Dmitry Cherkasov - Bachelor Ukraine - Discussion

Lida`s post today on instagram

"I am grateful to every day, every event in my life. To every man whom I meets, for every word that was said, for good and evil. For the lessons that brings every day and for the experience with which I fall asleep every night. This is life - you will not add anything, you will not erase anything."

https://www.instagram.com/lida_niemchenko/

Words can not describe how angry and disappointed I am from people and Dima. He did nothing for keeping their relationship alive. There was absolutely no effort from his side. He always expected Lida to initiate everything. He wanted to change her so she would fulfill all his needs. Everything she wanted is to feel special, to be appreciated by him. Just some random and romantic gestures but there was zero. In all this month he didn`t felt the need to visit her even once in her hometown. It was always her who traveled nearly every weekend 500 kilometers to see him. She reached a point where it was enough for her because he didnt showed with his actions that she is important to him. Plus add the fact that she watched every week how he made out with all the women on the show. She was dissapointed in him because he is inmmatur and a mom`s boy.

And now she is the bad one because she was honest from the start till the end. Because she didn't wanted to fake it for the After the Final Rose show. Because she bursted the viewer`s bubble of a fairytale in order for her principals and her own peace. Because she stayed true to herself and stayed honest with Dima and the viewers. But everyone feels sorry for Dima because she broke up with him. What is wrong with people, how can they be so blind and fall for an highly edited show?!

By the way under Lida`s pic Yulia and Lilya backed Lida up. Yulia wrote that she is happy to met Lida on the show. And Lilya wrote the same and she added also that she is sorry that she left the after the final rose show so early because if she knew how the "experts" would attack Lida again she would have been on her side and backed her up in the studio. She added that people who are writing nasty comments and are judging Lida harshly have no idea because they felt for an high edited show. She knows Dima and Lida and she has an better view what was truly happening and that she  fully supports Lida here.

@natik OMG I am so sorry to hear how things are going.  This too shall past and her rewards for believing in a higher power will be rewarded, for her forbearance and for her inner strength in a time of crisis.  May the man upstairs eyes and blessing be upon her now and always.

This is all so sad. Why can't the break up be amicable. She is a very strong smart young lady. She knows her worth, and therefore she is the one that will be ok in life.

He sounds like he is very selfish. It will be difficult IMO for him to find someone who will satisfy his selfish needs.

I wish her luck, she will excel and come out on top of all this.

Just read your summary @natik. I feel so sad for Lida. On all her pictures( I did a google translate) and most of everyone is criticizing her. Dima claims that he loves her and did not want to end the relationship but from what I'm reading he reached out to Stella to see if they can date? How can they not see how excited Lida was when she received love notes from Dima after the FRC, She was giddy but yet the comments indicate that she didn't care for Dima but was faking on the show. I also blame Dima. He may have had training for his tournaments but still geez do a little outreach. I still think that they fell in love and if Lida wanted to, something is still there. At least that's what I noticed at the AFTR. It's interesting that neither Dima or Lida took pictures with the others.

I really wish Lida well..

iamreal2u wrote:Just read your summary @natik.  I feel so sad for Lida.  On all her pictures( I did a google translate) and most of everyone is criticizing  her.  Dima claims that he loves her and did not want to end the relationship but from what I'm reading he reached out to Stella to see if they can date?  How can they not see how excited Lida was when she received love notes from Dima after the FRC,  She was giddy but yet the comments indicate that she didn't care for Dima but was faking on the show.  I also blame Dima.  He may have had training for his tournaments but still geez do a little outreach.  I still think that they fell in love and if Lida wanted to, something is still there.  At least that's what I noticed at the AFTR.  It's interesting that neither Dima or Lida took pictures with the others.

I really wish Lida well..

Well that is no surprise they always blame the woman. But it makes no sense Lida knew that she is going to gain a massive backlash for breaking up with him but she choose to stay true to herself and don`t fake it for the viewers. If she would have been famehungry and an actress like some of the comments indicate it would have been much easier for her to fake it and be all rainbows and sunshines. She would then talk on every show and to all the magazines about how in love she is and discussing all the wedding stuff. And at the same time promote herself for lucrative jobs in the media. But she is not doing that. She is barely active on her instagram. She dissapered from the social media. And in contrast to that watch Stella`s instagram. She is all over it promoting her F2 story. A couple days ago she openly admitted that she wants to have a TV gig. So all she was saying about having kids and family and wedding is forgotten. All of sudden she has another plans. That is what I am calling being fake. How do people do not see that?

