. Way to throw the girls under a bus.
He ought to just be quiet and gentlemanly. They are the ones who risked heartbreak. They are the ones who were on the hotseat every week.
But instead he's trying to protect HIS image at their expense.
Real impressive , Ben.

I gotta imagine he's getting slammed for keeping Allie as she has been quite a hand-full in the house (at least her edit portrays her that way).

But it's all love between Angela and Allie at least. In response to Allie's tweet about end being near, Angela tweeted back:

Angela Zatopek ‏@AngelaZatopek 6h
@Aliwags00 Jedi fights, pizza roll outings, pool days, charles shaw, glade sing alongs, and dance choreography just a few mems of our summer

Could very well be another case of the sis-mance (or whatever the opposite of bro-mance) is lasting longer than the actual romance of Ben and his final pick.

[Guest]

Angela's blog is sweet and loving, but I feel it also carries the tone of f2. I may be way off base, but that's just the vibe I got.

[klisack]

Angela and Allie both are amazing girls. The editing for this show tried to bring out an aspect of each girl. Allie is extremely intelligent and sweet. Please do not let editing give you the wrong impression of her. Angela is AMAZING and extremely intelligent as well. Ben would be lucky to get either girl. We have all been talking about who would be best for Ben. But through this season I at times wondered if Ben was good enough for these girls. Ben seems like a good guy but I have a lot of issues with things that he has said. EX. Did he ask Kari to be on the show more than once?, did he lie about Kari messaging everyone from the party. (This one bothers me because they all seem to be friends now.) Angela and Kari are all friends with Ben Scott from the Bachelor..they all run in the same circles. There is absolutely not hate between these girls like the show would have you believe. Ben and that interview with afterbuzz was just so all over the place. One moment he is defending Kari and the next he is throwing her under the bus. I just don't know what direction he is going. Again though this could be due to editing although the interview was not edited. I guess what I am getting at is I am wondering if these girls have been thrown to the wolves by editing. I mean I felt really bad for Tarryn. They didn't show Matt going off on her family for a half an hour previous to what they showed. She was pissed once they got to the part that they showed. Editing again sucks with this show. I am just getting to know who the girls really are by tweeting with them. Every single one of them has been courteous, gracious, kind, and friendly. I have not gotten one bad vibe from Allie or Kari. Both are very strong and intelligent women. They are all looking forward to the end of this mess. I think that is what Allie may have been saying with the finally. They can go back to living their lives again out in the open and not in secret. The girls have only been able to reveal relationships they are in after they leave. It really stinks for them.

[2observe]

Can someone explain to me why Angela is blogging her time with Ben on the Show??? Wouldn't that confirm that she is F1???? I never quite understood the reason fo this, and why no one else blogged.

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