Rachel Lindsay & Bryan Abasolo - Bachelorette 13 - Discussion - #2

IMO DLo made it sound worse than it was because she didn’t provide the details, but I can see why Rachel was put off by being called aggressive, especially when that word is often used to mischaracterize Black people. Her and Vanessa both have strong personalities as well, which doesn’t help the situation. It’s not okay to make such accusations and call someone a bully if you don’t have proof for it, so I’m curious to know if Vanessa will express her side of things soon.

Well "aggressive" and "bully" are pretty strong words especially like she said it's stereotypes attributed to African American men and women. She spoke her truth and I appreciate that instead of letting people make racial slur inference from DLo Reddit AMA.

So, according to rachel, the derogatory word is Bully. I am not denying Rachel's hurt feelings but at least it's not as bad as some have asssumed. Also, it's Rachel who requested to be separated, but DLo made it sound like its all because of Vanessa's "bad " behavior that producers had no choice but had to pull V aside. IMO.
See, how the words can be interpreted?

D lo is a snake imo. Im glad that rachel did not let her vague statements take a bigger life on its own. Its good for both parties and it's good that rachel stopped it before it could have become much worse. all jmo

OMY effing gosh. Meanwhile we have bestie Alexis putting a phallic symbol by her when she's asleep, posing suggestively, taking a photo and posting publicly and that's ok.
A BULLY?? Sticks and effing stones. JMO  How freaking middle school. And this goes on for almost a year. A year???

Bully? Lol! Yea I could see it actually!

I understand rachel being upset by that. Vanessa (allegedly) called her aggressive which upset her. Afterwards, Vanessa wouldn't offer her an apology and then called her a bully. IMO that is a backhanded way of insinuating that Rachel is an "angry black woman"

None of the three looking good, imo.
But I think DLo provided a platform for Rachel to talk about this, this way, R would be called out while DLo took all the blames, imo.

@Kashathediva right!? I literally thought that same thing when i read what the word was.

They are both IMO immature. Both of them. Neither is less immature or more mature than the other. And personally, I'm sorry if either was acting like a bully regardless of being black or not, than the bully image can fit and that goes for an angry black woman or italian woman or jewish woman or man for that matter.
People need to grow up. There are people in this world right now that are homeless due to mother nature, that are going without and will be going without for a long long time. Let's be grateful and gracious. JMO

@Kashathediva i totally understand what you're saying and agree with 90% of it but theres a huge difference between being labeled as an angry black woman and an angry italian or jewish woman. Huge. JMO

peggy0221 wrote:None of the three looking good, imo.
But I think DLo provided a platform for Rachel to talk about this, this way, R would be called out while DLo took all the blames, imo.

Sorry I respectfully disagree. I don't think DLo was close to Rachel during filming, she was not part of squad. I think she is now closer to Rachel because her association with part of the squat doing BIP.
Someone else posted in Vanessa's thread that I completely agree that Rachel clarified what that derogatory word To stop further speculation and damage because many people assumed it's a racial slur.

Still like Rachel and Vanessa, but I think DLo is petty and a pot stirrer. IMO.