Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #7

I don't think Ben doing that changes anything, and he probably knows that too. That's not the point. Sometimes it's nice just to stand up for what's right and stand up for the people you love, regardless of the outcome.

And if this is just "normal people" trolling Lauren, that makes me feel even worse for her, TBH. Although I seriously question anyone's sanity for trolling reality stars online, even if they are using their public/normal accounts. Also, embarrassing. I hope their real life friends notice and embarrass the hell out of them for being weird.

When the hate was going on the other day, I looked on her IG after reading it here. I saw at least 10 posters who had normal profile pictures up, some of them were even the women with their young children. A lot of those negative comments by them were about how Lauren wasn't classy or Christian enough to be with a guy like Ben because she was too much of a party girl. 

Saint Ben never gets any hate. Mind boggling. Although, he doesn't give the those who are not fans anything to really work with. JMO

All JMO...

Lauren dropped all thoughts of trying to find a normal job to be a "blogger" & instagram influencer. She gets paid a ridiculous amount to promote stuff and travel. She chose the easy route and now she's learning it's not so easy. Sorry lil LoLo, not everyone is going to love you. I don't agree with online bullying, but have no sympathy for her since she chose that career path. Like others have said, she needs to grow some thick skin or get a full time job. I'm sure she would have no problem finding something in Denver. Maybe she wouldn't be so bored and have to get out of town all the time if she had a 9-5. It's actually hard to believe she could get bored in Denver. I'm a beach lover, but Denver is AMAZING and there is so much to do. I'd love to be able to live there without a job.

Another thing, I have a lot of respect for Ben for continuing with his job. Yes, he had some time off and they did the Happily Ever After Whatever thing, but he could have done DWTS too and didn't. He also could have easily settled for the shill & travel life, but didn't. I really think him going back to work shows his commitment to wanting to settle down and provide for a family.

Good for Ben for sticking up for Lauren. I really disagree with the body shaming, and it sounds like it's really affecting her. I get that she's trying to be a blogger, and it comes with the territory and all, but that doesn't mean that words still can't really hurt. Who knows if she's had weight issues or eating disorder struggles or something like that in the past and it's a really really sensitive topic?

Still don't think B/L are ultimately compatible, but I don't think Lauren deserves as much crap as she gets. Normally, I'd write off the "just jealous" excuses, but seriously, she's tall and thin and blonde and got "Perfect Ben". So the trolls really are just jealous, because I'd wager to guess that they're none of those things.

Yeah. I don't get it. What has she done to cause so much hate??

Be young and beautiful? She is fortunate to have the life she currently has. She seems to be a good kind person.

Seems to be like most of the self absorbed 20 somethings in this day in age.

Lauren dropped all thoughts of trying to find a normal job to be a "blogger" & instagram influencer. She gets paid a ridiculous amount to promote stuff and travel. She chose the easy route and now she's learning it's not so easy. Sorry lil LoLo, not everyone is going to love you. I don't agree with online bullying, but have no sympathy for her since she chose that career path

I realize JMO was used in this paragraph, however it looks like facts to me. Do you know the ridiculous amount she gets paid? How is it determined that she took the easy route? Why is it not ok for her to chose that path, but ok for other's who put the same amount of time, or less into their blogs? If she's getting paid a ridiculous amount of money, why should she stop?

Personally IMO I don't care what she does or doesn't do. What job bullies think she should have, what kind of clothes she should or shouldn't wear or how skinny she is. I'd be very happy if I woke up tomorrow morning with that body.

No one deserves to be ruthlessly shamed humiliated and harassed. IMO she's not the problem.

GuardianAngel wrote:

Lauren dropped all thoughts of trying to find a normal job to be a "blogger" & instagram influencer. She gets paid a ridiculous amount to promote stuff and travel. She chose the easy route and now she's learning it's not so easy. Sorry lil LoLo, not everyone is going to love you. I don't agree with online bullying, but have no sympathy for her since she chose that career path

I realize JMO was used in this paragraph, however it looks like facts to me. Do you know the ridiculous amount she gets paid? How is it determined that she took the easy route? Why is it not ok for her to chose that path, but ok for other's who put the same amount of time, or less into their blogs? If she's getting paid a ridiculous amount of money, why should she stop?

