Married At First Sight - Season 2 - Ryan DeNino - Jessica Castro - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

trulyatfirstsight wrote:Hi. ......................snipped Most of all I feel for Davina - I could NEVER get my head around the fact that she took so much hate for setting a bottom line and sticking to it. This says a lot about how we view women in this society - women simply are supposed to be the ones to sacrifice. They're not supposed to advocate for themselves clearly. A relationship is NOT 50/50 on every single issue. Over the relationship as a whole - possibly - but on each issue? Are people for real?! I in fact moved to make it work with my husband - and I moved FAR. But you can bet your azz I held my ground on other issues - and I held firm and we worked it out. I smh at the ridiculous load of crap she has had to weather. And I call it out for what it is - women-hating crap (and thats true whether it comes from men or women). Women everywhere can take something from her - stand by what you need for yourself - dont bloody apologise for it - its not for anyone else to say what your deal-breakers are. It amazes me that folks think they get to have a say in what works for her life. Would they rather she gave on it and got bitter later? Either way she's a bitch right? Villain edit indeed. I am not a litigious person by nature but I hope these women SUE SUE SUE. And in the sueing I hope these professionals have to account for their irresponsibility, posturing and hubris. Someone needs to write legit journalistic expose on this entire matter.

Really grateful to the whiste-blowers () / people in the know for coming forward and shining a light.

OUT!

While there are most parts of your post I agree with and first and foremost hold the "so called" experts to blame, I personally do not believe that Davina was a good candidate to be matched.  I say this because she had the new apartment as a non negotiable, as in remaining in NYC.  Regardless of the other unusual aspects of coupling this way, this presents a different wrinkle than if some one said "I only want  to be matched with a specific religious affiliation",  religious beliefs often come from years of tradition and deep held values.  Given the circumstances, a guy would need to be moving into her apartment without benefit of that being part of his choice.  I think that could present an obstacle for some men, similar to the way Ryan wanted to pay for the food.  Regardless of how you feel about that, I simply see it as one more potential obstacle, when as many as can be removed should be.  I honestly didn't think either of them were ready to be a partner in a marriage as neither were willing to compromise.

Jerseynurse wrote: to the thread Shellnz4! Sit back and enjoy the craziness! The reunion show is sure to answer a lot of the questions we have!

GeminiDeb wrote:

While there are most parts of your post I agree with and first and foremost hold the "so called" experts to blame, I personally do not believe that Davina was a good candidate to be matched.  I say this because she had the new apartment as a non negotiable, as in remaining in NYC.  Regardless of the other unusual aspects of coupling this way, this presents a different wrinkle than if some one said "I only want  to be matched with a specific religious affiliation",  religious beliefs often come from years of tradition and deep held values.  Given the circumstances, a guy would need to be moving into her apartment without benefit of that being part of his choice.  I think that could present an obstacle for some men, similar to the way Ryan wanted to pay for the food.  Regardless of how you feel about that, I simply see it as one more potential obstacle, when as many as can be removed should be.  I honestly didn't think either of them were ready to be a partner in a marriage as neither were willing to compromise.

But Davina was honest from the get go.  Sean said he was willing and then bitched and moaned that it was too far.  And then he was even offered car service to take him back and forth and didn't accept it.