Nick Viall - Bachelorette 11 - *Spoilers - Sleuthing* - Discussion #5

Found this video:
https://gma.yahoo.com/video/bachelorette-sneak-peek-kaitlyns-intense-230845441.html

Some people do not want a person to know every part of them. Kaitlyn is a surface level type of person; Nick would seem too intense for her.

Kashathediva wrote:Kindness costs nothing. Being gracious is simply good manners. Those are things that come with maturity. Hopefully those things were incorporated.

Amen, Kasha. From your mouth to god's ear.

Kashathediva wrote:Kindness costs nothing. Being gracious is simply good manners. Those are things that come with maturity. Hopefully those things were incorporated.

Amen, Kasha.  From your mouth to god's ear.

It's nice to be liked enough that I get repeated! 
JMOAA, but if K has to word her answers in order to protect her relationship with anyone, there is not much of a relationship. Trust, mutual respect, kindness, honesty. Those are things most want in a partner vs hearing what we want to hear to keep the peace.

eliza3 wrote:I think his SM is totally self serving.  I think he is looking to have people like HIM and by supporting her he is looking for people to think he is a good guy.

Ummm... He IS a good guy!

SueSt wrote:

eliza3 wrote:I think his SM is totally self serving.  I think he is looking to have people like HIM and by supporting her he is looking for people to think he is a good guy.

Ummm... He IS a good guy!

I understand that's the way you view him…I don't

Kashathediva wrote:It's nice to be liked enough that I get repeated! 

Haha my PC is down using my mobile ...so that's what you get!

happydays wrote:Still can be nice though...she had no problem describing the other guys with flattering words

IA it's not flattering but if you watch the clip, it's like she really isn't sure what to say and just honestly says what comes to mind. She's a kind person, I don't see her ever being unkind on purpose, including here. Thoughtless, yes, unkind, no.

Kashathediva wrote:

happydays wrote:Still can be nice though...she had no problem describing the other guys with flattering words

Yeah, kindness doesn't cost anything. 
Usually when someone is not kind or nice, they're feeling backed up against a wall, feeling on the defense or feeling guilty. Unless they are just not a nice person to begin with, JMOAA.

Interesting you brought this up, I remember in the body language thread, it was sleuthed that K was using the microexpression of guilt when talking about Nick in an eonline interview I think

Alanna wrote:

happydays wrote:Still can be nice though...she had no problem describing the other guys with flattering words

IA it's not flattering but if you watch the clip, it's like she really isn't sure what to say and just honestly says what comes to mind. She's a kind person, I don't see her ever being unkind on purpose, including here. Thoughtless, yes, unkind, no.

Just watched the clip with Ben H and Kaitlyn has the exact same expression on her face with Ben as she does Nick. (Actually, upon rewatching it is a bit worse with Ben. Definitely RBF).

As for being thoughtless, for me I guess that is part of being unkind. Will see once FRC ceremony comes whether it extends that far.

I think only time will tell who's the good person, who is kind, who is intense, etc etc. We just have to wait and see how long K and S will stay together. Remember some used to think last Ette and her chosen one was one of the greatest love stories of this franchise? and Some thought Chris S was Dee' second choice?
BTW, I am glad we get to see K's reactions to Nick now. I hope Nick gets it after viewing and reading all the interviews, don't hold your hope you will get a second chance with K.