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Danielle Maltby Details Heartbreaking Reality of Paul Calafiore Cheating Scandal

Bachelor in Paradise star Danielle Maltby is still coping with her breakup from Paul Calafiore.

Six months after the Big Brother and Ex on the Beach alum confessed to cheating on his girlfriend with fellow reality TV star Cara Maria, Danielle has taken to Instagram with a candid message about Paul's impact on her emotional and physical wellbeing.

Danielle admitted to "really struggling" lately, adding, "I don't like to show all my vulnerability, because it gets taken advantage of along with my love and kindness. Most days I feel myself hardening since my relationship ended. I honestly believed I had found my person. He was everything to me."

She then recalled grieving the loss of her fiancé (who died from an apparent drug overdose in 2011), writing, "I've been in this place before, after my fiancé died and that life was taken from me. This is different. You're still here."

Danielle also revealed Paul's infidelity chipped away at her health. As she described, "The people that know and love me, see how much this has taken from me, especially physically. The 'revenge bod' I've tried to joke about isn't some new diet trend, it's because I've been physically sick from the anxiety, stress, grief and lies inflicted on me for months."

She then claimed Paul—who is still in a relationship with Cara—has continued to contact her and most recently "[begged Danielle] to unblock him because 'we are important in each other's lives.'"

"I made a lot of excuses trying to rationalize his behavior and I wasn't able to come to terms with the fact he was able to hurt me like this," she said. "I believe I was shown the person he wants to be but something is holding him back from it."

"Somewhere in his mind though, he has made himself believe that it's ok to continue to tell me he needs me, misses me, still loves me and wants to fix everything. Actions speak louder than words. Today, I can't explain today. I've just had enough..." Danielle concluded. "Some days are ok, some are really good and I had a great night last night, but today, my place is a mess and I can't get out of bed and honestly, I just hurt. I'm working on it though."

Kashathediva wrote:Jmoaa: he is an azz. She deserves more. Karma.  I hope she is getting therapy.  She deserves so much more than that jerk. Jmo

Sprite wrote:I really have never understood why so many women ignore red flags. Amanda and Josh are another couple who spring to mind.

I have a friend who started seeing this guy several years ago. He moved in pretty quickly. She was telling me all about him before I met him. He was divorced and had been engaged twice.  He had 5 kids by 4 different women, but he didn't see any of them and didn't pay any support. He was unemployed and couldn't find a job. He didn't like what he had been doing and wanted to go back to school to be an auto mechanic. Unfortunately, he didn't like studying and kept failing his exams. He lived with her, but couldn't afford to pay anything so she covered everything. I saw red flags all over the place, but said nothing because this was a pattern with her. She needed to be in a relationship and would just ignore what anyone said so most of us just stopped commenting. And she isn't some dumb, young girl. This was a woman who was almost 50. Suffice it to say he ended up cheating on her. While she was at work, he was off seeing someone else and she was shocked. Shocked! Well, I could have told her that was going to happen, but she just buried her head in the sand and then was surprised again when her friends were less than sympathetic. At some point you have to take responsibility for your own actions. People usually show you who they are. Believe them!