Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - *Sleuthing - Spoilers* - #2

Duke702 wrote:

Urban_Pattinson_Manning wrote:I have yet to see Ben be passionate with Lauren. It makes me kinda sad. We see it way too much with the forward/aggressive/kinda sleazy JoJo and Caila. He seems more into them. I LOVE Lauren B, and almost think she deserves better....

I have to completely disagree with you here, IMO Lauren is the only one he's passionate about. With the other girls he seems to just be having fun/lust... with Lauren it's the real deal.



This little pic on Sharleen's blog shows it to me.
http://www.alltheprettypandas.com/bachelor20/

To me that moment is more tender than passionate. BUT I think he is the most tender with her (foreheads/noses touching, nustling her neck, the flick on her nose...)

Urban_Pattinson_Manning wrote:

bachfan29 wrote:Well since he called Lauren sweet on Ellen their moments seem to make more sense to me. Him being passionate with the other girls imo is a tell since he acts the same around the other two but is different with her.

So, he's being a horny/sleazy guy with the others, and kinda boring with Lauren...

a little extreme on both ends IMO.

He is doing his job, trying to build relationships with all the ladies, which includes the physical chemistry, and being his gentle self, but we see more real intimacy & tenderness with Lauren IMO. Now if intimacy &n tenderness = boring to you or others, fair enough... Different strokes

Man that moment just melts my heart. I have yet to see him look at any of the girls like he did that moment and still does.

What I would give to have a guy look at me like he does with Lauren

sophienette wrote:


To me that moment is more tender than passionate. BUT I think he is the most tender with her (foreheads/noses touching, nustling her neck, the flick on her nose...)

And, I've seen him both tender and passionate with JoJo.  

I disagree but that's just me. He had one moment of tender when he kissed her neck as they watched the fireworks but nothing can compare to the shot above and him nuzzling Lauren's neck during the group date. Plus i think the hot tub scene had quite some passionate moments. I had to look away in awkwardness during the scene

For me, the questions that he asks Lauren and the personal things he shares with her (i.e. about his dad) is what shows me how into her he is. Ben seems to value conversations and he always seems to have a lot to talk with Lauren about. I think he kisses the other girls a lot because he runs out of things to say, or just doesn't want to open up to them when he knows in his heart that they aren't "the one."

When I first saw the vid ^ upthread of Lauren and Ben dancing, I felt like I was watching a couple's first dance at their wedding. The way they look at each other- it's all in the eyes for me.

I do see the chemistry\passion with JoJo and Calia, but he's just so DIFFERENT when he is with Lauren.

Ben is himself when he's with Lauren. He acts more vulnerable. Their interactions feel more "real life" dating to me. You can tell he is genuinely into her. With Caila and JoJo, sure there is passion there- but the interactionns are far more typical Bachelor bs, less real life. I feel like he's playing a part more with them. With Lauren he "wants her to know him- to REALLY know him." I see a TON of passion between those two, along with emotional connection, which is lacking with Caila and JoJo. Something tells me Lauren understands this watching it back, and Ben is such a good communicator, I'd like to think/hope he's helping her through it. Likewise, I hope Caila and JoJo are getting some closure watching it back. It's clear as day (to me anyway) Lauren and Ben are falling in love, and how can you compete with that or be upset?

I have to agree the comments about regarding Ben and Lauren. When Ben was with Jojo, in the last promo, Sophie posted in the sc thread the body language of him having his leg crossed is showing hes putting a barrier up. With Lauren in the last episode he sat open to her legs open, there are alot of difference. IMO

I think it's pretty obvious he is most into Lauren IMO. I could never do this show though. The way he bit his lips/toungue(can't remember) and looked at jojo like he wanted to rip her clothes off after he kisses her on the couch...he also moans a lot while with some of the other girls(Olivia,Caila,jojo) I would never be able to unsee/unhear that if he was my husband. Maybe lauren won't watch the part with other ladies. He is for sure goin out of his way to make Lauren feel special tough. I don't see him doing that with any others.

brittany4400 wrote:I think it's pretty obvious he is most into Lauren IMO. I could never do this show though. The way he bit his lips/toungue(can't remember) and looked at jojo like he wanted to rip her clothes off after he kisses her on the couch...he also moans a lot while with some of the other girls(Olivia,Caila,jojo) I would never be able to unsee/unhear that if he was my husband. Maybe lauren won't watch the part with other ladies. He is for sure goin out of his way to make Lauren feel special tough. I don't see him doing that with any others.

Yes, he is all over JoJo. He wants in her pants for sure. I've never seen him like that with Lauren. I "pray" that she doesn't watch the season...For a 'Christian man' he's pretty sexual....

Also, he has known Lauren and the other girls a few weeks, while he's been dating multiple girls. He's not going to be everything with everyone as even in normal setting, dating irl for a few weeks no one is tender, sweet, passionate, and getting to know the other person at the same time. Relationships progress, it all doesn't happen WHAM!!! at one time. We see different sides of Ben with different ladies, and all his relationships develop at their own unique speed. If he's not the most passionate with Lauren week 5, that's not a bad thing. He clearly is attracted to her, and wants to keep her there, to be able to grow this relationship with her.