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Kels0012 wrote:

RichLP wrote:

Kels0012 wrote:Where CAN I give a grievance about a particular post/person who is personally bashing me? I don't want to bother the moderators but I do believe I need to take action. When words such as "psychological" come into play, that is playing with fire. C'mon. Honestly? Don't bash a person on a forum for having psychological issues based off of one post. That is rude, disrespecful and ignorant. Nor should you ever bash a person with those problems anyway!

Unless you're lying on their couch and paying them $200 an hour, it's probably best to roll your eyes and move on... [You must be registered and logged in to see this image.]

Just because someone says something, doesn't mean you have to react to it, or even acknowledge it...

Which is why it is posted in this thread. I stated anothe OP too, but it hasn't turned up. I take any mention of "pscycho" analysis/behavior/action into immediate, deliberate thought. I have my agenda. I have my reasons. But I don't like being targeted as a pathetic poster who's life is contingent on a reality show and who doesn't know the difference between real/fake. That was ardently implied in the post countering mine and that is plain rude. I'm college educated, very well in tune with "psychological" issues and I take great discontent for the comments attributed to my posts. Yes, just a show, but don't subject MY opinons as unworthy of your own. I AM a confident woman (I DO NOT watch this show faithfully), wife, professional, mother and I COULD give Emily a run for her money in the body department. Just sayin. :) NOT as cute, but please don't discount anybody you meet online. Thanks!

I haven't posted with you any, I don't think, but please try to not let things get to you like you have this. It's not worth it and just brings more added problems. Not that your opinions aren't JUST as important as ANYBODYS's, but I learned that the more I let stuff roll off my back and just scroll/scrolled past any posts that are/were upsetting to me, the more I enjoy/enjoyed the forum here. People say things at times before thinking them totally through and are probably sorry for it later, but somebody has to be the bigger person and just let it go or we could still be talking about it this time next week. Just look at this place as a fun place to be and don't take things seriously. KWIM? Plus there's always the Foe option if you don't like what anybody is saying. : )

LoveDovez wrote:

Kels0012 wrote:

RichLP wrote:

Kels0012 wrote:Where CAN I give a grievance about a particular post/person who is personally bashing me? I don't want to bother the moderators but I do believe I need to take action. When words such as "psychological" come into play, that is playing with fire. C'mon. Honestly? Don't bash a person on a forum for having psychological issues based off of one post. That is rude, disrespecful and ignorant. Nor should you ever bash a person with those problems anyway!

Unless you're lying on their couch and paying them $200 an hour, it's probably best to roll your eyes and move on... [You must be registered and logged in to see this image.]

Just because someone says something, doesn't mean you have to react to it, or even acknowledge it...

Which is why it is posted in this thread. I stated anothe OP too, but it hasn't turned up. I take any mention of "pscycho" analysis/behavior/action into immediate, deliberate thought. I have my agenda. I have my reasons. But I don't like being targeted as a pathetic poster who's life is contingent on a reality show and who doesn't know the difference between real/fake. That was ardently implied in the post countering mine and that is plain rude. I'm college educated, very well in tune with "psychological" issues and I take great discontent for the comments attributed to my posts. Yes, just a show, but don't subject MY opinons as unworthy of your own. I AM a confident woman (I DO NOT watch this show faithfully), wife, professional, mother and I COULD give Emily a run for her money in the body department. Just sayin. :) NOT as cute, but please don't discount anybody you meet online. Thanks!

I haven't posted with you any, I don't think, but please try to not let things get to you like you have this. It's not worth it and just brings more added problems. Not that your opinions aren't JUST as important as ANYBODYS's, but I learned that the more I let stuff roll off my back and just scroll/scrolled past any posts that are/were upsetting to me, the more I enjoy/enjoyed the forum here. People say things at times before thinking them totally through and are probably sorry for it later, but somebody has to be the bigger person and just let it go or we could still be talking about it this time next week. Just look at this place as a fun place to be and don't take things seriously. KWIM? Plus there's always the Foe option if you don't like what anybody is saying. : )

Thank you. I'm pretty new to the boards so I appreciate said advice. I will PM you WHY I get very defensive about things. I'm sure afterwards, you'll understand. Sorry to all for my aggressive posts if you felt that way. Not the intention.

