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Party's over, JP!

Bachelorette winner JP Rosenbaum headed back to work as a New York-based construction manager at J Companies Wednesday, two days after announcing his engagement to Ashley Hebert on the show's Monday finale.

VIDEO: Watch JP propose to Ashley in Fiji

But the 34-year-old -- who proposed to Hebert in Fiji with a $60,000, 3.5-carat Neil Lane sparkler -- wasn't all business on his first day back.

Fitting in a bit of press on a local New York radio station, Rosenbaum also signed up for Twitter, and has been communicating with fans!

VIDEO: JP pens Ashley a touching love letter

"Someone pinch me! Still feels like i'm dreaming. 1st tweet ever!Thanks EVERYONE for all the kind words & support! I/We are beyond touched!" he blogged.

In addition to Tweeting back and forth with fellow Bachelorette alum Nick Peterson, Rosenbaum virtually chatted with ABC exec Robert Mills and Bachelorette producer Elan Gale, who encouraged fans to Tweet the reality star.

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"Make sure you're following @JP_Rosenbaum. He's at work and needs 3 million emails to pop up on his phone," Gale joked.

The next few months are sure to be busy for Rosenbaum and his bride-to-be Hebert, 27, who announced that they're aiming for a fall 2012 wedding. On the couple's to-do list in the immediate future: Relocate Hebert to New York City!

VIDEO: JP and Ashley's cutest Bachelorette moments

"I'm so emotionally drained that the only thing I want to do is be in New York with him, go for coffee in the morning and get back to a normal life," Hebert has said.

cfck2222 wrote:Here's a report on the new tabloids:

PEOPLE have the Ashley/JP cover story.
US has a 2 page spread on Ashley/JP, no mention on the cover.
OK has a little feature (like close to half a page but a little less) that's not their main cover story but is one of their cover stories called "Ashley: In Love Or In Hell?"
IN TOUCH looks to continue its 0-fer streak with a "JP's Family Says Don't Marry Ashley" story that is one of their cover stories but not their main one.
STAR has a story called "Ashley: Engaged & Miserable!" that's one of their cover stories but not their main one.
LIFE & STYLE has a 2 page story on Ashley & JP that's much much more positive than the "Ashley & JP: Jealous Fights Already!" headline on their cover would make you believe. Not their main cover story.

People's story covers what the teaser on the cover says so it's actually surprisingly focused on negative stuff. There are a bunch of cute pictures including one on the Table Of Contents page and a bunch in the story. My favorite one is in the story where Ashley's grabbed JP's tie to pull him close and they're smushing noses together and smiling big. The story starts out with Ashley talking about finding love then goes on to say it hasn't been all peaches because while the show has aired, JP's had to endure watching Ashley getting close to other guys including Bent and Ben. In the context of talking about Ash falling initially for Bent and talking about him there's a quote from JP saying that he reminded himself he had signed up for this and it's the nature of the show but it still stung. JP says they'd talk through stuff, call it "show misunderstandings" and move on. But it was hard not being able to be together and be public. The article mentions tabloid reports of JP not being over his ex with JP saying he got his heart broken in 2008 but he wishes the girl well and has nothing bad to say about her. Later in the article there's talk about how humiliated Ashley was and all the judgment she endured because Bent was talking out of both sides of his mouth. JP says you can tell a person not to read what's being said about them but it's almost impossible to resist. He said he kept telling Ashley, "They don't know you." There's an inset on Chrystie that ends with her saying "How could you not love JP?" There's an inset on Ben F talking about how shocked, down, and angry he was that Ashley rejected him. The article mentions Ashley's "steamy makeout session" with Ben F the night before FRC. Ashley says she understands there will be backlash for how she handled the FRC situation and the article says she can't really explain the whole thing. [My note: how can she? It's not like she can say the producers made me do it.] She said she tried to talk first but Ben F insisted on going first. Ashley and JP say going through what they've been through and surviving, they're stronger together now than they would've if they'd just met the normal way. Ashley isn't going to convert to Judaism but that's not an issue between them. They confirm Ashley will finish dental school at UPenn then JP and Ashley will move in together in New York. They say they believe the toughest time is behind them and now that they survived it there will be good things ahead.

Us actually has the most positive story out of anybody. It uses pictures from the FRC and the article talks about how Ashley and JP were all over each other even when the cameras were off at ATFR. The article quotes an anonymous insider saying they're really in love but not rushing into a wedding. the insider says JP wants to accomplish more professionally before they wed and Ashley still has to finish dental school. The article confirms they'll be moving in together as we know and also says JP and Ashley will be taking a month off to just be together. The article speculates that will include the trip to Fiji they won. They quote the insider saying it doesn't matter where they are, they'll very much in love. On a sad note I think it's the Us article that says Ben F was devastated and crying over the rejection. Us says the next Bachelor hasn't been decided yet but it's between Ames, Ben F, and Ryan. The article says Ames won't do it because of his relationship w Jackie though I thought RS said that was over. Who knows if that's true.

OK's little featurette basically has a positive side with gushy Ashley quotes from JP (that we already know) and a negative side talking about her insecurities that JP still talks about his ex Stephanie Kerman and because guys on the season like Ben F were distant and Constantine and Mickey left.

