Episode 5 - 5/7 - Ready For Love - Discussion - Spoilers

Matt the match maker keeps putting jenna down about not having substance , considering all his girls for tom are gone I am questinoing his skilles as a match maker. We don't know what ends up on the editing floor. As far Sara goes I really think she has not givin herself enough time to mourn her late boyfrined , a year is not enough. Belive me its not. I fell Tim is getting Sara on the rebound.

cma

Matt the match maker keeps putting jenna down about not having substance , considering all his girls for tom are gone I am questinoing his skilles as a match maker. We don't know what ends up on the editing floor. As far Sara goes I really think she has not givin herself enough time to mourn her late boyfrined , a year is not enough. Belive me its not. I fell Tim is getting Sara on the rebound.

Two great points! I totally agree.

klisack wrote:

Matt the match maker keeps putting jenna down about not having substance , considering all his girls for tom are gone I am questinoing his skilles as a match maker. We don't know what ends up on the editing floor. As far Sara goes I really think she has not givin herself enough time to mourn her late boyfrined , a year is not enough. Belive me its not. I fell Tim is getting Sara on the rebound.

Two great points! I totally agree.

Isn't he running around with Ernesto and Eva as well? I wonder what his matchmaking thoughts are on this alleged "possible" relationship.

cma wrote: Matt the match maker keeps putting jenna down about not having substance , considering all his girls for tom are gone I am questinoing his skilles as a match maker. We don't know what ends up on the editing floor. As far Sara goes I really think she has not givin herself enough time to mourn her late boyfrined , a year is not enough. Belive me its not. I fell Tim is getting Sara on the rebound.

cma and thanks for posting your thoughts! I respect your opinion about Sara's time to mourn, but I'd like to offer a different perspective. From my experience going through a grief support group, every person in that room mourned and went through the stages of grief at different rates. Whether it takes people 6 months or 6 years, it is the right amount of time for them.

Sara could very well still be mourning late fiance or she could be ready for love, but she is the only one that really knows. IMO. Thanks.

Beeleever wrote:

cma wrote: Matt the match maker keeps putting jenna down about not having substance , considering all his girls for tom are gone I am questinoing his skilles as a match maker. We don't know what ends up on the editing floor. As far Sara goes I really think she has not givin herself enough time to mourn her late boyfrined , a year is not enough. Belive me its not. I fell Tim is getting Sara on the rebound.

cma and thanks for posting your thoughts! I respect your opinion about Sara's time to mourn, but I'd like to offer a different perspective. From my experience going through a grief support group, every person in that room mourned and went through the stages of grief at different rates. Whether it takes people 6 months or 6 years, it is the right amount of time for them.

Sara could very well still be mourning late fiance or she could be ready for love, but she is the only one that really knows. IMO. Thanks.

cma, I echo Bee's welcome. And, Bee, I agree with you. It's been my experience that the grieving process is unique to each individual so that there is not a set time frame or protocol (while most go through the stages of denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, it is often not a linear process nor necessarily a sequential one).

Not that we need a lesson on grieving, but I wanted to add that often when a loved one goes through a terminal illness, the grieving process starts upon receiving their diagnosis.

Beeleever wrote:Not that we need a lesson on grieving, but I wanted to add that often when a loved one goes through a terminal illness, the grieving process starts upon receiving their diagnosis.

And from I understand, Sara's fiance lived three and a half years after his diagnosis.

Maybe I'm too liberal for some, but I actually believe that people should not judge others by their way of living if those individuals don't harm them or someone else. (talking about gays, single parents, divorcees, working mums and stay-at-home ones, ...)

About time - I guess for everyone is different. When is the right time to have sex for the first time, to have a boyfriend, to get married, to have children, ... ? People should have an own choice.

Maybe I'm too liberal for some, but I actually believe that people should not judge others by their way of living if those individuals don't harm them or someone else. (talking about gays, single parents, divorcees, working mums and stay-at-home ones, ...)
About time - I guess for everyone is different. When is the right time to have sex for the first time, to have a boyfriend, to get married, to have children, ... ? People should have an own choice.

Happygolucky I am conservative and I 100% agree with this statement! People should be able to live their own lives they way they see fit if it doesn't hurt anyone else. I don't see why people get so bent about what others are doing (again if not hurting someone else) Just focus on your own life. I am just going to say this about grieving...Some people need a friend to help them through. Just because Sara is grieving about losing her love to cancer doesn't mean her heart is incapable of loving someone else. There will always be a place in her heart for the man she lost and she can still love the memory of him or even him and be in love with someone else. My heart goes out to her. Maybe this process on the show helped her move past the pain and let her be able to look at the memories with a happy heart and move on to love again. Maybe the show was kind of therapeutic.

Happygolucky First let me say I like your name. This is a forum to speak our thoughts about the show. I am not here to judge anyone, my Lord and Saviour will do that. I will respect your opinion as you should mine. So please don't judge anyone, and happy I still like your name.

cma :heyyall: oh sweety, I didn't mean anything personal with that post. I don't know whether I sound harsh/severe the way I express, please tell me, because I know I have difficulties to find right words (you have no idea how many time i have to check online dictionaries and thus for to write 1 msg it takes me 5 minutes if not more, ahaha), but I really wanted to say those things separately from discussion about grief (and about time, also because when I read/hear people talk about 30-something years old women not being married and without children negatively, as their own fault, as something is wrong with them and I feel judged, being one of them.)