Kels0012 wrote:

LoveDovez wrote:

Kels0012 wrote:

RichLP wrote:

Kels0012 wrote:Where CAN I give a grievance about a particular post/person who is personally bashing me? I don't want to bother the moderators but I do believe I need to take action. When words such as "psychological" come into play, that is playing with fire. C'mon. Honestly? Don't bash a person on a forum for having psychological issues based off of one post. That is rude, disrespecful and ignorant. Nor should you ever bash a person with those problems anyway!

Unless you're lying on their couch and paying them $200 an hour, it's probably best to roll your eyes and move on... [You must be registered and logged in to see this image.]

Just because someone says something, doesn't mean you have to react to it, or even acknowledge it...

Which is why it is posted in this thread. I stated anothe OP too, but it hasn't turned up. I take any mention of "pscycho" analysis/behavior/action into immediate, deliberate thought. I have my agenda. I have my reasons. But I don't like being targeted as a pathetic poster who's life is contingent on a reality show and who doesn't know the difference between real/fake. That was ardently implied in the post countering mine and that is plain rude. I'm college educated, very well in tune with "psychological" issues and I take great discontent for the comments attributed to my posts. Yes, just a show, but don't subject MY opinons as unworthy of your own. I AM a confident woman (I DO NOT watch this show faithfully), wife, professional, mother and I COULD give Emily a run for her money in the body department. Just sayin. :) NOT as cute, but please don't discount anybody you meet online. Thanks!

I haven't posted with you any, I don't think, but please try to not let things get to you like you have this. It's not worth it and just brings more added problems. Not that your opinions aren't JUST as important as ANYBODYS's, but I learned that the more I let stuff roll off my back and just scroll/scrolled past any posts that are/were upsetting to me, the more I enjoy/enjoyed the forum here. People say things at times before thinking them totally through and are probably sorry for it later, but somebody has to be the bigger person and just let it go or we could still be talking about it this time next week. Just look at this place as a fun place to be and don't take things seriously. KWIM? Plus there's always the Foe option if you don't like what anybody is saying. : )

Thank you. I'm pretty new to the boards so I appreciate said advice. I will PM you WHY I get very defensive about things. I'm sure afterwards, you'll understand. Sorry to all for my aggressive posts if you felt that way. Not the intention.

You are doing great. There's a LOT of people on here and it takes some getting use to or it was to me when I first came here. Thank you SO much for taking my post the way it was meant to be taken. I really enjoy the board here and I want you to be able to also. [You must be registered and logged in to see this image.]

Can I vent about how sad it is that we have a vent thread? (sigh) It's a tv show. That is all. Anyway, I really appreciate everything that Love_Me and San do around here. I don't know how they do it, I'm just glad they do.

I was on the forum in the wee, small hours of this morning when the board went insane. I am beyond angry that some people seem to be unable to use simple common sense and courtesy when posting.

What truly angers me is the position that this whole episode put Love_Me and San in. They formed this board so that people could sleuth, speculate and have some fun and laughs while doing so. Yes, debating back and forth is part and parcel of that and usually it's done in a mature manner.

I don't understand how some people can care more about the feelings of Emily/Jef/Arie/Sean/etc.(people that they will probably never meet or talk to) than they care about the feelings of fellow posters that you have the opportunity to talk to, sometimes on a daily basis. Or even the feelings of Love_Me and San - I'm sure it was not easy on them last night and I'm so, so sorry for that.

It's a show - plain and simple, a show. If you're angry about something a poster has said then it's your right to respond but before hitting the send button, please, take the time to read through your response and make sure it's within the rules of the board and is not inflammatory. If something you read makes you so angry that you want to start calling people names - take a step back, do something else for a few minutes, pm someone you know feels the same way and vent to them or just foe the person but please don't put our mods. in a difficult position. They have lives outside of this board also and lately we've been turning this into a 24 hr. job for them. Not Fair!!!!

