Becca Tilly - Bachelor 20 - #3 - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

Oh sorry non-disclosure agreement. What is a NTC? I used. To watch hockey but cannot think of what that acronym stands for.

Becca did say that she wouldn't have done the show if it wasn't Chris. Who knows if that's actually true, though. Knowing Arie, I don't think there's any way a Virgin would have made it even half-way through. I think his top girls would have been Jade, Nikki, Britt, Sammi, and maybe Kaitlyn? That would have been such an amazing season. Stupid TPTB.

bluwavz wrote:If she had been on an Arie season I'd like to think he would've brought out a passionate side of her (if it even exists) but she probably would've either been gone the first night or a MOT contestant. I'm sure she would've clutched her pearls if she ever witnessed his moves.

I've come to think she is in the closet too scared to come out because of her family and religious beliefs. If not in the closet than in simple denial. I mean I'm not suggesting that everyone should be married or in a serious relationship by 27, not at all, but given her opportunities, I think there should've been more than only male friendships in all of this time. Jmo

Becca isn't in the closet. Far from it. She just has very high standards, and she should. She's a great girl and her family (parents and sister/brother-in-law) provides great examples of what a marriage should be.

I don't get a gay vibe from her at all. I have friends who are 26 and have never been in relationships and are virgins. I don't think it's that uncommon or even something to be ashamed of. I just think Becca comes off as too immature and judgmental because she's stuck with a 13-y/o's fantasy of what love and relationships look like.

No, being single and a virgin isn't and shouldn't be anything to be ashamed of. I don't believe I implied that it is. I just find it very hard to imagine her not meeting anyone that fits her "vey high standards" with all of the events she attends! If your friends go out as much as she does, then I'll stand down.

nothatgirl wrote:I don't get a gay vibe from her at all. I have friends who are 26 and have never been in relationships and are virgins. I don't think it's that uncommon or even something to be ashamed of. I just think Becca comes off as too immature and judgmental because she's stuck with a 13-y/o's fantasy of what love and relationships look like.

Exactly. Personally, I am in my mid-20's, and I'm waiting until marriage, have only been in 1 relationship that lasted over a year, am not huge on physical intimacy, am careful who I kiss, never been truly in love, etc. I'm just very careful when looking at members of the opposite sex because I love my parents and what they have, same with my siblings that are married, and I want a marriage like they have. I just want to be really sure that the person I am involved with is the right person. It's not because I'm scared to be intimate, have certain emotions, etc. I have friends who are the same way (Becca included).

rhondam wrote:Oh sorry non-disclosure agreement. What is a NTC? I used. To watch hockey but cannot think of what that acronym stands for.

Oh I knew what you meant NTC is a trade clause in regards to their contracts if they were to get traded, players have to agree on what teams they wish. Ok sorry all for the off topic back to Becca!

Perhaps Becca is hanging out in all the wrong crowd/places to meet her "Mr. Right".   When she is home with her family in Louisiana she seems grounded and has that girl next door appeal.  IMO.
I don't care if she is a virgin, I just don't want to keep hearing about it and/or about her "defrocking" on a TV show.  

There are reasons that Becca is the way that she is, some of which we'll never know, I'm sure. I'm looking forward to seeing her 1:1 with Ben. It'll lay the storyline for their relationship.

rhondam wrote:No, being single and a virgin isn't and shouldn't be anything to be ashamed of. I don't believe I implied that it is. I just find it very hard to imagine her not meeting anyone that fits her "vey high standards" with all of the events she attends! If your friends go out as much as she does, then I'll stand down.

I think she does meet people, but I just don't know if the people she meets are interested in dating a Virgin and living the LA lifestyle. I think there's a lot of guys who would date a Virgin and I think that there's a lot of guys who would be fine with someone obsessed with partying/celebrities/fame, but I just don't know how much overlap there is between those two groups. She's a rarity. She said on periscope that she talked to EM's BIL and he was interested, but things didn't go further because of the distance. And, Jared seemed to really like her too. So she definitely has options, but her focus right now seems to be on fame, not love.

I just don't feel comfortable speculating on someone's sexuality. If Becca is waiting as she said she is then good for her. To each their own.