In Touch has a little story across the bottom of a page saying JP's family wants him to marry a nice Jewish girl and his ex Stephanie Kerman fit the bill. So they're against this marriage. I guess In Touch didn't read Ashley's blog after HTDs giggling

Star has this week's nastiest B/ette story. Basically says JP hasn't been able to handle Ashley's hookups with other guys on the show. It claims Ashley slept with Ben F the night before the FRC in the fantasy suite (pretty sure the story's already fallen apart right there) and Ben F's been telling people about their "raunchy romp" and his jabs at JP about it are exactly what JP can't handle. There's a quote from an anonymous "friend of Ashley's" saying Ben F's immature and is only saying that stuff because of his bruised ego because he was really upset and mad over Ashley's rejection. They interview and quote Jesse C saying most leads hook up with both of their F2 and he's heard it happened in this case too. I don't know what Jesse C's definition of "hook up" is but Star's obviously spinning it as sexual intimacy.

Life & Style's story is 95% positive. The whole first part is about how happy Ashley and JP are but then there's a part where it says there was a time a few weeks ago that JP couldn't handle what he was seeing and either wanted to end it or did end it but that didn't last long. I think there's also something about how when Ashley is out somewhere and JP can't reach her it's hard on him because he wants to know where she is (obviously more of the jealousy angle). The article says JP was overheard on July 14th at a party at Casa La Femme saying he was in the market for a townhouse, not just a floor but a whole townhouse. The article talks about Ashley and JP moving in together and how now they've made it through the tough times and are very happy to move on with their lives together. Lots of gushy happy stuff that we already knew and there's a page in the middle about whether they can break the curse, mentioning again that they were allowed to spend more time together than other couples because the producers want to help them make it work. I think the L&S article claims they had time together in New York and also in Philly but I don't know if the Philly part of that is true. The article says Ashley is always on JP's mind and he's gotten her lots of nice gifts like earrings and stuff like that.

I'm interested to see if the tabloid coverage next week (other than In Touch anyway LOL) is more positive after JP & Ashley's media tour this week.

More than 9 million viewers tuned in to The Bachelorette season finale Monday night and watched Ashley Hebert get engaged to the man of her dreams, New York construction manager J.P. Rosenbaum.

But they also saw Hebert's sister, Chrystie Corns, loudly voice her disapproval of Rosenbaum as a mate for her sister.

"I made a big mistake," Corns tells PEOPLE of hastily judging Rosenbaum and telling him he wasn't a good match for Ashley. "As I started watching the season, however, it's very clear to me that J.P. was the one. He was the best choice."

On the May afternoon that they all met, Corns was singing a different tune. From the start, she told Hebert and Rosenbaum she didn't see a connection between the two of them, even going as far as telling both that she saw more of a bond between her sister and Brad Womack on The Bachelor last season.

"What I didn't take into consideration at that point was that she had been on this eight-week journey and she was really tired," says Corns, noting that Ashley is usually much more animated, especially around her family.

Corns (who appeared on the first season of TLC's Extreme Couponing) has since apologized to Hebert and Rosenbaum, whom she now refers to as her sister's "knight in shining armor" for being such a rock all season long. Corns says she and Hebert are "the best of friends." As for Rosenbaum, he isn't letting her off the hook just yet.

"I'm totally apologetic, I feel like a jerk – I want to make it up to him but he won't let me forget it," Corns says with a laugh. "J.P. says if he has anything to do with it I'm going to have to fight for the right to be maid of honor."

For more on the couple's engagement, their relationship challenges and their future plans, pick up the new issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands Friday.

With the wedding-themed reality shows and the TV specials of celeb ceremonies, it would make perfect sense if "Bachelorette" couple Ashley Hebert and her fiance J.P. Rosenbaum wanted to tie the knot in front of friends, family and the viewers at home.

After all, that's how their courtship played out.

But according to USA Today, now that they've found each other, they want the TV cameras to fade to black.

"We talk about it in jest sometimes, but no real thought has gone into it," Rosenbaum, 34, said of the idea of a TV wedding. But it sounds like his fiancee has stronger views.

"I don't think you'll be seeing us on TV unless you TIVO'd those episodes," Hebert, 27, said.

And even if they were to invite cameras to witness their matrimony, it sounds like the ceremony is still a ways off.

"We haven't given any serious thought to [a wedding]," Rosenbaum said. "We're not going to wait five years to get married, but we're going to take it one step at a time."

For her part, Hebert seems fine with that.

"We built this great foundation. We've been engaged for two months, but I feel like we've been together for years," she said. "We have a fairytale...but like the world saw, there's ups and downs. It's not perfect, but it's great. It's a real relationship. It's not like we're in la-la land."

As a special little bonus, Ashley and J.P. did a conference call with reporters this afternoon. I asked them if they might be getting to see J.P.'s family since they are in New York and Long Island isn't far away, and he said that they hoped to very soon, but they are on this whirlwind media tour today so once things settle down a bit they will. His family seems so nice! I think that Ashley is going to love being a part of it!

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I also asked them if they planned on remaining friends with some of the guys who were on the show, or did they want to leave that all in the past? J.P. said that he definitely cannot wait to pick up the phone and call Ames, Mickey, and William because he was pretty close with them and he said that being in the house was like a big fraternity. Ashley said that she hopes to stay in touch to some degree with all of them because they all experienced something unique that not many people have in being on the show.