My vent and rant is now over and I'll move on. Thanks

just logic wrote:I was on the forum in the wee, small hours of this morning when the board went insane. I am beyond angry that some people seem to be unable to use simple common sense and courtesy when posting.

What truly angers me is the position that this whole episode put Love_Me and San in. They formed this board so that people could sleuth, speculate and have some fun and laughs while doing so. Yes, debating back and forth is part and parcel of that and usually it's done in a mature manner.

I don't understand how some people can care more about the feelings of Emily/Jef/Arie/Sean/etc.(people that they will probably never meet or talk to) than they care about the feelings of fellow posters that you have the opportunity to talk to, sometimes on a daily basis. Or even the feelings of Love_Me and San - I'm sure it was not easy on them last night and I'm so, so sorry for that.

It's a show - plain and simple, a show. If you're angry about something a poster has said then it's your right to respond but before hitting the send button, please, take the time to read through your response and make sure it's within the rules of the board and is not inflammatory. If something you read makes you so angry that you want to start calling people names - take a step back, do something else for a few minutes, pm someone you know feels the same way and vent to them or just foe the person but please don't put our mods. in a difficult position. They have lives outside of this board also and lately we've been turning this into a 24 hr. job for them. Not Fair!!!!

My vent and rant is now over and I'll move on. Thanks

I just skim over posts that don't set right with me and continue on my way. Water off a ducks back.

Edit- forget it Don't want to know.

Just curious

Did someone tweet MFleiss to complain last night??

What did they say? Did he respond?

Or am I totally misinterpreting?

just logic wrote:I was on the forum in the wee, small hours of this morning when the board went insane. I am beyond angry that some people seem to be unable to use simple common sense and courtesy when posting.

What truly angers me is the position that this whole episode put Love_Me and San in. They formed this board so that people could sleuth, speculate and have some fun and laughs while doing so. Yes, debating back and forth is part and parcel of that and usually it's done in a mature manner.

I don't understand how some people can care more about the feelings of Emily/Jef/Arie/Sean/etc.(people that they will probably never meet or talk to) than they care about the feelings of fellow posters that you have the opportunity to talk to, sometimes on a daily basis. Or even the feelings of Love_Me and San - I'm sure it was not easy on them last night and I'm so, so sorry for that.

It's a show - plain and simple, a show. If you're angry about something a poster has said then it's your right to respond but before hitting the send button, please, take the time to read through your response and make sure it's within the rules of the board and is not inflammatory. If something you read makes you so angry that you want to start calling people names - take a step back, do something else for a few minutes, pm someone you know feels the same way and vent to them or just foe the person but please don't put our mods. in a difficult position. They have lives outside of this board also and lately we've been turning this into a 24 hr. job for them. Not Fair!!!!

My vent and rant is now over and I'll move on. Thanks

Yikes! Not sure what happened last night as I only come on once a day now. I'm not really posting much anymore this season, but wanted to say good post.

I've found myself singing the words in my head, "Scrolling, scrolling, scrolling..." to the tune of Rawhide's theme song. "Rolling, rolling, rolling, rawhide" as I go by some posts.

LoveDovez wrote:

realityfan26 wrote:I think there should be a limit on the number of posts any one person can make in a day! [You must be registered and logged in to see this image.]
Whew - glad to get that off my chest!!

Really? Just curious and very nicely asking, what's the thought process behind that?

I'm one who reads every thread, every post. I like to know what's going on with all parts of the show. It's very hard to wade through the complaining about the "other team", "I agree" and fangirling. A little of each of those can go a long way!!

Piper61 wrote:I've found myself singing the words in my head, "Scrolling, scrolling, scrolling..." to the tune of Rawhide's theme song. "Rolling, rolling, rolling, rawhide" as I go by some posts.

must comment on your post: Great solution to the angst!