Personally IMO I don't care what she does or doesn't do. What job bullies think she should have, what kind of clothes she should or shouldn't wear or how skinny she is. I'd be very happy if I woke up tomorrow morning with that body.

No one deserves to be ruthlessly shamed humiliated and harassed. IMO she's not the problem.

I'm sorry. Here is just one link that talks about how they make a lot of money. http://nymag.com/thecut/2017/03/how-bachelor-contestants-cash-in-after-the-show-is-over.html

IMO anyone who works a full time job would agree that becoming a professional instagram schiller is the easy way. IMO, sitting at a desk all day and being criticized by a boss or fellow employees is harder than dealing with internet trolls when you're on vacay. And IMO, I just think she should stop playing the social media game if she can't deal with the criticism.

Lauren will be in Arizona this weekend for her friend's bachelorette party via her friend Whit's IG story. Gosh doesn't seem these two have spent ANY time together in several weeks. always prioritizing other things (i'll put it more on Lauren than Ben for this one, because he has a full time job that's been taking up his time, solid regular person excuse, JMO). Who thinks they're waiting to make an announcement after the Disney special?

@sweeti810 I'm well aware of how much bloggers can make. I'm referring to the statement that she makes a ridiculous amount of money. You, me , we don't know that. She may make a ridiculous amount, we don't know that for sure.

I totally disagree that blogging is the easy way out. I'm well aware of the time involved that successful bloggers put in their days. I follow a few on twitter and know a few personally. They spend hours. If she spends 10 minutes and makes a ton of money why would she give that up? To please bullies?

I work a full time job and I don't agree, I would much rather blog and deal with internet trolls than work 9-5 being bullied by a boss. Internet trolls wouldn't bother me in the least. I worked for a bully boss, not towards me, towards others. One day I told her to stuff it because her attitude towards others is mean rude and I'm not working in that environment, and walked out. If I could blog for 10 minutes and make a ton of money, I can guarantee you I wouldn't be working the hours I do, just to get by.

What exactly are the SM game that she's playing? She posts pictures that SM posters don't like, and they trash her as if these people are suppose to live thier lives according to them. IMO she should tell them where to go. That's my opinion. Don't follow her if she's so annoying.

Ben is in Chicago right now or at least that's where he liked a comment about someone seeing him get coffee this morning. Do Lauren is back in Denver and Ben in Chicago. Are they doing what they did before not in the same place at the same time? I hope not. I really want them to make it. As for the bachelorette party her friend is a really close friend so of course Lauren is going. She came to their house back in February. On the other side if they weren't happy why would Ben take the time to post that sweet message today? Any thoughts?

^agree, I stopped following her because she was so vapid; then the breakup gossip happened, I followed her again - I can be pretty judgey but I'd never take time to tell her anything negative - who does that? She should take some improve classes - find a cause - go back to rl -
Here, if I'm standing up for my fellow female then obviously do you, be strong and above all else don't sell yourself short. She has more to offer than this crap she's back-lashed at Ben for making her life miserable with his "love u2 and HEA" Heck, I'd act like your worst nightmare too if you did it to me. Just my Drunk Opinion.

@mamahamme I'm getting the feeling that it's back to being in two different places all the time. My take on the post was maybe he's trying to save face, but mostly... I don't think he wants their relationship to end. She's appeared to be pretty much checked out as of late, IMO. I'm not surprised she's going to the bachelorette party..but I can't help but be like really? she was with those girls at stagecoach last weekend.

**edit**. She reads the comments and likes some on IG as well. Out of the two, if I had to pick, I think Lauren's the one overly attached to her family. All JMO.