Ashley was asked what she would have done if J.P. decided not to propose, and she said she would have been perfectly happy just being in a relationship with him. She said it he didn't feel ready then, she would have just been thrilled to have him in her life, and that the engagement wasn't necessary but it was great.



They also broached the topic of being brought up in different religions. J.P. is Jewish and Ashley is Christian, but they say the difference never became a problem for them. They say they are happy to celebrate all of the holidays together, and as for how they will raise their future children, Ashley is leaving that up to J.P.!

Ashley gushed when she talked about looking for an apartment together. They both seem so excited about all of their future plans! Ashley said that J.P. already cleared out a whole closet for all of her things at his place and she thought that was the sweetest thing ever!

It was so fun getting to chat with the very happily engaged Ashley Hebert and J.P. Rosenbaum! Here is the transcript from the conference call yesterday. The questions I asked are in PURPLE.

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Question: We are very happy for you both. We were hoping that that would be the outcome. So Ashley, we are just wondering at what point, you had the – you know confrontation with your sister, and at what point during the trip to Fiji did you guys straighten things out between yourselves?



Ashley Hebert: With J.P. or with my sister?



Question: With your sister, you and your sister.



Ashley Hebert: You know, we actually never resolved it in Fiji. She left and it was still unresolved. Then I think it was when we got home that we talked about it a little bit, but it went unresolved for a while until she started watching the show air and then she called me up and said, “I am so sorry, I completely see it now, I was too quick to judge,” so it took a little while that she came around.



Question: Awesome. And J.P., you guys obviously are having nice moment on After the Final Rose last night but did you guys talk a bit after you went off the air and what did you say to each other?



J.P. Rosenbaum: Absolutely. The first time we got to speak after we got back from Fiji, Chrystie was so sweet, so supportive, it was a different person I was talking to, and now it is ancient history, we are – we are close.



Question: So, what was going through your head Ashley and your head J.P. when J.P. was giving his proposal speech, which was very good by the way?



J.P. Rosenbaum: Thank you.



Ashley Hebert: It was great. I mean, I think I was just waiting to hear what he had to say, and you know, as a woman or as a girl, you always dream of this moment, so I guess, I was just kind of living it – living in it and I just wanted to hear everything he had to say.



J.P. Rosenbaum: And I was just, I was so comfortable, I mean, it felt right, and it just naturally flowed and when I was standing there with her next to me, it was as if nobody else was around and that is how it had always been with us from the start, so I wasn't nervous, it just all felt natural and I was happy with how it turned out.



Question: Well, and with everything that went down with your sister Ashley, J.P. was there every moment when he really did think I will tell her that I love her but I won’t propose on that particular date, and actually if he had done that what would you have done?



Ashley Hebert: You answer the first thing.



J.P. Rosenbaum: Nothing that happened between me and her sister at any influence on my decision to propose. I always knew that I was going to propose, I guess, pretty much two to three weeks prior I knew it was going to happen, so I was just afraid that her sister's comments and opinions would influence the way she felt about me, but I was hoping that she would trust her gut, trust her heart, and not really listen to her sister, and it turned out all right.



Ashley Hebert: I forgot the first part of your question, what was it?



Question: Well, what would you have done if he got down there and you were both standing there and he said he loves you and he wanted to be with you, when (inaudible)?



Ashley Hebert: Oh! That is an easy question. I mean I always said that if I left with somebody that I love, it wouldn't matter if I was engaged or not. I mean obviously going into – you go through so much that you hope to be at a point where you feel comfortable enough to be engaged, but with J.P., I cared about him so much that if he was not ready for that, I was prepared to just leave with him in a relationship, or you know, just continue our relationship outside of it, we did not need the engagement.



Question: So, I know you guys were able to see each other a couple times while the show was actually airing, you know something that other Bachelor couples were not able to do, so, you know, that you guys definitely had that working in your favor, so when did you see what you guys are going to be doing, you know, different from previous couples on this shows. Like how were you guys going to, you know, guarantee that this is going to work and not following the footsteps of past Bachelor couples, you know like Trista, Ryan and the ones who are still together?



Ashley Hebert: Yes, we definitely were able to meet up every other week, but I do believe that past contestants have done the same thing, so it is nothing different than what past contestants have done, but – and I don't really have the answer to that because I don't know what they did, I don't know who the past contestants were, how their relationship was, all I can tell you is that this show really brought us together, it built a really good relationship, I think.



We confided in each other, we learnt how to communicate, you know, we dealt with jealousy; we dealt with insecurity; we dealt with so many things early on; we built this great foundation, and now, we are out here in the real world; we have been engaged for two months, but I feel like we have been together for years. So...



J.P. Rosenbaum: We really feel like the hardest part is definitely behind us. We've had to experience some things that no one on this planet will have to experience and we have gotten past some pretty rough times, but we have come through the other side, and we couldn't be happier and now we're just looking forward to starting over lives together.



Question: Ok, good, well congratulations again. And second question, Ashley, you know, we are so happy that you ended up with J.P., we knew – we knew this was going to happen from the start but when Ben got down on one knee and you knew you were not going to pick him, you know, what was going through your mind, and you know, J.P., when you were watching that last night, you know, what were your feelings about that?



