Ben Higgins - Bachelorette 11 - *Spoilers - Sleuthing* - Discussion #2

AllAboutLove wrote:
So weird and gross, imo to ask someone that question. Not funny at all as Kaitlyn tweeted was her reason for doing so. Especially since she had slept with Nick was talking about sex with Shawn and then trying to almost make it known she didn't see Ben as a sexual person at all - like she never desired him since he had to be a "virgin" if he wasn't all physical. Icky, imo.

I didn't read the situation like that. To me, Ben took her off guard when he mentioned talking all night. And bc she's an incredibly physical person as we all have seen, she had flashbacks of last season where there were 2 virgins and wondered is he the virgin on her season. I don't think she meant it to be emasculating to Ben (although it was .). Besides she has commented all season on how extremely handsome he is

loveactually9 wrote:

AllAboutLove wrote:
So weird and gross, imo to ask someone that question. Not funny at all as Kaitlyn tweeted was her reason for doing so. Especially since she had slept with Nick was talking about sex with Shawn and then trying to almost make it known she didn't see Ben as a sexual person at all - like she never desired him since he had to be a "virgin" if he wasn't all physical. Icky, imo.

I didn't read the situation like that. To me, Ben took her off guard when he mentioned talking all night. And bc she's an incredibly physical person as we all have seen, she had flashbacks of last season where there were 2 virgins and wondered is he the virgin on her season. I don't think she meant it to be emasculating to Ben (although it was .). Besides she has commented all season on how extremely handsome he is

Yeah, I took it as her being disappointed because she wanted to take her chance to do "fiance type stuff" with him before getting engaged to Shawn. Which is pretty gross and demeaning on a completely different level, but hey! And I fully expect his Bachelor contract to be signed the day after his elimination airs, because this episode was a clear set-up for him being the next lead.

AmyB wrote:

loveactually9 wrote:

AllAboutLove wrote:
So weird and gross, imo to ask someone that question. Not funny at all as Kaitlyn tweeted was her reason for doing so. Especially since she had slept with Nick was talking about sex with Shawn and then trying to almost make it known she didn't see Ben as a sexual person at all - like she never desired him since he had to be a "virgin" if he wasn't all physical. Icky, imo.

I didn't read the situation like that. To me, Ben took her off guard when he mentioned talking all night. And bc she's an incredibly physical person as we all have seen, she had flashbacks of last season where there were 2 virgins and wondered is he the virgin on her season. I don't think she meant it to be emasculating to Ben (although it was .). Besides she has commented all season on how extremely handsome he is

Yeah, I took it as her being disappointed because she wanted to take her chance to do "fiance type stuff" with him before getting engaged to Shawn. Which is pretty gross and demeaning on a completely different level, but hey! And I fully expect his Bachelor contract to be signed the day after his elimination airs, because this episode was a clear set-up for him being the next lead.

I agree which irks me. She's knows she's not picking him yet she wants to bang him anyway? He's isn't there for a hookup Kaitlyn.

loveactually9 wrote:

AllAboutLove wrote:
So weird and gross, imo to ask someone that question. Not funny at all as Kaitlyn tweeted was her reason for doing so. Especially since she had slept with Nick was talking about sex with Shawn and then trying to almost make it known she didn't see Ben as a sexual person at all - like she never desired him since he had to be a "virgin" if he wasn't all physical. Icky, imo.

I didn't read the situation like that. To me, Ben took her off guard when he mentioned talking all night. And bc she's an incredibly physical person as we all have seen, she had flashbacks of last season where there were 2 virgins and wondered is he the virgin on her season. I don't think she meant it to be emasculating to Ben (although it was .). Besides she has commented all season on how extremely handsome he is

Those reasons are exactly why I think it is icky. jmo

The entire convo with Ben just highlighted K's immaturity to me. Hopefully there was more of substance that was left on the cutting room floor, but the way it was edited was meant to make a statement about the person K is, imo.

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Can I just say Ben H is the coolest. Total babe, calm head and all round good dude. Sign me up if he is the bach!

I love him too. I think we need to change our avis! Sorry Nick.

I just love this guy. I want him to meet Becca.

BowenAnderson wrote:I just love this guy. I want him to meet Becca.

No please.

I'm not seeing the Ben/Becca thing either. And I do believe he's aiming for next bachelor.

Ben is a cutie-pie, no doubt about it. Seems like a kind and level-headed man
It concerns me how he's been portrayed as very one-dimensional. I hope he can be more dynamic as a lead and less, well, bland.
Also, to be lovable, as he addresses his concerns about being unlovable, you have to be less guarded and vulnerable. I haven't seen this from him yet.
I'm open to being pleasantly surprised by him come January 2016.
He is nice to look at: