The Bachelorette 11 - Kaitlyn Bristowe - Epi 9 July 13th - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

chasingpavements wrote:I don't think that not being able to handle conflict makes Shawn a bad person, I just think it makes him a bad romantic partner.

reason wrote:I dont give a rat's a** if the relationship works.  I just hate how kaitlyn and Shawn are bullying to Nick.  She will regret this later on in life.  All I want now is them off my tv screen they are not worth the electric bill payment, pity it is just Nick keep me watching.  My favorite show has gone down the drain this summer with a s*** as the lead with just enough brains to match her s***** ways.


Oh I so long for the good old days of Trista and Meredith.

AllAboutLove wrote:Kaitlyn said Nick was different from the type of guys she goes for and he brings out a deeper and more sensitive side to her. She also said she wasn't sure about longterm with him... alluding to him being different from what she is attracted to and goes for.

Imo, from what Kaitlyn said and did, Nick blindsided her by how much she liked him because he is not her type at all. K liked who she was with Nick but was concerned that they were too different because she had never liked a guy like him before.

To me it is is just a repeat of last year... going with the safe option. That being said, I think the safe option was the best choice as I think Kaitlyn is too much of an "in the moment" person for Nick. He needs someone who he can have fun with but who is more grounded (his own Matilda). jmo

chasingpavements wrote:

agentcurls wrote:Nick seems to handle conflict better than Shawn....however, it doesn't make Shawn a bad person.

I wish Shawn wouldn't question Nick's intentions with Kaitlyn. If he thinks Kaitlyn is so wonderful, why can't Nick be there 125% for her? It's a little insulting to Kaitlyn, IMO.

I get the sense that given Shawn's parents' divorce (and how it came to be) he questions not only other mens' intentions, but also a woman's judgment.
Again, this goes back to Kaitlyn maybe reminding Shawn of his mother.

I feel absolutely robbed of KaitBoo romance. You just gotta know there was some wonderful stuff cut to the editing room floor. Shame on you, tptb.

I'm sure that's true, but, then, I feel like he should get some serious therapy before entering into a long-term relationship. You just can't have a healthy relationship if you basically think that your partner is stupid and unable to make wise decisions on her own. I don't think that not being able to handle conflict makes Shawn a bad person, I just think it makes him a bad romantic partner. I've seen men (and women) like that and their relationships are dysfunctional to the MAX. Either the couple is fighting all the time (and because they are just attacking each other and not really expressing feelings, nothing ever gets resolved) or the other person holds in his/her feelings all the time, not to rock the boat, which leads to resentment and passive-aggressive behavior.


Right now, I can sense that the latter is going to happen with this relationship. I don't doubt that they are seriously infatuated with each other, but I think that Shawn has a lot of growing up to do so that they can have a balanced relationship.

Pandora wrote:

AllAboutLove wrote:Kaitlyn said Nick was different from the type of guys she goes for and he brings out a deeper and more sensitive side to her. She also said she wasn't sure about longterm with him... alluding to him being different from what she is attracted to and goes for.

Imo, from what Kaitlyn said and did, Nick blindsided her by how much she liked him because he is not her type at all. K liked who she was with Nick but was concerned that they were too different because she had never liked a guy like him before.

To me it is is just a repeat of last year... going with the safe option. That being said, I think the safe option was the best choice as I think Kaitlyn is too much of an "in the moment" person for Nick. He needs someone who he can have fun with but who is more grounded (his own Matilda). jmo

Sigh.  Yeah, we did hear this last year.  Nick was a surprise because he was not Andi's type.  Andi chose her type, even though it never works out with "her type" and shocker! it didn't work out again.  

The moral is that most people are bad at taking good risks.  I think that even if Nick is not the ultimate one for Kaitlyn, he's a better choice than Shawn.

OnePromise wrote:

Pandora wrote:

AllAboutLove wrote:Kaitlyn said Nick was different from the type of guys she goes for and he brings out a deeper and more sensitive side to her. She also said she wasn't sure about longterm with him... alluding to him being different from what she is attracted to and goes for.

Imo, from what Kaitlyn said and did, Nick blindsided her by how much she liked him because he is not her type at all. K liked who she was with Nick but was concerned that they were too different because she had never liked a guy like him before.

To me it is is just a repeat of last year... going with the safe option. That being said, I think the safe option was the best choice as I think Kaitlyn is too much of an "in the moment" person for Nick. He needs someone who he can have fun with but who is more grounded (his own Matilda). jmo

Sigh.  Yeah, we did hear this last year.  Nick was a surprise because he was not Andi's type.  Andi chose her type, even though it never works out with "her type" and shocker! it didn't work out again.  

The moral is that most people are bad at taking good risks.  I think that even if Nick is not the ultimate one for Kaitlyn, he's a better choice than Shawn.

With this in mind, I would love to see someone who is a risk taker in the position to hand out roses.  I do love Ben, but he will just another season of the same old, same old.  And certainly not something to top the past three seasons of this franchise. (Not that the farmer standing in his field was all that interesting.)  

IMO, Nick is the only one that will draw the drama that the producers seem to crave.  Just imagine 25 women to fall under Nick's "deceiving manipulations"...it will bring out the cat claws like none other before him.  

hdman wrote:Its time for Nick to walk away so he doesn't get hurt anymore