Ashley Hebert: Well, I can tell you, for me, I know the whole thing is kind of a blur obviously going into it. The last thing I wanted to do is hurt Ben it being the great guy that he is. So, when he was – I mean it is a blur to me, but I remember, you know, trying to talk to him and then feeling like I was not sure what to say and then he got down on one knee and it was just, I had to pull him up, it really was a whirlwind and I think it is really hard to understand my fear there in that moment with all eyes on you and cameras on you, and I think it is really hard if you understand.



J.P. Rosenbaum: And I mean, I actually haven't watched any of Ben’s clips from the finale, so I never even saw it. I decided weeks ago that I wasn't going to watch it. We got – we came out the other side so happy and what we have and what I watched in the finale of Ashley and me together, it is just – it is a way I want to remember it, so –.



Question: And I was wondering, when did you realize that J.P. was the one, was it during your time at Fiji or perhaps even before that?



Ashley Hebert: That is such a hard question to answer because there is so much that is going on, you are dating other men and you are going to continue to date other men, I think pretty early on my heart was pulling me in that direction, but I wanted to use all the time that I had to really be sure that this relationship was one that was going to last. You know, early on everything that happened was Bentley, I wanted to be sure that my radar on. So, I continue to date the other guys but my heart was pulling me in that direction for a long time.



Question: And also, I saw and read it on Regis & Kelly this morning that you actually admitted to being the first to tell him that you loved him. Did you feel like you were kind of breaking the rules by telling him before the show was over that you loved him?



Ashley Hebert: What do you think babe?



J.P. Rosenbaum: It is –.



Ashley Hebert: I mean it is hard – I think it is really hard because when you care about somebody so much and you see them in this tough situation, you know, all you want to do is be honest with them and tell them how you feel and you know there would be a – may have been a moment where he started to like that, where I felt like I needed to just kind of let him know how I was feeling.



J.P. Rosenbaum: And it wasn’t a blatant. It was not as obvious as am I madly in love with you statement. It was something much, much more subtle than that, but it was – it put my head in the right place.



Question: So J.P., how would you rate your confidence going into that final Rose Ceremony? Did you believe whole-heartedly that Ashley was going to choose you over Ben or did you go into it kind of with the fear that you might be crushed by it’s outcome?



J.P. Rosenbaum: I was confident that – and I don't want to sound cocky at all, but I was confident after our Hong Kong date that I would be the last guy standing. I knew that what Ashley and I had was special and that there was really no way she could have with anybody else what the two of us had together. I think I even said it in the finale that she may love both of us, but she can only be in love with one of us, and I mean, I felt that for weeks.



Question: Ok, and Ashley, what was your reaction at the time to Ben's response, or lack of rather, after you eliminated him? Did it surprise you he was angry or did you think he was handle it a little differently. And J.P., similar question, had Ashley chosen Ben over you, do you think you would have acted the same way as Ben or how do you think you might have handled it differently?



Ashley Hebert: On – going into it, I had no idea what to expect. I think my – my expectation were that he would be more sad, and I got a sense that he was a little bit more angry than I had anticipated, and in the moment, I didn't understand that, watching it back I can certainly see where that anger came from and it makes more sense to me now.



J.P. Rosenbaum: To be honest, I never really thought of that hypothetical situation because I felt so strongly that she was going to say yes for a while that I really never put myself in that mindset. I can understand Ben getting upset by it. I mean, right now if Ashley were to walk away from me, I would be devastated. So if Ben felt even a fraction of what I feel, I can understand him being hurt and sad.



Jennifer Matarese: Hi, so I was wondering if you planned on getting to see J.P.'s family while you are in New York.



J.P. Rosenbaum: Yes, we don’t know – we have no idea when yet because she has school stuff going on. I have to get back to work.



Ashley Hebert: We have a real life to get back to.



J.P. Rosenbaum: So, it's definitely going to happen soon. We just have not planned anything just because we did not know where press would take us. We did not know – there are too many unknowns at the moment, but yes, sooner rather than later.



Jennifer Matarese: Ok and do you guys both plan on staying friends with any of the other guys who were on the show, and if so, who are you guys just looking to move forward and kind of move on from that?



J.P. Rosenbaum: Absolutely, I mean when you spend 24x7 with a group of guys, it became a small fraternity, I guess. So, I will definitely stay in touch with a bunch of them. I have not been able to speak to any of them since they left the show, so I'm actually to reach out and say hi, and I would say Mickey and William and Ames, and there’s a bunch of guys that I am going to pick up the phone and call.



Jennifer Matarese: Ok, great, and Ashley, what about you?



Ashley Hebert: I am open to being friends and staying in touch with all of the guys. I mean, one thing that I said at the beginning and I still standby is I have such a great respectable group of guys and I – you know, I am hoping that we can – you know, all be friends after this and, you know, we all went through it together, so we all experienced something that people haven’t felt.



Question: And so, we heard about the ring earlier on, and I just wanted to know what you are thinking Ashley when you start and say. What is your thought on it, too, gorgeous?



Ashley Hebert: Oh my goodness, it is absolutely gorgeous. I am looking at it right now actually. So, I think going into it, I did not really know what I like, but as soon as I saw the ring that J.P. picked out, I was blown away. I loved that it was simple, and heartfully – it was absolutely beautiful. I don’t think that he could have picked out a better ring for me.



Question: Yes, and I know you guys, you have been on public together now and obviously on the TV, but have you actually managed to have your first kind of public date yet, or is there any idea what you want to do for your first date in pubic?



