Kaitlyn Bristowe - Shawn Booth - Bachelorette 11 - *Spoilers - Sleuthing* - Discussion

^ This! 

The thing for me we ask these people who were on the show to let things go, the ones that actually lived through it.... But others on the sidelines can't let things go either, I don't have a problem with any of them saying whatever they want, they are human, it seems like once you go on a reality show, you are not suppose to have feelings or be human....

Ladybug82 wrote:I really wanted to be a fan (as much a fan as I can be, since I refuse to get invested in anyone person or couple from the show anymore).  I liked Kaitlyn last season and was excited for a fun, snarky light hearted season of her.  I liked Shawn the first few episodes.  Then, it all spiraled into one big drama, melt down, crying, sex filled mess...which I no longer wanted to watch and couldn't wait for it to end.

I honestly was hoping to see a cute happy couple come out (at the AFTR and following media rounds), be gracious to Nick about being heartbroken and show that all 3 had moved on and were in a good place.  Instead, we got Shawn still not being able to let go of his issues with or nice to Nick, even though he did indeed get the girl.  Kaitlyn acting as if the whole relationship with Nick was a joke and didn't happen, which no one is buying.  We have eyes and saw how you were on the show, let alone the great sleuthers, here, who pieced it all together before Nick arrived in NYC.  While Nick may have pushed a little more than he should've, he was kind and gracious to all...and he's supposed to be the villain.

I wish them all well moving forward and a life time of happiness, together, apart or whatever happens.  But I have no interest in keeping up with them from here on out.  If you don't want to be attacked or cyber bullied, stop doing it to others yourself.  Grow up, show a little compassion and graciousness, and you might start winning back over those of us you lost along the way.  JMHO.

Great post. I totally agree.

luvlady345 wrote:The thing for me we ask these people who were on the show to let things go, the ones that actually lived through it....  But others on the sidelines can't let things go either, I don't have a problem with any of them saying whatever they want, they are human, it seems like once you go on a reality show, you are not suppose to have feelings or be human....

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luvlady345 wrote:The thing for me we ask these people who were on the show to let things go, the ones that actually lived through it....  But others on the sidelines can't let things go either, I don't have a problem with any of them saying whatever they want, they are human, it seems like once you go on a reality show, you are not suppose to have feelings or be human....

Exactly, that's why everyone was so cool with Nick asking Andi why she banged him and then got engaged to another guy like 3 days later. Oh, wait.

chasingpavements wrote:

luvlady345 wrote:The thing for me we ask these people who were on the show to let things go, the ones that actually lived through it....  But others on the sidelines can't let things go either, I don't have a problem with any of them saying whatever they want, they are human, it seems like once you go on a reality show, you are not suppose to have feelings or be human....

Exactly, that's why everyone was so cool with Nick asking Andi why she banged him and then got engaged to another guy like 3 days later. Oh, wait.

LOL, YUP, sure was ..... Yes, like I don't have a problem with Andi, not liking Nick because of it......

luvlady345 wrote:

chasingpavements wrote:

luvlady345 wrote:The thing for me we ask these people who were on the show to let things go, the ones that actually lived through it....  But others on the sidelines can't let things go either, I don't have a problem with any of them saying whatever they want, they are human, it seems like once you go on a reality show, you are not suppose to have feelings or be human....

Exactly, that's why everyone was so cool with Nick asking Andi why she banged him and then got engaged to another guy like 3 days later. Oh, wait.

LOL, YUP, sure was .....  Yes, like I don't have a problem with Andi, not liking Nick because of it......

But as you mentioned, Nick is a human too, he has every right to ask any questions to get closure, in both seasons.
If the final couple is entitled to talk mean about the F2, I dont think the F2 should be less entitled to be sad and wanting closure. 
IMO as always.

its not like nick is taking the high road either. he keeps bashing them in different mags.... people and us weekly come to mind.

luvlady345 wrote:The thing for me we ask these people who were on the show to let things go, the ones that actually lived through it....  But others on the sidelines can't let things go either, I don't have a problem with any of them saying whatever they want, they are human, it seems like once you go on a reality show, you are not suppose to have feelings or be human....

I guess I have to both agree and disagree.  Yes, we are all human and beautifully flawed, but we all need to be able to deal with and own those flaws.  I think people can say what they want as long as they're ready and willing to deal with the consequences and repercussions.  And most that are really controversial seem to be able to dish out the ugly and rude really well, but they can't take the heat that follow and often seem surprised they're receiving it.  

I was raised to say please and thank you, yes/no sir and m'am and in general to have manners.  So, I don't actually think you (a general you, not you specifically) should say everything you think.  Yes, you have the right and ability to, but there are somethings that should just be thought and not actually said aloud.  Yes, often times my snark, sarcasm and temper get the best of me on the board and real life and I say things that I shouldn't and regret later.  But I take responsibility for them, no matter how much I don't want to at times.  If I can't control the snark, sarcasm or temper, I confide in trusted friends and family...not tweet about it, write blogs or do multiple interviews on it.  Agreeing to disagree or learning to forgive and forget in order to move on is an important part of life.    

Sometimes, it surprises me at the lack of feels and manners these people show to each other, leads and the guys/girls alike.  And I'm not too much older than most that go on the show.  Maybe it's because I was raised in the rural south, where its more expected, but if I acted like some did, my parents would still come up with some sort of punishment for my lack of thought, decency and manners even as a grown adult.  

As always, this is all JMHO.  

I think our society in general, not just the leads on this show, have fewer manners than before.

I've seen a few posts saying Kaitlyn or K/S were "bullying" Nick and I have no clue what that's about. Have I missed something? I saw a couple of jokes about him throwing the ring. As far as underplaying Kaitlyn's feelings about the f2 what would you expect her to say? None of the leads will admit to having strong feelings for the f2 right up until the end and in most cases that's not even true. I'd probably be re-writing history also if I was stupid enough to do the show which I'm not. This will all die down now and there won't be questions about Nick and no interviews for anyone. And then there's BIP. I'm so ready. :Nod:

They have done several interviews, dissing Nick.

Kaitlyn said she brought him to F2 to give him a chance to say what he wanted to say because he didn't have that chance with Andi. Fine, let him say how much he loves you and then turf him. No different then any other F2.

What's different is she told him numerous times she loved him. She invited him to his room, they has sex several times according to rumours, they had off camera time, fine, everyone apparently sneaks around and screws around.

But, don't pretend you didn't lust after him, don't pretend there wasn't anything there, don't make fun of him, don't make jokes that the ring toss was funny, right after you dumped him and made it clear you used him like a useless human being, stop talking like Shawn. Convince your fiance that it's unnecessary to act like the popular foot ball player who got the prom queen.

Nick said "Shawn Really Enjoys My Misfortune". That's not dissing him IMO that is a sad fact. K should be embarrassed that S is behaving this way but apparently she only has a mind of her own when it suits her.

I just can't stand the rudeness, for no reason. Another fiance who had no issue having sex with someone who wasn't their F1, and it's Nick's fault.