About Dima now it`s clear as nothing that guy is just not smart or mature enough. Dude you are 30 years old and you have no idea how to show a woman that she is important to you. It`s the gestures and not the words that counts. I mean you need to train fine, but send her flowers per courier it´s not that complicated. She was fighting for you now it was his time to fight for her attention. That is how a real man acts. Instead he gave her the ring and thought that it would be enough. He expected from her to do all the work on the relationship. But she was fighting alone an all the fronts. She was recording all the after shows where she had to watch him making out with nearly all the women on the show. She was struggling pretty hard. So how about to take even a few hours time and to visit her and to speak to her eye to eye. Instead he was messaging her. You can`t solve those problems by messaging. He is such an infantile guy. And as soon as it got difficult he contacted Stella. Yeah that is what I call love. Really?! So you claim you are in love with Lida but the next moment it´s over you are writing Stella. WOW!!!

There is no way that Lida is going to take him back. Too much water under the bridge. And especially not after the Final Rose Show. Because on the show he was backing up the experts. He saw that they all blame Lida and decided to play the victim. Lida has guts she is not going to forgive him that.

By the way Stella officialy said that she is not interested in Dima because she already has a new guy.

^^ All I can say is that Dima is an idiot and have a nerve to write about his love for Lida. Pfff.  You can tell Stella was never interested in Dima anyway and plus they all knew that he was more interested in Lida imo.  Love is tough and didn't Lida already went through crap before and then Dima does this.  Sigh.  My best to Lida.

I think Dima like many professional athletes are used to having everything done for them. Oddly, I think Dima's mom realized this. It seemed odd that Dima's mom seemed so cold to Lida, but do you think maybe she saw that her son was not ready for a woman who was independent and needed more of an equals relationship? He has always been treated as special and his needs put first. I bet in his mind he thought giving the ring was enough and was shocked that felt it wasn't enough. To him her unwillingness to come to him all the time probably seemed like she was being selfish.

I think Dima until he stops being an athlete will not even begin to grow. He may not ever grow past this as he is fairly old at 30 to try to change.

Lida is a beautiful woman with a courageous heart. I hope in time she will find a man who is her equal and can give her the kind of love that she desires.

All JMO.

stuckinsc wrote:I think Dima like many professional athletes are used to having everything done for them. Oddly, I think Dima's mom realized this.  It seemed odd that Dima's mom seemed so cold to Lida, but do you think maybe she saw that her son was not ready for a woman who was independent and needed more of an equals relationship?  He has always been treated as special and his needs put first. I bet in his mind he thought giving the ring was enough and was shocked that felt it wasn't enough.  To him her unwillingness to come to him all the time probably seemed like she was being selfish.

I think Dima until he stops being an athlete will not even begin to grow.  He may not ever grow past this as he is fairly old at 30 to try to change.

Lida is a beautiful woman with a courageous heart. I hope in time she will find a man who is her equal and can give her the kind of love that she desires.

All JMO.

You hit the nerve! I absolutely agree with you!

Lida gave a press conference it`s one of those contract obligations. So she has no choice and can`t say no to it. These press conferences are organized by the channel and all the contestants are giving them after leaving the show.
I am gonna post the video here and try to translate it for you as soon as possible. There were several moments where she struggled to hold her tears back. Basically all the questions were about their relationship and she said that she wished more romance from Dima, she wanted to feel and see that she is appreciated by him. She reached a point where it was clear for her that Dima is not that kind of man she sees by her side. That`s the basics but as I said I am gonna translate it all later.

Hey guys!

Sorry I know I promised you an translation but I am unfortunately busy till august and don`t have enough time for that. But if there are still some questions left you can write them down and I am gonna check out if Lida answered on some of them.

About Lida. She escaped from all the bachelor stuff to a small town. Her grandparents are living there and it helped her a lot to process it. She is better now. Oh and thank you from her for your support! She is single at the moment and is just enjoying life. She is touring through Europe at the moment...Italy...Monaco.

I`m gonna leave you some pics from an photoshoot she made.
















Source:

https://lovefp.com/ru/lidanemchenko/

P.S: The filming of season 8 is going to start in one month. So there is going to be soon an announcement about the new bachelor.

Lida is a gorgeous, poised young woman. I emphasize "young." She will make her way in the world and one day she will find a man who will treasure her and treat her as she deserves. I have no doubt. JMHO.

@natik thank you for the updates! So glad to hear that Lida is doing well. She's such a beautiful young lady in side and out and I wish her nothing but the best!

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