J.P. Rosenbaum: First date or first date in public. Our first date will probably be ordering something in and sitting on the couch and watching TV. First date in public, we have not even thought about that yet.



Ashley Hebert: Coffee day.



J.P. Rosenbaum: We have a lot going on, so it could be coffee, it could be – I don’t know brunch somewhere or to be dinner.



Ashley Hebert: Or jog in the park perhaps?



J.P. Rosenbaum: A stroll, not someone to jog.



Ashley Hebert: We got strength over here.



Question: So, you are just looking –?



J.P. Rosenbaum: Go ahead.



Question: Is it that you are just looking to going back to normal life, just kind of living a quiet life or are we are going to be seeing you on TV?



Ashley Hebert: I don’t think you will be seeing us on TV unless you TIVO those episodes.



Question: So, you guys only told that the cupcake story on the premiere of fans, kind of talk to it and I would like to ask J.P., are you calling Ash with (inaudible) now?



J.P. Rosenbaum: Occasionally, not as frequent as you would like, I don’t –.



Question: He will, do not worry.



J.P. Rosenbaum: There are a lot of other pet names thrown in the mix, so –.



Question: Now, “I Can’t Fight This Feeling” going to end up as your wedding song?



J.P. Rosenbaum: It will definitely be played, that is a guarantee.



Ashley Hebert: I need to be in your wedding song.



J.P. Rosenbaum: You might be.



Question: Ok, just one more question, who do you guys think would end up being the best bachelors? Do you think it should be Ben or Ames, Ryan, what do you think?



Ashley Hebert: I think that would be really, really good. I think the girls have loved him, but I also think Ryan and Ames would be good. Any of those guys would be great and we would love to watch any of them.



J.P. Rosenbaum: Yes, it was such a great group of guys that you really cannot go wrong, I don’t think with any of them, we would certainly watch Ben or Ames or Ryan, any of those guys on the Bachelor.



Question: So, I guess, my first question is, you can just talk a little bit about your plans coming up in the next two months. When are you coming to New York, where do you think about you are going to be living and you know your practice here, are you going to be establishing it in the city, or you know, tell us about your plans?



Ashley Hebert: It is not all kind of up in the air right now. I know I am going to be moving to New York within the next, probably month or so, and I am still finishing up school at the same time. After that, I think I am going to take some time, apply for my license and just kind of, you know, allow the dust to settle, and then probably start practicing. I really don’t even know if I am going to be practicing. It is all up in the air. Right now, there is so much going on.



Question: Yes, ok, and then the second one is a little bit more of a controversial question but a lot of the readers on my blog have been asking about this.



Were you at all upset that, you know, ABC or the producers, they did not make the decision to tell you what was going on exactly on the side, you know, and like the past season with Jake, there was an issue where one the contestants named Roslyn was having an inappropriate relationship with one of the producers on the show, and Chris Harrison went and called her out on it, but you know the same thing was not done for you, and I don’t know if they had shown you actually video clips that showed him speaking in a negative way about you if that would have influenced your decision, but was wondering if you were angry that they never brought that to your attention?



Ashley Hebert: Well, I do have to say that in my defense, I didn't know anything, I wasn't shown any videos, and in their defense, I have say that there was a part of me for a second that was thinking why didn't– why wasn't I shown, but then you have to think back like this journey is about, you know, the producers can't run and tell, what he said then she said, like it is about your own experience and your own journey.



So I understand there definitely was a part of me that was, you know, upset for a short period of time but then you realize that that is what this is all about and it is about your own journey and your own experience, and you know, it led me to such a great man that I wouldn't change anything, because there is a part of me that thinks that the hard times really brought me and J.P. closer together, and now we have this very strong relationship and I don't know that I will go back and change anything. So –.



Question: My question is heading into the final day to deal family, Ashley, it seems really obvious that you clearly wanted to choose J.P. and so badly wanted your family to like him, and when your sister had that reaction, did you really take a moment to think (about) the issue kind of move J.P. for my entire life, maybe I shouldn't choose him, and did you really reconsider at that point?



Ashley Hebert: To be honest, I knew that I would follow my own gut and I would not let anyone else influence me, and that is what I loved about is this whole journey is I have got to trust myself. Now, the truth is I knew my sister was being tough, and I knew that she was so stubborn that she would never take it back even if she had to change her heart, so – and I knew that she would grow to love him and once she saw us together, I had no doubt that she would see what I feel, and things would be all right and things would be great, and actually they are. They are close now and they actually joke about it. So, all is well.



Question: Great, and then just quickly J.P., can you tell us a little more about what you do in New York, you said you were a construction manager, can you tell us more about your job?



J.P. Rosenbaum: Yes. We were primarily builders, every project we work on is somewhat different. We can be in a consulting role working for a developer, a bank, an insurance company, or we can be building a building, or we can develop ourselves where we do a lot of those things (inaudible) somewhat clear, every project is different but primarily we are builders.



Question: So Ashley being dumped by Brad on the previously season, does that make it more difficult for you to break the news to Ben?



Ashley Hebert: I definitely think that it primes you to be a little bit more sensitive, and you know it's breaking up with people, because you certainly know how it feels to be broken up with on national television, and it is not a nice feeling. So yes, I would probably say that it is definitely made me more sensitive.



Question: Ok and back to the Bentley issue. Do you wish that you had gotten the opportunity to confront him, and if so, what would you have said to him?



