Drew Kenney - Bachelorette 9 Contestant - Discussion - Spoilers

hberry wrote:l cant get this new photo of Drew over to this place..need help

Annika & Alexa ‏@ak_erickson  2h  
Oh hi, it's fine that Drew from the Bachelorette is right next to us on the beach. #babestatus

Annika & Alexa ‏@ak_erickson  31m  
A perfect way to end my two month internship. Thanks @DrewKenney for taking a pic with me. [You must be registered and logged in to see this link.]

hberry wrote:

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concerned36 wrote:

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misticia wrote:

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Hotmomma wrote:Well team Drew..to me means they are for their son no matter of the outcome...

This is how I see it. I do not think it's a sign that Drew is F1. I am not trying to be a downer here. Drew has been my favorite all season. I think he's an exceptional young man. However, I do have to go with what I believe. Before Monday night's episode, I did think that there was possibility that it might be Drew or even Chris. For all the reasons that some here have said so well, I did think Drew had a chance. However, once I watched that scene with Des and Brooks, I knew that for Des it had only been Brooks from very early on. She did not keep her promise to have an open mind with the guys.  Maybe one could argue that Des said some stuff to make Brooks feel guilty, but her basic feelings of love for Brooks were quite obvious.

I have really enjoyed reading the posts from those who believe there was more between Des and Drew.  I do think she liked him and was very attracted to him. But it was Brooks all along.  The heart wants what the heart wants. However, I am not surprised that there were scenes with Drew that were never shown. For whatever reason, TPTB decided to give Drew a really weird edit.  They didn't highlight him at all earlier in the season. I have no idea what's up with that.

I am just glad that Drew has his family with him before the ATFR show.  He should be surrounded by those who love him best.

I never thought that was more between Des and Drew. But Des was more physically attracted to Drew than to Brooks and certainly very flattered by his infatuation. A such good looking and caring guy, who couldn't be ?

I agree.  I did think that the body language from Des was very revealing when she was with Drew. Just to make it clear, I did think that there could be a chance for Drew because of the things that you and others have said. I saw the same things. However, when I watched that scene with Brooks and Des, to me it became apparent that Des only wanted Brooks and no one else. The one thing she said that really stood out to me, was her comment that while she went on dates with the other guys, she really just wanted to be with Brooks. That was quite telling. After seeing that, I realized that there was no chance for Chris or Drew. It didn't make me happy either.

Someone here said something about a comment Des made to Zak at the MTA. She said that he has that smile that covers up what he may be feeling. She said that she also does the same thing. Of course, I am paraphrasing here. But it appears that Des can fake it to a certain extent. I do believe that she enjoyed her time with Drew, was very flattered to have such a gorgeous guy giving her this kind of attention.  I think she was pleasantly surprised that Drew also had a brain and a heart to go along with his great looks.  I think she was physically attracted to him.  But I believe that she set her heart on Brooks early on. After seeing that scene where Brooks dumped her, that was what I thought. I think it was a mistake on her part.  She had three great guys in Zak, Drew and Chris.  But it was Brooks all along.

I do think that Des has an immature approach to love. She has a history of choosing men who do not reciprocate; she hasn't learned yet even though she told Chris H during the first episode at her mansion that she had learned from this and wanted to find a husband who could freely express his love for her and communicate this to her. Ironically, she once again chose a man just like her old boyfriend (she might as well have kept him). And remember how she also cried over Sean, in a very immature fashion, with total lack of self-respect. Contrast her behavior with that of Lindsay Yenter, who took her rejection with such grace. Chris H alludes to the fact that Des has to learn from this in order to move forward. The problem is not that these men cannot express themselves, it is that they do not love her, something she is not able to discern like most mature women. What she has is called infatuation which is really an adolescent crush, typical for 8th or 9th graders. At her age, she should not even be thinking of falling in love with a man who has not strongly shown love and attraction for her. Women really fall in love with men who are first pursuing them. (since men run away from women who pursue them, )  Brooks tried his best to communicate that he was not on the same page with her. I could see during the last couple of Rose ceremonies, he seemed to be willing her not to give him a rose, please, please, please don't give me a rose. Des may have revealed that she wants only Brooks, however, she wanted Sean too but moved on quickly, recovered and went on to be the Bachelorette. The thing Brooks said that no self-respecting woman would be able to move past, is that he did not miss her during their times apart. That is huge. I don't see how she will be able to overlook that, it would be a deal-breaker for me. But I am obviously not Desiree.

Really great post!  

 

I highlighted some of the things that really stood out to me. I think Des has no idea what real love even looks like.  She is all mixed up and looking for it with the wrong men.  

The last part in bold is really key for me. That is the part that I could not forget and could not get past.  I understand that I am decades older than Des and have so much more life experience.  That is why I can say with clarity that I would not go back with someone who said that to me. Ever.  It is a deal-breaker. You know, some things can be taken back with a sincere apology and an admission that one was wrong at the time, didn't really know what he wanted, had to lose it to find out.  But there are things that are said that cannot be easily undone. That is one of them.

From where I am today, with what I have experienced in my own life, I would never take him back. But as you said, we are not Desiree. I respect that it is her life. She has to follow her own journey.

.......................sometimes you need to stop chasing the wrong guy, and let the good ones catch up to you..................

concerned36 wrote:FYI, they have posted on the Bachelorette website, the two finalists: Chris and Drew, along with Date by Date pics and videos.  Even though Chris had 2 1-1 dates, they have listed 8 dates for Drew and 7 dates for Chris.   as well as the 3 deleted scenes I hope folks will notice.
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Enjoy all my fellow Drew fans!

hberry wrote:thank you....by the way.. that kayak and bout ride with chris is after Brooks leaves right?...seems like nothing happened, maybe she didn't tell :giggle: