Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #6

reason wrote:I never thought Ben she have pick her, that is why I only watch the first 3 episode and quit.

Word! Especially with his diarrhea of the mouth of ILY to both Lauren and JoJo. Get a grip, Benji!

Mommyof2 wrote:

reason wrote:I never thought Ben she have pick her, that is why I only watch the first 3 episode and quit.

Word!  Especially with his diarrhea of the mouth of ILY to both Lauren and JoJo.  Get a grip, Benji!  

Wondering if Ben is dreaming of his best friend, Jojo... Too soon?

casjacknick wrote:

Mommyof2 wrote:

reason wrote:I never thought Ben she have pick her, that is why I only watch the first 3 episode and quit.

Word!  Especially with his diarrhea of the mouth of ILY to both Lauren and JoJo.  Get a grip, Benji!  

Wondering if Ben is dreaming of his best friend, Jojo... Too soon?

My guess is yes...not her specifically because that boat is long, long sailed and lost in the Bermuda Triangle but that type of relationship, where he is best friends with the woman and she understands his insecurities and is naturally predisposed to think her man is the best man ever imo. He chose based on nothing but surface level attraction and got suckered by an empty image imo, oh well, live and learn young grasshopper.

Alanna wrote:

casjacknick wrote:

Mommyof2 wrote:

Word!  Especially with his diarrhea of the mouth of ILY to both Lauren and JoJo.  Get a grip, Benji!  

Wondering if Ben is dreaming of his best friend, Jojo... Too soon?

My guess is yes...not her specifically because that boat is long, long sailed and lost in the Bermuda Triangle but that type of relationship, where he is best friends with the woman and she understands his insecurities and is naturally predisposed to think her man is the best man ever imo. He chose based on nothing but surface level attraction and got suckered by an empty image imo, oh well, live and learn young grasshopper.

In all seriousness, whether it's on this show or in real life, if you find someone that makes you say things like "she's my best friend" "I'm more me with her than I am with anyone else in my life" "she makes me feel calm" "she makes me confident in being myself" etc, that's a life partner and that's who you pick. JMO

Lauren and Ben are both young and this isn't the end all and be all. I'm not sure why they haven't officially split yet, but it's sad and the bandaid just needs to be ripped off. Maybe they have to wait until Nick's finale or it's not like these two hate each other and need to get away from each other. They obviously care, so I'm sure that makes it difficult to make the actual decision. Man, I would hate living in that world of constant limbo  JMO

casjacknick wrote:

Mommyof2 wrote:

reason wrote:I never thought Ben she have pick her, that is why I only watch the first 3 episode and quit.

Word!  Especially with his diarrhea of the mouth of ILY to both Lauren and JoJo.  Get a grip, Benji!  

Wondering if Ben is dreaming of his best friend, Jojo... Too soon?

I've thought that too. Not about Jojo specifically but that the relationship that he had with her is what he's looking for in a relationship, and Jojo's the type of woman he's looking for .I think now a year plus later that's sort of becoming clearer IMO. Ben needs a lot of coddling and that's the type of partner Jojo is, she would give him all the back pats he wants, and constantly tell him how great she thinks he is. He said over and over again that Jojo was like his best friend, how comfortable he felt with her, like he could talk to her about anything, and how he was most himself with her etc. He ended up choosing Lauren, and even though the double ily got a lot of attention, all the substance of what he said about his relationship with Jojo was minimized, and we're seeing now that those were things that were important to him. All JMO.

Idk. I didn't see it then (JoJo and Ben) and still don't see it.

Well Mama Murray Light agreed with y'all. She knew Ben needed someone who would coddle him and give him those atta boys e/o minute. 

Whatevs. Literally the best thing that could have ever happened to JoJo was Ben being 26 and dumb and going for the blonde he liked out the gate.

I don't think JoJo and Ben would have lasted either. Lauren likes the finer things in life - yes, totally concede. Simple things, my butt. But JoJo also likes the finer things. That's all JoJo even knows. I don't see her happy in Ben's 2 bedroom house summering in Indiana with MMLight and PapaH.  Jo is with the guy she's supposed to be with.

I never got Ben and JoJo as a great match but I definitely think Ben needs a woman who is more of a JoJo than a Lauren. JMO

umngirl wrote:I never got Ben and JoJo as a great match but I definitely think Ben needs a woman who is more of a JoJo than a Lauren. JMO

That pretty much sums what I was trying to say

bleuberry wrote:Idk. I didn't see it then (JoJo and Ben) and still don't see it.

Thankfully, that ship has long left the dock, but I don't really care about their actual relationship, just that everything he said about her, pretty much lines up with exactly what he needs. His own mother said it and cried about it  JMO

sosleepy wrote:Well Mama Murray Light agreed with y'all. She knew Ben needed someone who would coddle him and give him those atta boys e/o minute. 

Whatevs. Literally the best thing that could have ever happened to JoJo was Ben being 26 and dumb and going for the blonde he liked out the gate.

I don't think JoJo and Ben would have lasted either. Lauren likes the finer things in life - yes, totally concede. Simple things, my butt. But JoJo also likes the finer things. That's all JoJo even knows. I don't see her happy in Ben's 2 bedroom house summering in Indiana with MMLight and PapaH.  Jo is with the guy she's supposed to be with.

No but literally, LITERALLY, this is the truth imo too

With that said, I think Ben will end up with a stage 17 coddler and cuddler who posts all over sm the moment he leaves that she essentially might be dying. None of this, "we need time apart and it's healthy and normal for us" BS, BS that we've been seeing in B+L's world imo.

Ash2214 wrote:

bleuberry wrote:Idk. I didn't see it then (JoJo and Ben) and still don't see it.

Thankfully, that ship has long left the dock, but I don't really care about their actual relationship, just that everything he said about her, pretty much lines up with exactly what he needs. His own mother said it and cried about it  JMO

His own mother is right up there next to Mama Murray.  Just a touch too invested and involved. The only thing separating MM and MH is MH isn't on twitter.