Ashley Hebert: You know, to be honest, maybe there was a point, when I first found out the things he was saying, I was angry at him, but that was so long ago and I have J.P., and I mean, to be honest, I forgave him a while back. I don't have any interest in talking to him or seeing him, and I’m so far removed from all of that. So, I wish him well and, hopefully, he wishes the same for me.



Question: So, I am interested in how are you feeling about this move to New York? Ashley for you, you're obviously moving to a new city, but you guys are also moving in together. What are emotions swirling around for both of you? And Ashley obviously your little dog will have a new house? Maybe how are you feeling about this dog situation kind of combining yourself, you know, the usual stuff that goes along with moving in together?



J.P. Rosenbaum: I always knew that it was a package deal with Ashley. So I'm welcoming Boo’s arrival.



Ashley Hebert: He is already practicing his dog relationship.



J.P. Rosenbaum: That is not happening.



Question: Can we hear a little bit of it J.P.?



J.P. Rosenbaum: I'm not sure I have one. You can hear hers.



Question: It would be great to hear that. And Ashley how are you feeling about moving in together? Are you like me that have 100 pairs of shoes, and when I moved in with my boyfriend, he was like, “where are these going?” Do you have that same sort of situation happening?



Ashley Hebert: Well, I really – I mean I'm really excited to, first of all just to be with him because obviously we have been separate for a while, and I am – I have no hesitation about moving in. I definitely don't have any anxiety about it. I think we are ready for that. And I don't have a lot of shoes luckily, but he cleaned out a closet for me, isn't that sweet?



Question: It is.



Ashley Hebert: It was like a big closet but for now, he cleans out a closet for me.



Question: And just one more question, this morning on Regis, when you guys did the lovers –?



Ashley Hebert: Oh no.



Question: We found out that you said I love you first, and just with editing and stuff on this show, it looks like J.P. said it first, so what was it like when you said it first, and for us it was like, oh! He is telling her but she is not saying anything back to him, this is kind of awkward, so as a viewer, a kind of saying like he was saying it first and you were not saying anything, so when you watched that back how did you feel about it?



J.P. Rosenbaum: Asking how you felt about it?



Ashley Hebert: How I felt about it? I felt like watching right back.



Question: So, in the finale last night, we saw J.P. saying, I am madly in love with you.



Ashley Hebert: Right.



Question: And you kind of were not saying anything back, and so for both of you to watch that back, did it seem awkward to you because for us it was like she is not saying anything, she is not saying anything, like worst nightmare, you know.



Ashley Hebert: No, we lived it, so we know what happened. We both knew how we felt about each other, so watching it, I guess, we are kind of biased and we knew that we both thought the same way, but I guess, I can see as a viewer how you would be like, come on Ashley, say something.



Question: Yes, I was like open your mouth and say it.



J.P. Rosenbaum: But I think all the viewer’s know that if you were to say it back to me that quickly, it would be over. So, regardless of how she felt, I don’t think we would know the truth until the end of it, and it is just kind of the nature of the beast, you know, from my end when you say something like that and, you know, you can’t hear it back, it is a different thing being afraid that she won’t say it back. I knew she could say anything back. And, you know, I put myself in that position but I knew what it was all about.



Question: I have a – the first question is for J.P., following up on the Bentley thing. Ashley said she has no desire to confront him. J.P. has a guy, would you like to have the opportunity sort of to confront him and set him straight?



J.P. Rosenbaum: No, I think he made his bed, and now he can lie on it. I – you know, he showed who he was and the worst part of it was watching, you know, Ashley see it for the first time and being hurt by it and all the people judging her based upon what they saw and not being able to defend Ashley, that was the hardest part, and like she said, the Bentley phase was so long ago. I have nothing to say to the guy, it's over in my book.



Question: And Ashley at the Men Tell All, I know Ali Fedotowsky was there, Jason Mesnick, DeAnna Pappas. Did you have a chance to talk to any of them after the show, get a little bit advice about how to handle all this and specifically from Ali, advice on how to sustain a healthy relationship?



Ashley Hebert: Yes, I mean, I guess, I spoke to Ali. She was somebody that was really helpful throughout all the hard times, and I have to say that she definitely did give me advice on the most important thing is she has been through it and she – you know, I think she faced a little bit of criticism, and she – you know she had very similar things happen to her, so I felt like she actually knew, you know, what I was going through, and she – I almost feel like she gave me the strength to get through it in a way, just the things she was saying was like, you are right, you are right, you know, she had been removed from it for so long.



She had some great words, and then her relationship with Roberto, obviously they made it through all this, so she gave me, you know, we talked about something that we are going through and she got me helped out.



Question: Anything in particular what she said.



Ashley Hebert: No, not really. I mean just kind of the general thing that all people live, this kind of journey, like just a – typical problems that the people have.



Question: I just want to go back to the things with your sister again real quick, were you so upset because, it kind of sounds like you knew going in there, it was J.P., are you pretty close to the siding of J.P., were you so upset because of what she said, in general. Were you so upset because you know it was J.P. and you wanted her to like him?



Ashley Hebert: I think I was probably both. Of course, I wanted my family to really love him as much as I did, but I think for me it was at that point in time I had been away from my family and friends for so long, and I just wanted somebody to be there for me and some of you just reported to me regardless of what my decision was, and I felt so alone. I felt alone through a lot of this and I wanted her there to make me feel like cool again, and instead it almost was like she pushed me farther away by saying that, so – but, you know what? It allowed me to really be alone and make that final decision based on what I was feeling, so maybe it was the best thing.



