The Bachelor 20 - Ben Higgins - Potential Contestants - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

In a perfect world I'd prefer to see quality contestants than quantity and more time spent with each like at least two 1-on-1's each

Me too.^

mysthelma wrote:Yeah for goodness sake he is 26, he needs to be with someone younger or at his age. I agree 28+ is not a good look IMO

I don't know...I think THAT's silly. No one said anything about Molly marrying a guy that was 8 years older or Andi dating Nick, who was also 8 years older (or Brad/Emily or Jake/Vienna and so forth). No one was like "stay away from Nick, Andi! He's in his mid-30s! That's not a good look!". I don't think that someone who is 28, or god, 29 or 30 even, is automatically crazy and desperate.

(side note: I turn 26 in a month...guess I need to find a husband ASAP).

As much as I would like to think that there is not a difference between an older man and a younger woman vs an older woman and younger man, there is. It would be silly to deny that..biologically speaking it is what it is. However there are always exceptions and Ben may find an older lady who is most compatible..but chances are he's not

chasingpavements wrote:

mysthelma wrote:Yeah for goodness sake he is 26, he needs to be with someone younger or at his age. I agree 28+ is not a good look IMO

I don't know...I think THAT's silly. No one said anything about Molly marrying a guy that was 8 years older or Andi dating Nick, who was also 8 years older (or Brad/Emily or Jake/Vienna and so forth). No one was like "stay away from Nick, Andi! He's in his mid-30s! That's not a good look!". I don't think that someone who is 28, or god, 29 or 30 even, is automatically crazy and desperate.  

(side note: I turn 26 in a month...guess I need to find a husband ASAP).

Yeah. Not all women in their early 30s are desperate to pop out babies tomorrow. I'd rather see him with someone older.

The double standard is unfortunate, but a lot of people feel this way. It's more than just "People didnt complain about this!"

Like I said, 24-28 is ideally the best age range for Ben. Anyone over 30 is a no go though imo. And anyone younger than 22 is a no go as well (though that's not a problem since the minumium age for this show is 21 )

Oh my goodness I keep missing lots I wish I didn't have to work

I think Ben could easily fall in love with a lady who was 30. And as I said before he could also easily fall for a single mom. I would like to see his gals that he chooses from be 24-30 honestly. Ben is not as immature as most guys I know who are 26. He has always had friends a couple years older. I would rather see him with a 30 year old then a 21-24 year old.

loveactually9 wrote:As much as I would like to think that there is not a difference between an older man and a younger woman vs an older woman and younger man, there is. It would be silly to deny that..biologically speaking it is what it is. However there are always exceptions and Ben may find an older lady who is most compatible..but chances are he's not

I don't really care who he picks *EDIT* Yeah, there are biological components at play, but there are many successful younger man/older woman relationships that work and many, many older man/younger woman relationships that don't. Many men are mature and successful at a younger age, and women in their *gasp* late 20s can still be seen as attractive and fertile. I don't think that a 29 year old woman and a 26 year old woman are that far apart in maturity, anyways, and I think that women like Kaitlyn and Whitney show that age is just a number. *EDIT* Could I see Ben with someone like Whitney? IMO, Nope, way too sophisticated and mature for him. Could I see him with someone like Kaitlyn? Sure. *EDIT*

It obviously doesn't matter what we think at the end of the day. He's gonna pick who he's gonna pick. *edit* It's just a personal preference...we obviously can't speak on his behave. He HAS said that a 30 year old, is not a factor for him (Kaitlyn), but you never know. Saying something is completely different to doing it. We shall see.

Hello everyone! Real life has kept me so very busy. I am amazed at the amount of info here already! I am really excited for Ben's season!!

RammerJammer......thanks for all the info you have been sharing.