Becca Tilly - Bachelor 20 - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

And obvious differences:
- Ben is taller
- Ben has better job
- Ben is outspoken about his Christianity

rhondam wrote:And obvious differences:
- Ben is taller
- Ben has better job
- Ben is outspoken about his Christianity

All things Becca knew before deciding to meet up with him.

rhondam wrote:And obvious differences:
- Ben is taller
- Ben has better job
- Ben is outspoken about his Christianity

Frankly that sounds kind of picky and materialistic.

His height shouldn't matter...it's not exactly as if Jared is tiny and she would tower over him.

As for having a better job, I guess we would have to see their paycheque to make sure, but RJ said Becca is not materialistic so that shouldn't matter. The man is gainfully employed...which is more than can be said for many of these people...and who knows what kind of hopes and plans he has for his future.

And when it comes to Christianity, until she has actually talked to Jared about the subject she doesn't really know. Not everyone is outspoken on the subject. Some choose to keep their faith more private.

Sprite wrote:

rhondam wrote:And obvious differences:
- Ben is taller
- Ben has better job
- Ben is outspoken about his Christianity

Frankly that sounds kind of picky and materialistic.

His height shouldn't matter...it's not exactly as if Jared is tiny and she would tower over him.

As for having a better job, I guess we would have to see their paycheque to make sure, but RJ said Becca is not materialistic so that shouldn't matter. The man is gainfully employed...which is more than can be said for many of these people...and who knows what kind of hopes and plans he has for his future.

And when it comes to Christianity, until she has actually talked to Jared about the subject she doesn't really know. Not everyone is outspoken on the subject. Some choose to keep their faith more private.

I know all of this. That was exactly my point about their only differences. Points to possible motivation if it's only about the men.

Nobody knows why Becca is going on the show or what conversations took place between her and Ben, so we will have to wait...another 3 months. Is it January yet?

I feel bad for Becca and RJ (as her friend): so many people are judging her before we know exactly what her motivation is or Ben's feelings about her are. We all have the right to our opinions, of course, and I think Becca's last Instagram post before she left says she knew people would judge her, but I still feel bad for her.
I hope she comes out of this relatively unscathed and moves on with her life in whatever way is appropriate for her.

mtnlvr55 wrote:I feel bad for Becca and RJ (as her friend): so many people are judging her before we know exactly what her motivation is or Ben's feelings about her are. We all have the right to our opinions, of course, and I think Becca's last Instagram post before she left says she knew people would judge her, but I still feel bad for her.
I hope she comes out of this relatively unscathed and moves on with her life in whatever way is appropriate for her.

I agree! I think they'd be a super sweet couple

So many are forgetting one thing and it is one thing that probably guides her the most. The Spirit. And that is an inward thing. So easy to judge when we don't know if she felt LED to go on the show despite all odds. Not to say that it would all be positive but a spiritual person knows it is all process, as is all of life. And if she felt peace to go, who am I to say no way?

If she told Ben that she felt she was led and supposed to come on the show, it is lingo he would understand and respect.  And both seeing where it goes. It may go nowhere and that is OK.  They  will both learn from this. It's all good.


JMO

BlackHalo wrote:Honestly, Becca can like Ben simply because he's hot. It doesn't matter to me. It just doesn't make sense why she would stand up a guy that has those qualities in favor of dating his friend.

Pretty sure she's just more attracted Ben...like a lot of people are, it's that simple. I'm sorry, she had no way of knowing who was a better guy without meeting them. She was basing it on her attraction and how he seemed on tv. Both seem like great guys. I don't really think being a software salesman is a better job than a restaurant manager either...
For all she knows, Jared would have adored her and treated her so well and been everything she was looking for. In fact, Jared already treated her better... because he isn't the one who hinted he wasn't interested. I have a feeling she will regret not dating Jared whenever Ben dumps her and she's heartbroken. (IMO)

KatCAli90 wrote:

BlackHalo wrote:Honestly, Becca can like Ben simply because he's hot. It doesn't matter to me. It just doesn't make sense why she would stand up a guy that has those qualities in favor of dating his friend.

Pretty sure she's just more attracted Ben...like a lot of people are, it's that simple. I'm sorry, she had no way of knowing who was a better guy without meeting them. She was basing it on her attraction and how he seemed on tv. Both seem like great guys. I don't really think being a software salesman is a better job than a restaurant manager either...
For all she knows, Jared would have adored her and treated her so well and been everything she was looking for. In fact, Jared already treated her better... because he isn't the one who hinted he wasn't interested. I have a feeling she will regret not dating Jared whenever Ben dumps her and she's heartbroken. (IMO)

She REALLY like him from what she had heard, saw, and from talking to him briefly when they first communicated. She saw this as a chance to meet a great guy that could potentially have a long-term relationship with. By no means is she in love or falling in love with him, but she just didn't want to have the regret of not exploring a relationship with him.

mtnlvr55 wrote:I feel bad for Becca and RJ (as her friend): so many people are judging her before we know exactly what her motivation is or Ben's feelings about her are. We all have the right to our opinions, of course, and I think Becca's last Instagram post before she left says she knew people would judge her, but I still feel bad for her.
I hope she comes out of this relatively unscathed and moves on with her life in whatever way is appropriate for her.

I'm sorry but I can't feel bad for her. She knew what she was getting into with the criticism from SM. She had already been through it once and came out relatively unscathed. However, she was clearly following what people were saying...at least here...since she came on to complain as soon as things began turning slightly negative. Not to mention, apparently she was warned by her friends and family...and Ben. She still went anyway. She can't claim ignorance.

I can't imagine that she will be turned into a villain along the lines of a Courtney, but I can see them making her seem very foolish. It will be up to her how she ends up handling things and what impression she leaves on us in the long run. I think her odds of coming out relatively unscathed are better than most, but because she seems to have a very thin skin when it comes to criticism, she may feel worse.

I think (or at least hope) that when we finally found out about some of the other girls we will see a couple that are amazing matches with Ben and Becca becomes an afterthought. Because I'm actually already tired of all this Becca talk and the season hasn't even started