Question: And although it was just a split second for viewers, maybe it was longer for you, but my heart is saying when she brought up Brad, how were you feeling when she said that?



Ashley Hebert: When she – Ok, so I knew she was completely like off with her judgment and you know when she said that she thought I was more into Brad, I thought, “Ok, I am not going to listen into anything she says because what I feel for him is completely different from what I felt for Brad.” So, at that point, she lost me.



Question: Hi guys, so this question is for both of you. You mention during and After the Final Rose special that you want a little time to, you know, let the media hype die down, and so I'm just asking what kind of rough timeframe are you two envisioning a wedding, and would you ever consider televising it to share the experience with your viewers?



J.P. Rosenbaum: Really, we haven't given any serious thought to it just because we have – we do have so much going on with her finishing school and moving up here and finding a job and moving into a new place. There is just so much going on that we really have not thought about it. We're not going to wait five years to get married, but we're going to take one step at a time and once things settle down, then we're going to start talking about wedding seriously. And as far as having it done on TV, we talked about it in just some time but no real thought has gone into it.



Question: Ok, and also during and After the Final Rose, Chris Harrison pointed out that living in New York City might not be the best move if you are looking to have the media hype die down and stay out of the press. Did you two ever consider or have any concerns about that and did you ever considered maybe moving and starting in some place fresh like Ali and Roberto did when they moved to San Diego last year?



Ashley Hebert: No, I mean, I think, you know J.P. is in New York. He is settled here, he has a great job, he is happy here, and I'm open to moving wherever. I think New York is different from LA. I think it is going to be different, I think it is going to be a lot less than if we were to live in Southern California. I don't think like it would be like we would be living in (Inaudible) Maine, but I think that we are going to be okay here. I think it is what you choose to do with it.



Question: Ok, good, well, I wish you luck with that, and my last question is that it is obvious that you two are very happy as a couple since the finale film, but is it really like the fairytale you both imagined it to be or has it been a little bit of a rocky road and that you faced some challenges or had your share of arguments since the final rose ceremony, anything like that?



Ashley Hebert: Yes, I mean I think, I don't know if we have had arguments. I think we definitely disagree on certain things and we view things differently but we talk through them and we get through them. We have a fairytale. I am not going to lie, like, we really do have a fairytale but, you know, like every– like the world saw their ups and downs, he had some tough times and I won and I had some tough times early on, it is not perfect, but it is great now, it's great. It's a real relationship, it's not like we are in la la land, you know.



Question: Absolutely, J.P. do you have anything to add to that?



J.P. Rosenbaum: Just, you know, once filming wrapped, and we went back to our homes and we were just able to be us even though we were hidden from, from everybody under secrecy, nothing faded, everything just got stronger. So any sort of buildup based upon living in Fiji and going on these crazy dates, and even if you're worried that things aren't going to be the same once you leave, it just got better. So, you know, once we got through that, I knew we were going to be great.



Question: I have a very important question. I want to hear more about this kissing. Ashley, you said that J.P. is the best kisser ever, I want to know what makes him a great kisser, and J.P. I want to know is Ashley a good kisser.



J.P. Rosenbaum: It's a bad time someone asks the question.



Ashley Hebert: Guys, I have to tell you –.



Question: I know there are a lot of girls on this line.



Ashley Hebert: I have to say that J.P. is the best kisser. I mean that I have ever kissed, and even when – and even very early on when I was not 100% emotionally attached to him, I was still dating a lot of other people, when I kissed them I said, “that is the best kiss I have ever had.” I don’t know what it is there is like this – there is this electricity between us – and just the way he kisses –.



J.P. Rosenbaum: Hold on a second.



Ashley Hebert: That was just a peck.



Question: I feel the electricity through the phone.



J.P. Rosenbaum: My reaction this, I mean kissing really takes two, you know, I could be the best kisser in the world but if she is not kissing me back, then it is, you know, it is going to be awful, so I think she is the best kisser I have ever kissed as well and it takes two and it really does. They would wish to do a video call next time.



Ashley Hebert: Yes.



Question: I think last night it was mentioned, I'm not sure if it was either by Ashley’s sister or perhaps even by Ashley herself that you thought sister saw the two of you and J.P. as opposite, I'm wondering if you can talk a little bit about how you maybe are different, but how that sort of brings out another side of each other?



Ashley Hebert: Let me take it first.



J.P. Rosenbaum: Go for it.



Ashley Hebert: Ok. You know, I think what people think about relationships and who (inaudible) for them, they immediately think of the person that is similar to them, and for me I think I need somebody to balance me. I'm definitely high-energy, I'm silly and goofy, and I just need somebody to balance that out. To balance it out and also I think J.P. is definitely more reserved, he is sincere, he's quite, but I bring the fun out of him.



J.P. Rosenbaum: Ok.



J.P. Rosenbaum: Absolutely. I think we complement each other just so well.



Ashley Hebert: Yes.



J.P. Rosenbaum: And that is what makes it work.



Ashley Hebert: So, even though we are different, we have this relationship where we have an equal mixture of fun and seriousness and romance and, I don't know, we just have everything that you probably want in a relationship and we each bring a little bit of that to it.



