Emily Maynard's Bachelorette 8 Blogs - Discussion

ironcat wrote:Jef will be 28 next month. Yes, he has a young "baby face" (sure he shaves though, as do all "baby faced" men), but I honestly don't get how so much about his personality, level of maturity, and strength of character can be gleaned by the fact that he simply does not look his age. Does that also mean that people who have aged poorly (due perhaps to alcohol/drug abuse) and now look 50 even though they're only 30, are more mature and responsible, because they look older?

I totally agree. I don't know why people focus so much on the fact that he looks young. For Example, Ryan is 31 and act childish. Age is nothing but a number, and looks don't even count when it comes to maturity!

Anyway..i think we have had too much discussion on Jef's young looks. At this point, we are beating a dead horse.

I bet Emily is busy planning Jef's Birthday party! ooh..can't wait to see pictures :cutesmile!:

ironcat wrote:Jef will be 28 next month. Yes, he has a young "baby face" (sure he shaves though, as do all "baby faced" men), but I honestly don't get how so much about his personality, level of maturity, and strength of character can be gleaned by the fact that he simply does not look his age. Does that also mean that people who have aged poorly (due perhaps to alcohol/drug abuse) and now look 50 even though they're only 30, are more mature and responsible, because they look older?

I like Jef, a lot, but he has a few very childish mannerisms, things I'm not used to seeing in grown men but am used to seeing in my daughter's friends. Not very often, just ... sometimes. I don't really know what to make of it, given I don't know the guy and probably never will. He's an interesting combination, that is for sure: alternating between saying these amazing mature things, being funny and warm, and then acting like a little kid. Good combination for a dad, that I do know

dw_a_mom wrote:

ironcat wrote:Jef will be 28 next month. Yes, he has a young "baby face" (sure he shaves though, as do all "baby faced" men), but I honestly don't get how so much about his personality, level of maturity, and strength of character can be gleaned by the fact that he simply does not look his age. Does that also mean that people who have aged poorly (due perhaps to alcohol/drug abuse) and now look 50 even though they're only 30, are more mature and responsible, because they look older?

I like Jef, a lot, but he has a few very childish mannerisms, things I'm not used to seeing in grown men but am used to seeing in my daughter's friends. Not very often, just ... sometimes. I don't really know what to make of it, given I don't know the guy and probably never will. He's an interesting combination, that is for sure: alternating between saying these amazing mature things, being funny and warm, and then acting like a little kid. Good combination for a dad, that I do know

I understand what you're saying, but I think it comes down to a distinction between having some "childlike" qualities, which as you say, can make for a great dad, and having some "childish" qualities, which are signs of immaturity and definitely do not. I'd say Jef may have some childlike mannerisms, not childish ones.

Emily Maynard Blogs About Kissing Guys and Sending Them Home

By Emily Maynard

Tuesday June 19, 2012 09:45 AM EDT


Emily Maynard


Right after the rose ceremony in London, I went back to the hotel, said goodbye to Ricki and left for Croatia to have more adventures on The Bachelorette. Saying bye to my daughter was just awful, but right after I left, the babysitter called and said Ricki was already laughing and watching cat videos on YouTube. Clearly, she's her mother's daughter.

People always ask, "Why did you keep the guy with the egg?" I hope that after this date you all got to see what a fun, genuine guy Travis is, and can see why I had such a great time every time I talked to him. Comparing a lady and her daughter to an egg is never a good idea, but thankfully we got to know each other beyond Shelley. We had so much fun exploring Dubrovnik and enjoying each other's company, but we both knew early on that we were destined to be good friends.

I honestly can't remember the last time I went to the movies on a date, so to be sitting in a theater with six men was a little crazy. As we were watching Brave, I couldn't help but wish Ricki were there, but that probably would've just made things slightly more awkward. I was surprised the guys loved the movie just as much as I did, but their smiles quickly faded when I showed them their attire for the day. I wish you all could have seen these guys shooting bows, throwing giant tree trunks and then almost being reduced to tears because they were shivering from being so cold! Ladies, we may not be able to throw a tree across a field, but we can wear a cocktail dress in freezing cold temperatures without batting an eye.

Kiss & Tell
The afterparty was clearly a lot of fun for me, and I honestly didn't realize I had kissed so many of the men. Oops. There's not much I can say to defend myself other than if you can't kiss a bunch of cute boys when you're the Bachelorette, then when can you? I obviously take my position very seriously!

I was really happy that Arie and I were able to pick up right where we had left off, despite our bump in the road in London. I was too hard on him, but it was only because I felt so close to him, and I'm glad he was able to forgive me. I decided to give Chris the group-date rose, because he was feeling a neglected since our first date in Charlotte. As hard as it is, Chris wears his heart on his sleeve and I love that about him!

Too Confident?
I woke up on the day of my date with Ryan and felt so homesick. However, not too long after driving with Ryan, I was laughing and felt better. He has a very sweet, soft side to him, but at the same time there was always something about him that didn't sit well in my heart. Despite his telling me I'd be a great trophy wife, it always felt like every conversation we had somehow led us back to his love for football or some other great attribute he possesses. I've always been attracted to the type of man that has a quieter confidence, and there isn't anything understated about Ryan's confidence.

While we did bond over our passion for our faith, I never felt comfortable being myself around him without feeling like I was being judged. That night I even asked Ryan if he would ever be the Bachelor, and he never gave me a yes or no answer, so that should have been warning sign number 1,298,398. Despite all of this, for some crazy reason I still had such a hard time sending him home, and I know he was just as shocked to be going home. I'd be willing to bet he doesn't hear the word "no" very often.

That night I was feeling a million different emotions, so when I saw Arie standing at my door I couldn't have been happier. We've had this crazy pull to each other since our very first date and he is the person I looked to if I needed cheering up. To hear how happy he and the other guys were about Ryan going home made me more confident in my decision. And it made me more confident in my relationship with Arie, because I could see how much I meant to him.

Usually I have my mind made up before each rose ceremony, but this week I just didn't feel confident in sending anyone home. Thankfully, Chris Harrison gave me one more rose. I truly do see something special in all of the guys I have left. Tune in next week to see if I was right or not!

http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20605283,00.html

Can you imagine what she is going to write next week about her date with Jef? We will be lucky if she remembers even going on a date with Arie the way her blogs have been going.

I love that Em used one of Jef's line in his PI after their London date when he said that he was feeling a million emotions: "That night I was feeling a million different emotions"...

"I've always been attracted to the type of man that has a quieter confidence, and there isn't anything understated about Ryan's confidence."

Now who do we know that has a quieter confidence?

No mention of Jef per se, but definitely little word nuggets sprinkled in that appear to be for Jef's benefit.

What is the deal with the cats? Cats in her blog, her instants
All through out last nights epi? So strange

Bloven wrote:What is the deal with the cats? Cats in her blog, her instants
All through out last nights epi? So strange

1F's hair reminds her of a cat!

skitts wrote:

Bloven wrote:What is the deal with the cats? Cats in her blog, her instants
All through out last nights epi? So strange

1F's hair reminds her of a cat!

First paragraph .. Ricki watching cat videos .. Em and Jef with cat references and pics .. Constant cat references thru out the epi. Uuummmmm :)