The Bachelorette 11 - Kaitlyn Bristowe - Epi 9 July 13th - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

BKay wrote:If K had seen the side of S that we saw tonight during his "talk" with Nick, she would have run fast and far. Can you imagine trying to resolve relationship issues with someone who won't let you speak, but just keeps yelling and over-talking when you try to respond? He couldn't express anything concrete, but was just emotional and acting like a school yard bully.

After watching this, she may think he'd never be that way with her, but I would bet he will. I've been there, done that and it only gets worse as time goes on.

He's sure coming off as a hot head. I actually give props to CH tonight for pointing out to Kait Shawn's jealousy and isn't it something for her to be concerned about. Kait is perceiving his jealousy as love, jealousy is never love, it's a control issue.

One night my husband was surrounded by women, another woman walked up to me as I was standing on the other side of the room and asked me why wasn't I upset, wasn't I jealous. I answered why would anything that put that glow on my husbands face upset me, he was going home with me.

You have to be confident in yourself first to be confident in your relationship. Something that both Kait and Shawn appear to be lacking.

Bottom line, Shawn's an idiot.

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rosesrREd wrote:

Mommyof1 wrote:This entire episode was just...yuck!  Naked Shawn, jealous Shawn, Shawn and Nick battling it out...again, crying Kaitlyn, Nick's Mom and niece crying.  Is this season over yet?  

That was actually Nick's sister. However, I felt bad for his family. They don't sign up for this show, and they are just concerned for Nick.  When you have a loved one that is hurt, you hurt too.

I agree. Probably the most emotion I felt all episode was empathy for Nick's family. They certainly foreshadowed the heck out of his departure next week.

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BKay wrote:If K had seen the side of S that we saw tonight during his "talk" with Nick, she would have run fast and far. Can you imagine trying to resolve relationship issues with someone who won't let you speak, but just keeps yelling and over-talking when you try to respond? He couldn't express anything concrete, but was just emotional and acting like a school yard bully.

After watching this, she may think he'd never be that way with her, but I would bet he will. I've been there, done that and it only gets worse as time goes on.

He's sure coming off as a hot head.  I actually give props to CH tonight for pointing out to Kait Shawn's jealousy and isn't it something for her to be concerned about.  Kait is perceiving his jealousy as love, jealousy is never love, it's a control issue.  

One night my husband was surrounded by women, another woman walked up to me as I was standing on the other side of the room and asked me why wasn't I upset, wasn't I jealous.  I answered why would anything that put  that glow on my husbands face upset me, he was going home with me.  

You have to be confident in yourself first to be confident in your relationship.  Something that both Kait and Shawn appear to be lacking.

Bottom line, Shawn's an idiot.  

Kaitlyn said jealousy is normal, but it clearly is destructive in any form. This relationship won't last, I'm giving this one less time the Chris and Whitney.

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BlackHalo wrote:

LenaActually wrote:Becca is live-tweeting the show. Looks like Shawn has at least one bff's approval:

Becca knows the secret is out.  So, why not support your best friend.  


Kaitlyn announced in periscope she was not allowed to wear that dress but did anyway.

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BlackHalo wrote:

LenaActually wrote:Becca is live-tweeting the show. Looks like Shawn has at least one bff's approval:

Becca knows the secret is out.  So, why not support your best friend.  

Maybe Shawn has a friend for Becca. They can double date!

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I just can't believe Nick came on this show again. Maybe he didn't mind gambling for himself, but his family too? His mom talking about how broken-hearted he was last time...how could he bring them into it again? I'd slap my brother s*^tless if he did it. Then being so confident. Bad Nick, bad. Love you, but damn.

It's so obvious tptb are setting him up to try to get THE big blow-up from him and the-azzwipe at ATFR. And if Kaitlyn really did the deed 3 times with Nick, then it was only to ensure that he gave a really HUGE reaction at the FRC.

BKay wrote:If K had seen the side of S that we saw tonight during his "talk" with Nick, she would have run fast and far. Can you imagine trying to resolve relationship issues with someone who won't let you speak, but just keeps yelling and over-talking when you try to respond? He couldn't express anything concrete, but was just emotional and acting like a school yard bully.

After watching this, she may think he'd never be that way with her, but I would bet he will. I've been there, done that and it only gets worse as time goes on.

See, I think she HAS seen that side of him. In this episode, when she asked him about Nick, he just started going on about how angry he was, how manipulative and delusional Nick was, how if she picked Nick, he would sleep just fine, etc. He never actually explained the eskimo brothers thing, and made it seem like Kaitlyn was the bad guy here for daring to question a man she's known for weeks. For someone that calls Nick manipulative, he should take a look in the mirror! He fought with Kaitlyn the same way he fought with Nick. He fought in a way that the other person simply can't "win", because they are not getting a chance to talk and they are made to feel awful simply for expressing their feelings.

Either Kaitlyn finds his hostility and aggressiveness attractive (unfortunately, a lot of women equate it to being an alpha male = hot), or she's ignoring all these red flags because she's into him.

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