The Bachelorette 11 - Kaitlyn Bristowe - Epi 9 July 13th - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

I don't know about this, in her periscope she said the needs to stop listening to her head and just go with her heart. I don't think she was that secretly attached to Nick but wanted to explore all the options because it was the "right" thing to do. Anyway, it'll be dramatic either way so I'm happy

She's been listening to her head all this time?? Oh ok...

Alanna wrote:I don't know about this, in her periscope she said the needs to stop listening to her head and just go with her heart. I don't think she was that secretly attached to Nick but wanted to explore all the options because it was the "right" thing to do. Anyway, it'll be dramatic either way so I'm happy

Maybe she needs to periscope how listening to your head and heart might be preferable to listening to your genitals. After all, if it weren't for making her vjay jay happy she wouldn't be addressing any of this.

Yeah, where did Kaitlyn get the idea that she's been too in her head this whole time? I don't think she's made a decision using her brain once during the process. It's been her heart and vajayjay leading the way!

BKay wrote:She's been listening to her head all this time?? Oh ok...

I find it interesting how the discussion has been how Shawn could forgive Kaitlyn for sleeping with Nick and yet Nick is the one who has now watched the show only to see that Kaitlyn told Shawn he was "the one" before she even slept with Nick and then Nick not being chosen at the end... makes me wonder why very little is discussed about K using and stringing Nick along (especially considering that many think K never liked him at all).

One would think if this was Ben H Kaitlyn did this to instead of Nick there would be a lot more sympathy for the guy who had to watch someone say someone else is "The one", have him sleep with her, propose to her, and then dump.  

I think there are a lot who are choosing not to discuss K's poor judgement and/or behavior. I don't know how long this will last as she continues to wear a sign as Bet indicated earlier saying "hit me".

Aunties_Love wrote:
Maybe it would of seen a "bit" different, but on the other hand, I have and still see her as wanting Shawn the most.  Nick was just a distraction and for me anyways a major annoyance.  He's the one that brought the drama and a poop disturber.  IMO, Kait has only been into Shawn for a long time now.  It was pretty plain from her reactions last week...she`s lost interest in him for long term.

Apparently he was more than just a distraction since she invited him back to her room after drinking whiskey together all day. She is so into Shawn that she had sex prior to the FS with Nick and apparently once again with Nick in the FS. IA she was into Shawn right from the beginning. She should have told Nick to leave but she was all to happy about him being there and giving him a chance. She has been more than accommodating to Nick for someone who she apparently lost interest in.

I think IMO some sleuthers had it right the first time and I was one of them, who questioned her SM activities, which she has since wiped. Jade was bad, but K was not far behind.

BKay wrote:She's been listening to her head all this time?? Oh ok...

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She is very impulsive, and she likes to drink. Put those 2 things together and.....I really don't think she is ready to settle down, with anybody. IMO

AllAboutLove wrote:I find it interesting how the discussion has been how Shawn could forgive Kaitlyn for sleeping with Nick and yet Nick is the one who has now watched the show only to see that Kaitlyn told Shawn he was "the one" before she even slept with Nick and then Nick not being chosen at the end... makes me wonder why very little is discussed about K using and stringing Nick along (especially considering that many think K never liked him at all).

One would think if this was Ben H Kaitlyn did this to instead of Nick there would be a lot more sympathy for the guy who had to watch someone say someone else is "The one", have him sleep with her, propose to her, and then dump.  

I think it's hard for me to feel sorry for Nick in this situation, because he went through exactly the same thing with Andi. I think that Andi knew it was Josh from day one. I think that she distracted by Nick and had begun to seriously fall for him, but I don't think she was ever going to waver from the picture-perfect life she imagined with Josh. So, I do think she "used" Nick and had sex with him for fun, knowing that she was going to choose Josh. I felt sorry for Nick the first time, but I think that if he fell for that again, it's on him.

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AllAboutLove wrote:I find it interesting how the discussion has been how Shawn could forgive Kaitlyn for sleeping with Nick and yet Nick is the one who has now watched the show only to see that Kaitlyn told Shawn he was "the one" before she even slept with Nick and then Nick not being chosen at the end... makes me wonder why very little is discussed about K using and stringing Nick along (especially considering that many think K never liked him at all).

One would think if this was Ben H Kaitlyn did this to instead of Nick there would be a lot more sympathy for the guy who had to watch someone say someone else is "The one", have him sleep with her, propose to her, and then dump.  

I think it's hard for me to feel sorry for Nick in this situation, because he went through exactly the same thing with Andi. I think that Andi knew it was Josh from day one. I think that she distracted by Nick and had begun to seriously fall for him, but I don't think she was ever going to waver from the picture-perfect life she imagined with Josh. So, I do think she "used" Nick and had sex with him for fun, knowing that she was going to choose Josh. I felt sorry for Nick the first time, but I think that if he fell for that again, it's on him.

Just curious:
If a gal friend of yours briefly dated a guy, had sex and was dumped by him, would you have any sympathy for her? Probably, right?
What if the following year she dated a second guy, had sex and was dumped by him, too? Would you then tell her 'It's on you. No more sympathy from me"?
Does it depend on the circumstances? Does it matter if your friend is a gal or a guy? Is it because it was televised?
These are all just things I ponder. No one right answer, just different perspectives. IMO