Question: Ok, and also after the proposal, there was a little tiny snippet where J.P. said, when you walked into the –?



Ashley Hebert: That is right, in the finale.



Question: And you said that, I knew – I knew I was going to find my husband – I knew I am going to find my husband in this room, and J.P.'s reaction. Did you guys kind of get a lot of laughter out of that when you finally brought that up to her?



J.P. Rosenbaum: Well, at that time we didn't even know we were on camera.



Ashley Hebert: Yes.



J.P. Rosenbaum: It was – I mean I was just being completely raw and honest and –.



Ashley Hebert: I'm telling you that was the best part of the finale for me. That moment, it was so real when I saw him and funny and I loved, I love that that was included in there.



Question: So, last night Chrystie had mentioned something about, you know, I'm welcoming J.P. with open arms and I can't wait to spend a lot of Christmases with him, and I think it was Ashley who said, and – you know, Ashley is really excited to learn about the Jewish faith and culture, and have you guys talked about that at all? About, you know, your different religions, and you know, it's a little early to talk about kids, but that is obviously something to consider, so what kind of conversations have you guys had about that if any?



Ashley Hebert: At first, I was nervous that his family would not be accepting me, but obviously that is not the case. I mean, we felt divided. The truth is I have been surrounded like a few – like three of my closest friends are Jewish, so I know a lot about it and I know a lot about the religion and the culture. I think that I am open to whatever J.P. wants to do, if he wants to raise our kids that way – Jewish – yes, actually whatever you want, because I am very open and I do not – I am not really set on anything, so whatever makes him happy, makes me happy.



J.P. Rosenbaum: And religion was never really a factor for me at all. I'm in love, so I'm in love and you can't control it, and I know my family is going to love whoever I love, so it was never an issue when we talked about including holidays and Christmas with the family and Passover with my family and it hasn't been a stumbling block at all.



Question: But at home, you weren’t concerned at all that your parents are going to be like she is great, but we are Jewish, she was –?



J.P. Rosenbaum: Never, never ever, ever. My parents, my family is not like that at all. They are accepting of whomever I would bring home, so I was not worried about that.

The Bachelorette may have ended with a bang—well for some, at least—what with Ashley Hebert finally giving the last proverbial rose to J.P. Rosenbaum, despite some serious criticism from her heavily tattooed sister, Chrystie. But does sis know best? Will the engaged couple indeed face the thorn of the Bachelor and Bachelorette break-up curse, only to be destined for second (and third, for Ashley!) fiddle fame on Bachelor Pad?

No, not at all, at least according to body language expert Dr. Lillian Glass who is offering her own brash and outspoken, albeit much more positive, opinion of Hebert and Rosenbaum and their future together.

Like millions of other infatuated fans, Glass watched ABC's After The Final Rose special and took specific note of the non-verbal communication cues between Ashley Hebert and J.P. Rosenbaum—mannerisms that probably would go undetected by the average viewer.

"When Ashley put her head on J.P.'s shoulder, his cheeks were raised, his eyes squenched up—it is absolutely the real deal and such a sweet, sweet couple," the good doctor reported. "Ashley looks into his eyes; she is confident with him. When a woman feels love they feel confident, and there's a posture you see."

Still, though, there's that curse that's compromised five of the seven Bachelorette matches, with only Trista Rehn and Ryan Sutter and Ali Fedotowsky and Roberto Martinez still forging on together. Nonsense, says Dr. Glass, "It's real. J.P. is taken with Ashley... J.P. turns red when she looks at him. He blushes and they are always holding hands."

Roslyn made the national news on Monday night as one of its natives, only known as “JP” was chosen by a young lady, Ashley, as the desire of her affections on the ABC series, The Bachelorette.

The big decision was made in front of millions of viewers on the primetime viewing of the popular series. JP was in competition with Ben, a California native, but the 33-year-old construction manager, who is a graduate of Herricks High School, came away as the winner.

[JP in a publicity photo. ]

JP in a publicity photo.
At the end of the two-hour season finale, JP got on his knees, offered Ashley the ring, and received an affirmative answer as the program closed with the expected fairy tale ending.

The decision culminated a seven-episode adventure in which the Bachelorette was courted by eligible bachelors in a variety of exotic locations: Fiji, Hong Kong, Taiwan, and Thailand. The young woman also traveled to the hometowns — including Roslyn — of the four remaining bachelors to meet with the parents of the young men still in the running. In Roslyn, JP and Ashley went on dates to the roller rink and a local disco.

As with other contestants, JP, prior to the dating season, listed his interests. He told ABC that his three worst attributes were being stubborn, “frustrated too easily when things don’t go my way,” and a lack of patience.

JP also listed the Fourth of July as his favorite holiday and admitted he was a reluctant dancer. He also said that the best trip he had ever been on was a two-month trip to Australia. “I just picked up and left, on my own, and bounced around the east coast of Australia. Time of my life.” At Herricks High School, JP played lacrosse. Anticipating his future success, he was also named “best looking” in the Class of 1995.

All this and the time spent with Ashley was more than enough as out of 25 men, JP made television history.

Titou wrote:LOLL soooo he was the friend as we all suspected

starts at 5:50

he also mentioned that if we twit or use facebook him we can get a video of him that he made during the show, showing him his guts feelings that JP was either F1 or next bachelor

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