Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #5

Ash2214 wrote:A lot of these people don't seem like trolls. A lot of the names I'm seeing are names that used to defend Ben and Lauren to death

Well, that's unfortunate. 

I think it's interesting that of the last 3 (so far) successful core couples (not counting the BIP spin off couples),
B&L were the ones who came RUNNING out the gate, so declarative that they WOULD be getting married and soon. The other two couples have been confident, but not so declarative. I still remember Ben's tweet from before his finale ... that Bachelor Nation could FINALLY celebrate a couple that will last! And yet, here we are. B&L made a lot of empty promises not only to themselves, but to their fans. If that makes sense. Not that they owe anything to stranger fans. But I really do think they were OTT even compared to your average Bachelor romance that this is FOR REAL and they were GETTING MARRIED TOMORROW! I can't fault them too much, maybe they believed it at the time. But sad how that is turning out.

And another thing is Lauren doesn't block those who are not fans/trolls which a lot of other girls from the franchise do IMO. I have seen so many same people trolling under her each post .

Just remember y'all, there's no public breakup yet! This could all miraculously turn around (wouldn't be surprised) or this is all a moot point, because none of it is true (wouldn't be surprised either.) IMO.

IMO It is equally is as confusing to me --perhaps more so--regarding those "fans" who follow every inhalation and exhalation of a person or couple. I find it, pardon the expression, almost as sick as those that "troll". It's simply reverse trolling and IMO has the potential to be just as dangerous.

Ben needs to be ALONE. I mean didn't his ex say he joined the ette season to forget about her. Then he gets the Bachelor gig and meets Lauren. To me he's still dealing with what it is he really wants in life. He's lost and the fact that he keeps stringing Lauren around until he's "ready" is selfish. JMO

I wouldn't respond to any harsh and rude comments on SM either. They aren't bringing me any $$ so I'd pretty much ignore them. I wouldn't waste my time blocking anyone. IMO right now, there hasn't been a formal announcement. What is she going to say? Yeah we are splitting but I can't say anything right now, or you're wrong, we're happily in love. Either way, it would cause more chaos IMHO.

What is Lauren going to say? Maybe they aren't officially done, so she can't say they are. She doesn't want to lie and say, that they are fine, snd tgese people wouldn't believe it anyway. Maybe they aren't sure what they are, atm. If I was her, I'd just ignore the comment section right now.

Part of me feels badly for Ben, even though I do think he brought a lot of this on himself. I used to think his "unlovable" sctick was made up Producer baloney to give him his own storyline and justify giving him the lead role.

But nope. HEA kinda proved that is a real fear and anxiety he has. And now this very public engagement is imploding, and that can't help with his fears. I think he'll finally commit when he finds the right person. Someone with the stamina to deal with his endless insecurities and anxieties.

I certainly don't think Lauren owes anyone an explanation, but I can't help thinking how easy it would be to just post a recent couple pic with some sweet words instead of daily pics of her trip without Ben. Easy if all is well that is. The fact that she doesn't speaks volumes to me. Of course it might be that she just doesn't care, but it seems like Ben does considering his post the other day. Seems more likely that she can't in good conscience claim all is well when it isn't. JMO.

Instead of posting she likes posts which kind of makes sense to her IMO. She liked the following comment on her most recent pic
"She literally posted five days ago wearing her engagement ring.And why should she not go on a vacation without Ben if he was not able to go because of work ?Her blog is her career. It's travel and fashion blog. She can't blog about travel if she is not actually travelling."

In Lauren's defence, her blog is her job rn.. So she can't sit at home all day because then she would have less content than she already does... However I think this is more on Ben because he's the one who posted that pic (might I add it was the 3rd time with almost the same caption as last time..) and Ben is the one who is going to have to fix things (if there is an issue) because he's the one trying more so than her.. I do believe the fact that Ben is so emotionally needy and so unready for the next step it's making her insecure in the relationship -- and no one can tell me she's not insecure, any girl in their right mind would be..

Lauren doesn't owe anyone an explanation because she's probably fed up with it too.. I mean I would be

IMO

LOL ^ If she liked that comment then that just made me chuckle. The whole blog is her career thing is worrisome to me. I don't think Lauren is a great blogger or so "relatable" to maintain it. I think she should just stick to Alaska Air, another airline, or just do business with them. These Bachelor people always become irrelevant after some time. I don't think Lauren's chances of becoming this huge blogger is any different. JMO