Robby Hayes - Chase McNary - "Rose" - Bachelorette 12 - Discussion - #3

Robby to me is along the same lines as Chad , making fun of Nick because they are jealous yet they didn't have a chance. jmo. At least Luke didn't make any digs at Nick. Making fun of someone because they have the job you want is ALL JEALOUSY imo.

Oh yes Duke, but in a smoky bar wouldn't  you like to be a
fly on the wall?  

By making fun of Nick? Do you mean saying Nick is older, lower energy, and that he has appeared on this show more than once is making fun of Nick? I'd say that 2 out of 3 of those are facts and the the 3rd is his personal opinion. Nothing horrible said there, IMO. Believe me, in the realm of making fun of Nick, those comments don't even rate a 1 on the snark-o-meter. IMO.

I don't for one moment think Robby is jealous of Nick. IMO
I cannot even fathom trying to equate Robby with Chad. Wow. IMO.

And, yes, Luke did make a snarky comment about Nick as next lead...saying Nick is going on the show for a 4th and then maybe again for a 5th time. But, like I said, these people are entitled to make jokes just like anyone else. I don't think opinions or jokes proves jealousy by any stretch of the imagination. JMHOAA.

As much as I liked TV Robby, I hope and pray that he will never again involve TPTB in his life. I don't want him to appear as TB or on BIP or anything ese they are selling. And for the record, I am not bitter or jealous either. Peace.

ITA with your comments @MiaHawk. And I will add that I actually think Robby used restraint in his comments based on some of the interviews I have heard from Nick and his rather unkind opinions of Robby. all JMO

How many 'younger' leads have we had already? 35 is not 'older' he's a man at his best age, IMO. Nick is very familiar to the viewers, he brings an opinion out of everyone, good or bad, and he's not boring.

Robby would've jumped at the opportunity to be lead, and I sense bitterness, that no one from JoJo's season got the role. They jumped to Nick, whom no one thought was even a possibility. IMO he founds bitter. Jmo.

Mia, 

My personal opinion of any copious amounts of SM with hashtags about #teamrobby or #teamrojo or #thegarden or whatever:  

Perhaps as F2, Robby was encouraged by TPTB to keep the hope alive on SM to play mind games with the viewers.
Perhaps Robby and his large family were just trying to look on the bright side, have fun with this experience, and embraced it as a way to get over Jojo.
Perhaps Robby and his fellow cast mates got along well and enjoyed one another's company, and perhaps interacting with them on SM post-filming was a way in which Robby could feel their love and support and show them support as well.
Perhaps as F2, Robby thought Let's make lemonade out of these lemons and he accepted offers that came his way as a result of this show.
Perhaps Robby used hashtags as a shout-out thank you to his online fans and supporters.
Perhaps Robby is just naturally a gregarious, social, positive person who happens to use SM a lot.
Perhaps we over analyze things way too much and project things onto these people based upon our own biases.  
I say:  Different strokes for different folks.

As for whether or not Robby is bitter or jealous about Nick as the lead:

There are many, many times in your life in which you will strive to achieve some goal but fall short.  Often in those times, there is another person who achieves that goal instead of you or who gets chosen for "the job" over you. That's what happens in life, in athletic competitions, in hiring for a postition. etc  While there is always a certain amount of disappointment when you fall short or fail at something, I wouldn't say that being bitter or jealous of the other person is necessarily a common reaction of people, in general.  

Think about all the times that you don't get what you want.  Are you bitter or jealous about those things? IDK, but in my lifetime of many decades, I'm hard pressed to come up with even a few times that I felt bitter or jealous of anyone that got something that I had wanted for myself or for a friend of mine. Bitterness and jealousy just aren't emotions that I embrace, and I would venture to say that there are other people who don't think that way, including Robby. IMO

IMO, Robby truly did fall in love with Jojo (even if we want to call that bubble love), and he really did want to end up with Jojo at the end. That was a goal he was hoping to achieve. Instead, Jordan was chosen as the F1 and got the girl.  To me, if ever there were a time when Robby would be tempted to be bitter or jealous about anything, THAT would have been the time. Yet, what did we see from Robby post-show? We saw a guy who stayed in contact with Jordan, his roommate and buddy from the show.  We saw a guy who handled himself as a pure gentleman at the FRC and ATFR. We saw him respect Jojo's choice and wish her and Jordan nothing but happiness. I saw zero bitterness and jealousy from Robby about the one thing that he really wanted but didn't get. I, therefore, judge him to be the non-bitter and non-jealous type. JMHOAA.

ETA: typos/grammar edit

^^ MiaHawk -- your posts are always full of words of wisdom!!

Mia, you really are great! Every time I look at your avi I smile/
laugh. I want it! Said, he is a winner, bitter and jealous. 
furthest from the truth. Your post exhibits. "The Man"
Thank You. 

There's some discussion going on in another thread about Robby being strange. I think he's a hoot. I don't see anything wrong with him liking tweets or IG posts. It's not like he's stalking anyone to date them.

Bringing this over.

https://www.bachandbachettefans.net/t3778p108-jojo-fletcher-jordan-rodgers-bachelorette-12-discussion-2

Lennoxcolinrolland wrote:Go to the Twitter: @healthy_happy1 and look at the recent tweets. It isn't the first time Robby has done things like this, and won't be the last. He's always been "off" IMO.

Which is referring to this.

em1 ‏@healthy_happy1  Nov 29
When you call out @RobbyHHayes for buying likes on his picture @JRodgers11 @JoelleFletcher #oops #TheBachelor #TheBachelorette #famewhore

em1 ‏@healthy_happy1  Nov 29
#woops struck a nerve there.. Thank god @JoelleFletcher saw his intentions. I hate people

I don't blame him. He likes a tweet of the former lead, IMO I see nothing wrong with that. There are plenty of former contestants who go beserk on SM because of the negativity. He blocked someone who called him a harshname, and posted harsh remarks, why would he want someone like that to follow him.

I cannot figure out this guy's appeal. He is nauseatingly self-important IMO. I'm open to reconsidering my opinion . Anything special about him? All I can think of is his SM game during JoJo's season, buying followers, and campaigning hardcore for The Bachelor gig.

I think the tweeter was saying that Robby blocked her after she called him out on buying likes on IG. The tweets above were followed by these:

em1 ‏@healthy_happy1 Nov 30
@rebeldemarjory he had 1,000 likes on his most recent photo for a good 15 minutes. Then I clicked back and it was 18,000 within < than a min

em1 ‏@healthy_happy1 Nov 30
@rebeldemarjory meaning he bought his likes..

em1 ‏@healthy_happy1 Nov 30
@rebeldemarjory I called him out 3x and he deleted all my comments and then the fourth time he blocked me. So I tweeted him and he blocked

I don't know if that's true or not though, since IG acts weird sometimes and people from this show get likes ridiculously fast, so anything's possible. Wouldn't surprise me though considering his previous behaviour.