Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #5

sweeti810 wrote:Long time lurker, first time poster. Hope I do this right.

IMO, I don't think it's all Ben's fault IF they're done. Lauren isn't the girl she appeared to be on the show and I think she's much more high maintenance than he thought. Ben seems like a low key kind of guy. Yes, going on multiple reality shows would make you think otherwise, but I think he was genuinely trying to find love, so he wanted to do whatever it would take. The whole HEA show might make it questionable, but what if they were told they had to do it in order to get a televised wedding? IMO anyone in their position would do it because Bachelor weddings are amazing. Also, they were in the honeymoon phase when they signed on, so I believe they really wanted to get married back then. Ben may have been hesitant during HEA, but maybe that's because he finally started seeing the real Lauren. It's crazy how much she has changed from filming to now. This is obviously all JMO.

https://www.instagram.com/p/BPGLF_wAabG/?taken-by=laurenbushnell&hl=en
http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/photos/meet-28-women-bachelor-2016-35635869/image-35642155

mindless wrote:I also thought during the show and right after that these two are well-suited to each other and solid, but HEA really revealed how out of sync they actually are, at least IMO. Scripted nonsense aside, I just didn't see it anymore between them. I mean I saw the same "love" during the purposely romantic moments like the anniversary meal in their backyard, but I didn't see that special something that bonds two people together for life. Now I just see a scared manchild, who clearly didn't know what he was getting himself into with the Bachelor and who now knows he's incapable of backing up his words with actions, and a woman who's been hurt too many times by the man she was hoping to spend her life with. The magic seems to be long gone, but that's JMO.

Cila51290 wrote:It's 7pm ET where I am and here I thought that a nice, thoughtful, sincere, loving bday post would be posted by Ben by now but nope. He's so cold! "show her off" "date her well" must have been just vomit words from Ben huh?

I don't think Lauren has changed. Her IG posts before the Bachelor are basically the same traveling, family, friends, concerts, drinking etc Lauren we know for the past month (interesting right? )  
All she did was basically move her Cali life for Denver life with Ben. I do think Lauren's snaps are very annoying though.That's my only complaint about her to be quite honest.  
Ben is the one who went from "I'm ready to marry this woman tomorrow" to having cold feet and having tantrums about the stupidest things. Ben doesn't like to compromise, IMO. He wants his way and if Lauren doesn't agree he likes to throw hissy fits. Not so "perfect Ben" after all.

mindless wrote:I also thought during the show and right after that these two are well-suited to each other and solid, but HEA really revealed how out of sync they actually are, at least IMO. Scripted nonsense aside, I just didn't see it anymore between them. I mean I saw the same "love" during the purposely romantic moments like the anniversary meal in their backyard, but I didn't see that special something that bonds two people together for life. Now I just see a scared manchild, who clearly didn't know what he was getting himself into with the Bachelor and who now knows he's incapable of backing up his words with actions, and a woman who's been hurt too many times by the man she was hoping to spend her life with. The magic seems to be long gone, but that's JMO.